Why is he continuing to flirt?

[Anonymous]

A coworker of mine and I have been friendly for some time now. Recently we admitted our feelings for each other, but in that moment he had stated that he doesn't date coworkers. Since then, he has become a lot more flirty. I've tried to keep it cool because of his wishes, but this increased flirtiness makes no sense to me. Why state that you are backing down, and then do the complete opposite?

[dudegreat91]

Probably wants to have a one night stand. Or like me, as I am naturally a flirt

[Asker]

A one night stand was also out of the question, not that I'm interested in that.

[dudegreat91]

Flirting doesn't mean much actually. But yeah I always advise people not to flirt at workplace

[Asker]

I'd agree with you here. Just sorta happened.

[dudegreat91]

Yeah there are lot of options outside of work for dating these days

[BarryLiverstone]

Because he knows you are into him

[Anonymous]

Why not.

[Asker]

Then we might as well go on a date, no?

[Opinion Owner]

Not necessarily. Just because he flirts doesn't necessarily mean he wants to date you.

[Asker]

So you're saying he used the coworker line as an excuse? Even though he did say he had feelings for me.

[Opinion Owner]

No. I'm not saying anything other than this.
If you want to go out with him and he's not doing the asking, ask him. If he says "yes", the cool. But if he says "no" then drop all interest in him flat and never play his flirtatious game EVER again.
He said he doesn't date co-workers. Now either he meant that or he meant the opposite of that. If he meant that then there's no reason for you to be wasting this mental energy unless you get a sadistic thrill out of it. But if he DIDN'T mean it he's obviously expecting more out of you. In terms of effort.