How does a woman get what she desires from her man?

[Booboolove69]

I need advice because I can’t figure it out on my own.
How do I get what my heart desires from my boyfriend in every way not just sexually?
Telling him what I want isn’t working, asking isn’t either. He isn’t hearing me no matter how I word it and I’m not the begging, nagging type of woman.
I do all I can, willing, to please him but even that isn’t getting me what I want from him.
How can I SHOW him what I want without asking? Without words? If at all possible.
No one knows everything so I’m asking for advice from other women and men alike.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If he won’t listen when you outright tell him, he won’t see it when you show him either. I hate to say this, but men of the gen X and boomer generations (assuming your husband is in the same group as you) grew up in a time where they didn’t have to put in a great deal of effort, or certainly felt they didn’t need to, in order to find a wife and live the nuclear family lifestyle they were taught to aim for from a young age. If he doesn’t listen now, he’ll only listen under duress, AKA when you threaten to leave him. Honestly, you should just divorce him. You can find better men that will give you what you want.

[dustybiker2]

You've probably killed your line of communication by poor attempts in the past. It sounds like he has shut you off. That might be hard to recover from.

You can try asking him of you can sit down and have a serious discussion with him. No judgement. That you want to ask him how he feels about a couple of things.

Be kind.

Then. Listen.

[Billlewis]

How can you get more from your boyfriend? Number one, stop worrying about his pleasure and start concentrating more on your own. Second, give your personality a slight makeover, and stop being so nice to guys whom you don’t have to. Finally, spend more time focusing on your feet, and get pedicures, etc more often. Good luck;)

[bowenw]

In my opinion you shouldn’t have to do anything to get what you want. A guy that’s into you should be making an effort to make his feelings known and doing what he can to give you what. If there are specific things you desire that he’s missing, you may have to drop some subtle hints.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[rebelkid]

Well I strongly feel that you MUST communicate with your man using words. I know you are asking how can you express yourself with out actually speaking it to him. However, excellent and direct communication is extremely healthy. Try scheduling some time with him whereas he is able to commit to, and sit him down and make it extremely clear about what you desire from him.
Just keep in mind you CAN NOT force anyone to say nor do anything he or she does not want to do nor say. I truly hope it works out for you?

[Shiprex]

Make a game of it perhaps. List things you would like together and then see if he is able to deliver at some point in the future.

[Makeushiver]

Push his head between your legs and don't let him up until you can't possibly cum another time

[SmileyLady]

Showing him what you want and if that doesn’t work, couples therapy.

[sirderpsalot123]

If you directly told him what you want, It sounds like he knows what you want and he just doesn't care.

[Booboolove69]

Why would he stop caring when he used to? I just can’t figure out what guys are thinking about

[sirderpsalot123]

Maybe he doesn't feel like you return the favor or appreciate him.

[Booboolove69]

I’m the only one pleasing him he’s not doing anything to please me he used just two weeks ago

[sirderpsalot123]

Has he been acting werid in general? He could be dealing with something you don't know about and it might not have anything to do with you.

[PaleDale]

Let him work you all over, then you'll feel what gives you the craziest pleasure

[StevenMcGarrett]

If you hinted what you want and told you want and he is still not doing it, maybe he isn't capable of doing those things? What are you trying to make him do?

[Fireguy17]

talk to him, ask him, and don't forget about his desires.
It works both ways!

[Anonymous]

It's hard to answer your question without some understanding of what it is you want from him that you're not getting, and whether they are reasonable.

[Notherndude84]

This man might not love you. If he doesn’t try then maybe the relationship important to him.