Girl takes long to text but is very invested in person?

[Anonymous]

This is my first situationship after my first rl ended 2 years ago, im rather inexperienced in the dating scene.

Been seeing a girl for around 7-9 dates within 2 weeks its going very well. Already stayed a night over at my house. What bothers me tho, its always me taking the initiative to meet up. she's always cooperative when planning a date and in person she is all over me but I hate that I always have to be the one to text her or I won't hear from her for over 8 hours and maybe more if I probably would stop texting.

Ik she's at her phone often from when we are with friends. Checking whatsapp and insta regulary from time to time.

I have interest in her obviously and know she's a bit insecure as she told me she had really bad luck in dating in the past 3 years as men kept ghosting/dropping her but now I feel like I am investing way to much or is that to be expected of a man? Its just strange bec my ex was always texting me so much that it was often to much and this girl barely sends me 1-2 sentences a day.

Is this some sort of stupid game, bec if I already start to feel a bit tired of it. Should I just stop texting the next time after a date until she is the first to respond? I feel like I am doing way to much and should maybe show less interest?

[Oliverlogan263]

It sounds like she's definitely interested man, but maybe just isn't huge on texting. Some girls are more into communicating in person than over the phone.

A few things that stick out to me - she's always down to make plans when you initiate, which shows she's invested. And when you're together, she's all over you. That's a good sign she's feeling it.

As for the texts, I wouldn't read too much into her taking a while to respond sometimes. Everyone's different with phones. And she did say she's had bad luck dating before, so maybe she's just a bit guarded still.

I'd say you're fine to keep asking her out, but maybe ease up on constantly texting between dates. Let her miss you a little in between. That way it doesn't seem like you're chasing. And it gives her a chance to miss you too and message first sometimes. See what happens if you wait for her to reach out after your next date.

But I wouldn't stress too much as long as the actual time you spend together is good. Some girls just aren't glued to their phone, you know? As long as the feelings are strong in person, that's what really matters. And it seems like with her they are. Just play it a bit cooler by phone and keep letting things develop naturally when you're together. Seems like she's liked what you guys have so far.

[DishLady]

She’s dicking you around….