Is it wrong that I complimented a man's chest in the gym?

Question

I feel like I overstepped and could've made him uncomfortable. How would you as a man receive this compliment from a woman?

Makeushiver · Accepted Answer

I think what you did is great. Anyone would like to hear flattery, esp. sincere flattery When I see a woman who I think is beautiful ir is wearing something particularly becoming, I always tell them what I think. I started doing so about 5 years ago and I have never had a woman be anything but grateful for being told. I've been told that it is a very sexy way to approach women or so I've been told by the women I speak with. When I decided to simply tell a woman that I thought they were beautiful or if anything specific - e. g. green eyes red hair and malachite jewelry. Blue eyed blondes with sapphire jewelry, women with great looking calves wearing Louboutins; Never been put down and never ignored. The least appreciative say thank you.

The worst that can happen from what you said to him would be catching his attention if you are not interested in dating or hooking up. If either of those sound appealing then you have no down side. Perhaps a little vulnerability but nothing beyond that and I think vulnerability is the cost of living fully. You can tell me I have a great anything and I'd be flattered

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Nah at your age you can get away with literally anything (short of grabbing a man’s crotch you don’t know). Also I’m guessing you are at least semi in shape being at a gym (hence probably at least okay looking). You probably made his day.

But I have had much older women (20+ years) make comments about my appearance and body before and it made me uncomfortable (including in the workplace).

I was more pissed off at the double standard. I know damn well it’s inappropriate and creepy to compliment a 19 year old girl about her body at my age. Especially if I don’t know her. Even if I did I would have be very careful beforehand to know she would be receptive to a compliment like that or not. Chances are I wouldn’t say anything at all and try my best to avoid looking at her.

But again you are the safe category here.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

He was probably flattered as long as you didn’t come across as creepy. Guys don’t have the same ambivalence to compliments about their body as we would to our boobs.

dustybiker2 · Accepted Answer

He was probably shocked you went there and less upset.

Avicenna · Answer

Guys love these sorts of compliments. You might have caught him by surprise, though.

serious · Answer

No, I don't think you did anything wrong if you simply complimented him on his chest. You can only say you have overstepped it if you are in a relationship and along with complimenting him you touched him or his chest.

Otherwise if you are single and you only complimented him on his chest and you did not touch him then there is nothing wrong in this.

I don't have a muscular body or chest to receive this compliment but if I had one then I will just nod positively but say or won't react to it.

overlord337645 · Answer

honestly i fell like i would not mind and other males dont take this the wrong way but not everyone is working on the same track some males might take this as you like them or just want sex so be careful how you say it and how it comes off or you might end with a huge misunderstanding

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

Both, its like guys are the new girls these days. We are too damned afraid to compliment women in person today. We damned well know y’all get to s of compliments on dating apps and insta and we know if you really do look good you could make millions, sexual assault allegations and coming off as creepy or simpy aside.

If he was your age, you made him feel good. If he was my age, I don’t know about him but I would be uncomfortable.

Anonymous · Answer

If you were chubby and worked out and lost a lot of weight, would you be upset if someone said you looked like you were getting fit? He worked for his chest, so it's nice to be complimented on it. Might be a little weird if you did it in a sexual manner, but most won't care as long as you aren't too over the top with it.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I would like it. The only thing uncomfortable about it is my huge boner trying to shoot out my shorts to say hello.

hahahmm · Answer

No but he may have taken it as a signal you're interested in more so don't be surprised if he starts talking to you. Then again he may pretend it never happened.

AnonAndrew · Answer

It depends on what you said, but most likely I wouldn't uncomfortable. I'd most likely feel flattered and happy. :)

AyChingao · Answer

Not in the least. Probably made his day. Sometimes it takes guys awhile to process compliments they can be a little rare at times

Shiprex · Answer

It could be taken as offensive as men seldom receive comments about themselves and when it's about a part of your body, just like women, you may not appreciate it being noticed

Anonymous · Answer

Since women don't do it it would be unusual. Which means if she did it, 99 times out of a 100 it wasn't an accident. There is an agenda behind it.

IFdyourmom1 · Answer

It's not wrong to compliment someone, just have to watch how you're doing it. Just as you might find it creepy if a guy complimented you in the wrong way, we do too

andreasderjuengere · Answer

That's okay. What did the chest reply? As for myself... you can speak to any of my body parts.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

where are you working out where men can go topless? i don't think that's a thing

Brucewayne123 · Answer

Not at all. It’s always nice getting a compliment at the gym. I’m sure you made his day by doing that

Unit1 · Answer

nothing wrong with that

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Depends on how you said it but as long as you didn't sound like a stalker I'm sure it is fine lol.

glennos89 · Answer

It's okay. You gave his self esteem a boost that's all

Circushowcowboy · Answer

I’d be flattered. I think most would be happy to have the compliment

Likes2drive · Answer

Nah, guys don’t act like women do with those type of compliments so he was probably flattered

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think it's wrong of you to do, but I do understand why you feel uncomfortable or hesitant to do it/when you do it. It's kind of sad that this is where we've gotten as a society.

Staximus · Answer

If a girl said something like that to me, I would think she wanted to jump my bones

GlowUpGirly5 · Answer

Where do you chicks come from? These questions are ridiculous

GODBODY954 · Answer

He'll probably think you're fighting with him but I don't see nothing wrong

Crazzyyworld · Answer

all men are deceptive so they would think you are nut

In_Trance · Answer

Would you like it if a random guy complimented yours?

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

I'd validate how he feels if he gets uncomfortable with it.

Tomisworthless · Answer

Would it be wrong if it took it as a sign of sexual interest

KrakenAttackin · Answer

How would you feel if he complimented your chest?

princeofromance · Answer

No, you simply liked what you saw and let him know.

Phatso1121 · Answer

Why would a man be embarrassed or uncomfortable personally I'd be flattered if a woman gave me a good compliment

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Most men aren’t used to receiving compliments.

jackramada · Answer

I think it is wrong but if you know his men then depends.

Rimaisme · Answer

It's not wrong

lightbulb27 · Answer

Guys can handle although could ve weird.

RedTiefling · Answer

Of course not! Guys love compliments

Summeroflove · Answer

It’s fine

Anonymous · Answer

Small things amuse small minds.

blackeagle007 · Answer

Damned if we guys complimented a woman

Anonymous · Answer

Did you even want him?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Say thank you.

Is it wrong that I complimented a man's chest in the gym?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Is it wrong that I complimented a man's chest in the gym?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.