Girl I am seeing takes 12h-24h to text back. Is she not imterested?

[Anonymous]

Granted we dont really have much text chemistry we dont really flirt or have conversations but part of the reason is always waiting up to more than 12h or more for a short response from here often not even responding fully to my previous text. The only time were we had some sort of conversation flow in texting was when we were both drunk texting each other.

It makes it seem like she's not interested. And I know she usually texts more to friends etc. aswell.

On the otherhand she is always down to meet up which happens around once a week for a few hours. When we started dating it was nearly every day for 2 weeks but we were both free, no work.

Its getting frustrating and I worry about my little heart breaking bec I do start to like her. Would rather know before I invest more emotionally into her but feel like its to early to confront her with her texting behaviour.

[Anonymous]

I’m saying move on. If a man or woman is really interested in someone they will find time, even for a simple text. Even if she said give me an hour or so I’m super busy. I once dated this girl that I was really interested in. When I deployed I woke up around 2 am just to talk to her each day, even if it meant losing hours of sleep. Sounds like you’re the female in this relationship.

[BetaBucks]

If you're already sleeping together, then it sounds like this is just the way she communicates and that texting with you is just not very interesting. It might even seem like work. But in-person talk is easier and more entertaining. Just give her some space and let her initiate it more often than you do.

If you aren't sleeping together, she's not interested. Don't put in any more effort or emotions. Just let her lead, which will 99% likely be the end of it.

[Asker]

We already slept 2 weeks ago since then not again.

Thats true I dont text much even with friends maybe just every 2-3 days or once a week. There I dont care I prefer to see them. Just change my behaviour when I am interested in a girl.

[BetaBucks]

If you're hanging out afterwards and she doesn't want to sleep with you, I'd be a bit concerned there, my friend. Was it like a drunk hookup? Does she seem dull when she's with you?

[Asker]

Oh we just never initiated again. I guess her ego is a bit bruised. This was my first time having sex after ~2 years and performance anxiety was high. Made her cum but couldnt end myself and we had to stop. Last time I tried to initiate she said she was tired and we went for a walk cooked some food and she went home. Sounds dull but we had a great time so Im not thinking to much into it.

[BetaBucks]

Alright man, makes sense. I'm sure you're right that her ego was hurt. I've legitimately never seen anything bother a woman more than the inability for a guy to cum. Outside of outright cheating or the death of a loved one. No joke, my wife even brought up a story about this happening with her ex. Like, it has stuck with her for years.

[Asker]

Oh I believe you. She really hit me with that "I never experienced that before" aswell. She was really butthurt and I had to reassure her. Just sucks bec now I worry for next time which ain't really a good mindset to have for performance anxiety.

Women think we have wrong expectations bec of porn but then you have them believe we are fuck machines.

[BetaBucks]

100% bro 🤝

[DishLady]

Perhaps she's busy or something. If it were a guy everyone would allow 72 hours... why should a girl be any different?

[Asker]

It was the same when she had free time for a week. Ye I am generally not used to a girl not texting much or very slow. For me that was always a sign that she isn't interested which turned out to be true. With this its just different bec she's interested in person and clings to me when we walk and laughs a lot. I just always worry in the time between the dates bec of this inconsistency of showing of interest

[DishLady]

Well, I know that pre-cellphone guys would call a girl within three days... and the girl would sit around and wait for that call...

Then we had mobiles and everyone was feverishly texting -- or fidgeting with their phones till they buzzed... only to find that it's a spam or their mom mis-using an abbreviation or emoji...

NOW? It's only 12-24hours... go do something else and don't think about her too much. If she keeps dragging you send her the kissoff text -- "Hey, I get the sense that you're not really into this." and you call the TOD (time of death) of your association. Ok?

[Alli112]

Either a) not interested or b) interested, but doesn't enjoy texting

[OhLongJohnsoning]

Depends.

While she's still replying, generally people are VERY interested in you, will text back almost immediately.

I wouldn't write her off just yet, but, you'll want to 1. Make it more interesting or 2. Just simply ask her out at this point.

Girls windows stay open, but, not very long

[Account]

Honestly, yes.

[kwsmith2]

That's normal.