Why do guys assume that they are in a relationship with a girl?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

This sounds like something women are more likely to do. Omg he said hi, he smiled at me, he opened the door for me, he said good morning to me, etc, etc, etc. Than that statement is always followed up by what does that mean. Omg how do I get my crush to stop looking at other women? I’ve never known a man to assume he was in a relationship w a girl that he actually was t in a relationship w.

[Anonymous]

This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.

How can someone assume to be in a relationship with another if he didn't ask her?

She is still free and can date/text other man and he id not aware of it.

Plus, did he kissed/hugged/went on a date with her?

If the answer is "no" there is nothing to assume.

If he wants her to be in a relationship with him he must ask her! This is logic and coherence xD

[Asker]

You have absolute point...
What if they hugged and kissed already and do things the couples do.. does he have the right to assume?

[Opinion Owner]

It depends on the girl, many of my friends do it randomly and get deluded, what's the problem in asking the girl you like "would you like to be my girlfriend/hang out with me?" Is it that difficult? I mean we are not in kindergarten. I mean 20+ people at least if you want something meaningful. The worse thing is to have regrets in life and young years don't come back so take the shot.

[Asker]

Well not all men ask... they just assume things... maybe also the fear of rejection... maybe because he thinks the girl feels the same... because they are already doing what couples do...

[Opinion Owner]

This is not gonna work and everyone is getting hurt, if no-one asks here is just a big hole. Trust me I know it ends bad. Why not being honest? If you don't feel the urge to ask you don't care much about the person and you don't love her

[Asker]

So you think the girl should step up and ask.

[Opinion Owner]

No the man, he should do the first move

[Opinion Owner]

If the girl has to do it it means he is not masculine enough. I mean do girls have to do everything in a couple? xD

[Asker]

yeah, i know..

[Opinion Owner]

by the way you're from Europe and maid 20 right? xD

[Asker]

What? No.

[Asker]

What made you think that?

[Opinion Owner]

Good night ;)

[Asker]

Oh, i thought you are...

[Asker]

Good night.

[Opinion Owner]

I am who? xD.. this Informatics people.. but I know all the tricks xD

[Asker]

Thinkers are doers as they say.. i thought you are the maid...
It's okay, there is nothing wrong about that.

[Asker]

Yeah, i bet you know..

[Opinion Owner]

I bet you know too. Telepathy or technology?

[Asker]

I don't.. that's why i'm asking.

[Messiah89]

I think until you clarify this if the guy is an alpha he will try to take ownership of what he thinks is his, say in a. work setting or college etc where he thinks he may have competition.

[Asker]

So you mean, he is an Apha?

[Messiah89]

So with dogs cause it's more relatable, just cause a dog wants to be alpha or acts like an alpha doesn't mean he is one alpha is a earned title. Does that make sense?

[Asker]

No.. so you mean, he is not an Apha

[Messiah89]

Correct but doesn't mean he won't try. If you ever seen a guy tell a girl something an regardless of how the girl feels etc she does it that's alpha energy.

[Asker]

So he is trying to be an Apha..
Won't you think it is much more romantic if he just propose to the girl than assume that she is already his girlfriend?

[Messiah89]

I will be honest with you having been were he was im sure I was a nerd lowest on the poll, I watched how alpha boys got all the girls some fought over the guy etc. At the end of the day you might like it you might love it but alpha energy is about dominance an respect. An that overrides all emotions like love an like. If you want romance then tell him, but he may just have seen other guys doing what he is doing now. Is this making sense?

[Asker]

We'll yeah, i think you make sense.. like he wants to be an apha and take possession of what he wants but not really tough enough to ask her.. so he just assumes.. right?

[Messiah89]

Yes it's a hit or miss, in this case sounds like a miss, it's like a boy saying beyonce is his women an will marry her sure he can say it but does it make it true?

[Asker]

Yeah... well.. i think some guys are like that..

[Asker]

Dont you think intoverts are prone to doing such things than extroverts?

[Messiah89]

I still am a introvert an we are alpha in a sense of knowing you will will try such a move, extrovert alpha will try anybody anywhere anytime.

[Asker]

If you have a girl that you like, will you ask or just assume that she's your girl because it feels like it?

[Messiah89]

It isn't just reserved for animals it's in humans too marking territory claiming things etc it's in us we just don't fight like animals do an in the animal. kingdom tne alpha gets all the girls for himself is the only difference.

[Asker]

But in your case?

[Asker]

If it was you? What will you do?

[678987]

Here there's a point missing as (18-24 girl) said below, she might see or text with someone the so-called "Alpha man" doesn't know about so he is stupid and should ask clearly the girl "do you want to hang out with me?" only that point he can consider himself in a relationship w her. Also university/high-school is not full year and during the summer she is not there

[678987]

This doesn't make sense, like this it is Stlaking if the girl in question does not know he wants her to be his girlfriend. Moreover, she would think he is a creep and run away from him so this is bad strategy. Just ask her if you want to get something out of it, if not ur a loser and should stay alone ;)

[Asker]

Asking is the best way.. proposing even.. but i think not all men have got the balls to do so.

