Very naive person when it comes to women flirting or coming on to me. What are basic things girls do that are flags that they are flirting with me?

[ByronWolf]

My ex would always tell me women were flirting with me or checking me out and I was oblivious the whole time.

[HiveBee]

Let's say a girl does a thing. You don't know if she is flirting or not.

Your girlfriend says "that girl was flirting with you!"

But let's say you come on here and ask about the scenario that played out.

I guarantee you 100% of the girls will say "she was not flirting. She was just being a normal decent human being. YOU as a man, need to stop being so self absorbed to believe that every woman is flirting with you just for being normal."

Do you see the conundrum that men face?

I think the answer to it all is basically, it doesn't matter whether a girl flirted with you or not. If you like her you can ask her out. You don't have to wait to see if she likes you first.

A lot of men are out there searching every woman for clues for flirting. Hoping he has an open door or window to go through to get laid or find a girlfriend.

And that reeks of desperation. And women hate that. That is why when you ask women if a woman was flirting with you, they will ALWAYS say no unless it's too obvious to deny of course. You can't deny she rubs her butt on you for example.

Anyways the lesson is don't ever be desperate. No woman wants to be with a desperate man. Never. It repulses them.

It doesn't matter if she flirted or not.

But then again, there is another side. If she flirts, you might wish you had the ability to flirt back.

That would be nice right? A girl starts flirting and you can do it back and you develop a liking for eschother based on that.

How does a man come to understand flirting and how to flirt back? That is the hard part. You can't teach a guy that. Nobody can teach you that. You have to learn how by yourself or so it seems to me.

[Avicenna]

Flirting, you need to observe body language like her eyes, how close she stands to you, whether she touches you, and to some extent what she actually says. Coming on to you should be very aggressive and therefore obvious- something normally only your girlfriend would do.

[SueShe]

Let's start with the definition of the term "flirting". Flirting is

"a sexual behavior involving spoken or written communication, as well as body language, by one person to another, to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person".

Now, we all know what "deeper relationship" means, right?

Thus, flirting is a red flag in itself because it simply means that they ultimately want to fornicate.

It will start with being touchy, ignoring private boundaries, being silly, making innuendos and inappropriate dirty jokes. That should give you a hint that you should distance yourself from those low key people.

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[Flatmanlewis]

There are literal scientific studies out about this and can be easily found on Google Scholar. Books on the subject. Also, a female “wingman” is the best thing in the world and if you can get yourself one or two of those they will open your eyes like you won’t believe.

[zagor]

I don't trust my perceptions when it comes to girls flirting with me; when I'm in a good mood it seems girls are flirting with me. When I'm down, none do. So I'm thinking it may be all in my mind either way.

[Pohjolan]

Women can't even agree on whether pushing their breasts against a guy counts as flirting or not.

Each woman makes up her own flirting without consulting other women and men have to deal with their inconsistency.

One gals normal behaviour is another's flirting and vice versa.

[In_Trance]

That's something you need to figure out on your own

[Anonymous]

What’s the problem if they flirt, they flirt if you’re single enjoy it