How to grab attention of someone at work?

[Anonymous]

Guys I really like this guy at work and I kinda wanna talk to him or him to talk to me. How do I do that? I don’t wanna sound too desperate. FYI I’ve caught him looking at me quite some time

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some ideas to get his attention at work without coming on too strong:

- Strike up casual convos when you see him - comment on something work-related going on or ask how his weekend was. Smile and make eye contact.

- Wear something cuter than usual one day - not over the top but a new blouse or your hair down could look nice. Flirty without screaming "date me!"

- Bring in homemade cookies or other snacks to share with the team one day. Guys love food so it gives you an excuse to chat.

- If you know his interests at all, mention something related to what he likes during break time conversations. People love talking about themselves.

- As you chat more, lightly touch his arm while laughing at a joke. Friendly body language keeps things light.

- Say hi when he comes in or leaves. Being pleasant goes a long way, especially if others don't bother.

The key is taking it slow, being friendly without pressure. See if he starts making excuses to talk too over the next couple weeks. Good luck, girl! Hope it works out :)

[OfMiceandMen]

If you are at work and get the same lunch period, ask him if he wants to grab coffee sometime and chat-things-up. It looks just like a lunchtime between two coworkers, but you can get to know him better.

[Asker]

That would be weird no? We have different domains and I’m kinda new (been a month) and he maybe five years 🤧

[OfMiceandMen]

Okay, if you want to be less direct about it, see if you can get a few coworkers to go out for a beer after work, make sure he knows and see if he takes the bait.

[DishLady]

Don't get entangled with someone at work... it gets very messy if things don't work out. You don't want to sound desperate? Just wait for the guy to step up and speak up.

[Booklover_90]

Just speak with him like you would anyone else.