[Messiah89]

Honestly I have always been a alpha but I allow others to go before me because I never been intimated by another male not from hieght or success or word play I just be myself an it works I never had to fight over no girl but I have had guys think I was holding out on a secret stash of women because they seem to always be around an I am a late bloomer cause I was the nerd ghosted never could ever get a girl no matter what I did until I became myself that was the key.

[Asker]

Oh, good for you

[678987]

Well if as you said here like the girl "the balls" eventually come.
Would you like the idea in 20 years to see your so called" loved girl" be married with another successful guy who is not you? Eventually she might not love him as she loved you but 99.9% cases happens like this.

This is the end you'll do if you don't act.

[Messiah89]

If it was me I would want to confirm after all you are not in the relationship until the girl decides that's your power as a female. I made that mistake one time trying to be romantic etc bought gifts I was in middle school an when I found out apparently i was the little boyfriend an she had a big boyfriend that tried to beat me up for treating her better, what I ended up doing was making her realize he needed to do better lol.

[Asker]

Act what?
So if you're the girl, you'll just go with it?

[678987]

Exactly what I meant! You have to ask the girl "do you want to be my girl or are we together" if you don't do this point mentioned everything is in your head and if you say you are with her they call you psycho because there is no proof of your bond.

[Asker]

@messiah89
That is so sad.. yup.. better so ask than to assume..

[Messiah89]

I can agree he should ask an a lot of times the balls do drop when it's a girl on the line so boys become men when faced with rejection or losing out on something, sometimes...

[678987]

Also if you want to show she is "your stuff" and only you can touch her, you should give her something that belongs to you e. g. chain, bracelet or shirt. All couples do it

[Asker]

@678987
Yeah, it's better to ask, but not all men are like that... right?

[Asker]

@678987
Oooh, nice idea..

[678987]

Yes you have to ask point. If you don't ask it's in your head so, if you don't like the image of her with another guy (who is not you or the guy in question) you better ask before is too late. Please, don't have the regret and live bad your life. Just ask!

[Messiah89]

678987 when I was younger you could be a creep an a weirdo I have no idea what the game is like now lol but proof is reassuring in these times.
Asker: don't feel sad another thing I learned in life is just cause you want something don't mean you need it, it was not meant to be an i was lucky trust me I dodged a lot of bullets in life lol

[Asker]

Yeah, better to ask... but the question is Why?
Why do they assume things like that?

[678987]

because he either didn't have a relationship before/ be clueless or too naive maybe?
But no one reasons this way, I mean this is the basic of social interraction
Is he autistic?

[Asker]

Autistic? I don't think so.
He is some kind of a Doctor.

[Messiah89]

I still think he seen this somewhere an is just emulating it for a results, honestly I would ask him what makes you think im yours I could be someone else's, see that's how you know I been hanging around my wife too long starting to think. like her lol

[Asker]

won't he be offended by that?

[678987]

All this conversation is pointless and a waste of time. The things here are:
1) if you want to be with someone you have to ask and get confirmation
2) If you just assume you are a creep and everyone laughs at you

So ask her of live in the regret you're whole life
Good night

[Asker]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

Good night.

[Messiah89]

Sure he will but guys bounce back, to me it sounds like you like him some as well, so just be his then an see how it goes.

[Asker]

Just be his🤔🤔

[678987]

This is not going to work. You have to achieve things and put effort. If you lack effort the only end you'll do is alone with a cat.

If you can't say it to her, it means you don't genuinely love her and you have no anger in imagining her kissing/sleeping and doing stuff with another guy that could have been you

[678987]

Girls bounce back better than guys we have lot of options and know we cannot be replaced.
Even if the both parties made a new girlfiend and boyfriend they'll be however not happy and compare the new one to this one. So why not being together then and ask her?

[Messiah89]

Girls bounce back better than guys... how so?

[678987]

The thing is.. if you truly like someone you cannot bounce back easily.. for both parts not just women/man. You get my point? If you can bounce back it means she is nothing for you

[Messiah89]

What I meant in context to the question was him bieng offended as in men get rejected far more than women so we aren't easily offended.

[Messiah89]

But I do understand what your saying I never bounce back fast from relationships it does take a special. kinda person to be able to hop from. one to the next. Even though when in the moment heated an emotional I wish for the power truly I am not that way.

[678987]

Well, also women get rejected and it's even worse because she stepped out and took initiative. Regardless she had the confirmation she is nothing to him and can focus on other people /herself

[Messiah89]

I guess so.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I do sometimes daydream about imaginary girlfriends that I'd like to have or could imagine, however that's where I maintain reality and don't let daydreams break reality lol 😂😆

[itsclearlynicholas]

I don't let my dreams to pass the time some times, let me lose touch with reality hahaha 😂

[itsclearlynicholas]

That"d just be cringey 😬