In love with my best friend but she loves someone else—what do I do?

[ViegoLover]

I feel like I'm falling in love with her, if I haven't already. I don't want to tell her because I know she only sees me as a friend, and I value her friendship more than anything, but her talking about this guy she's in love with hurts me. Especially since she is on the same situation with this guy as I am with her.

I am also going through a difficult situation in my life and I don't know if I can handle this anymore. I've thought about distancing myself from her a little, but I really don't want to because I care about her a lot and she's very important in my life right now. Also I don't want her to think I am only her friend beacuse I want to have something woth her, because is not true. I know if I tell her we probably can still be good friends as we are know, but I know myself and I am afraid I would act weird or will stop being myself with her.

I am asking more for advice here because I really don't know what to do.

[OneViewpoint]

You need to end it for your own good. She won't because you're giving her all the benefits of being there for her with zero effort on her part. She's not evil. She's selfish and she doesn't really care about you.

Here's the best way to slap yourself upside the head so you can walk away. Tell her how you feel about her and watch her confused recoil and awkward response. It should be easy to walk away after that and shift your time and energy into finding a woman who prioritizes you.

No blame. No hate. She's gonna do her. You need to do you.

Or you can sit there while she sifts through an endless line of guys who are not you. Your choice.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"she's very important in my life right now"

Isn't she very important simply because you're in love? If yes, then this importance is rapidly going to be a burden instead, right? I assume it's already the case.

She's your best friend for a reason, so she should certainly understand your truth when you'll tell her, she could very much feel also that something isn't right. Plus, while it is fair that you confess, it's also fair you do NOT decide on her behalf what she will do with your feelings

[Abbycado]

You don't do anything. All that will happen is that you will lose a best friend. The feelings aren't there. If you pursue and annoy her when she clearly doesn't have the same feelings, you will end up with no girlfriend (in her) and no friend.

[In_Trance]

This is exactly why men and women can't be friends