What Are Things You Notice You Naturally Just Do When You Are Attracted To Someone?

[SabinaV]

This is someone I know since before, when we greeted one another we found ourselves looking at one another and I just automatically held the hand without even thinking about it! Not to mention there were many people around us at the time. I sort of didn't notice the others anymore and it just happened!

[Zack-Bann]

You know when you give a kid his favorite toy and he starts ogling it and position himself between it and everyone else in the room?


It’s kinda like that but in a less “pushy” way.


I just notice myself doing little things, paying more attention.
Even in a crowded room I find myself creating a bubble with her.


And I’m usually very upfront about it too.


The only few times in my life I wasn’t, were the times I had feelings for someone I couldn’t have.
Either because she was taken or became we had some outside circumstances that would have made it awkward (or both)… (usually both)

[1-3-2-4]

This is pretty fresh for me but what I noticed was back in December I had a female who took short looks at me but acted very shy.. Fast forward about 4 months later I'm working next to her, so the quick shy glances got more longer to the point she would look at me and say what in a playful manner.. she started drawing little smiley faces or playful marks with a marker on me.. pretty much anything to get me to notice.. so one day I said the hell with it and gave her my number and she text me as soon as she left work and been talking every sense.

Even to the point of hanging out for 9 hours and her falling asleep in my arms.

[1-3-2-4]

Thanks for the MHO!

[TrueConfection]

I become self conscious and insecure. I get all paranoid that I’m acting weird and making my attraction obvious.

[Beckybooboo]

I know I play with my hair a lot. I also tend to smile a lot.

[Summeroflove]

This is the thing many people misinterpret because so many people pay attention to one single behavior and not clusters.

Playing with hair can be a way to release nervous tension because you like someone and can also be a way to get someone’s attention.

But guys should pay attention. Someone can also be nervous because they’re socially awkward or even they’re uncomfortable around someone and so they’re comforting themselves

[Summeroflove]

Best to also look for eye contact and how their body is turned and what way their feet point

[DishLady]

• Smile, chat, tell a few jokes. Nothing out of the ordinary that I would do for someone I'm friends with. We need to break the ice.
• Touch more. Typically, it's hard NOT to touch a person when you feel chemistry with them. We need to break the barrier.
• Let them into my space. If I feel attracted to a guy (who has good manners, is smart and kind, etc.), then I'll let him stand/sit closer and stay there. When I'm not attracted, he ends up literally at arms length or further.

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@DishLady How aggressive do you get with the touching?

[DishLady]

Aggressive? That’s not the word I would use for a feminine touch. I’m not some thirsty animal.

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@DishLady Well... what word would you use? And what are you touching?

Like an arm touch? Shoulder touch? Chest touch?

[DishLady]

Feminine touch by definition is light, comforting, sweet, perhaps disarming. Anything “aggressive” is masculine “get lost”/friendzone energy.

Think of it this way:

A girl who likes you playfully shoves at your arm/chest. It’s soft, almost shy, teasing. Perhaps with a light chuckle of a quiet grin.

By contrast, a female buddy will do the same thing but with gusto.. laughing loudly and perhaps making a sarcastic comment.

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@DishLady Have you recently started dating again?

You answer a lot of questions about sex, dating, relationships, etc.

[DishLady]

I’ve always answered questions.

Yes after taking a substantial break from any sort of dating — mainly bc im out-and-about for work ALL the time and don’t have time for dating — a guy I was connecting with as a friend got under my skin and now to shake him off I’ve decided to start dating again. I wouldn’t have been as vulnerable to his nonsense if I’d been dating a bit more.

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@DishLady is the age in your profile right? The way you talk makes you seem like you're in your early to mid twenties.

I thought maybe you had gotten divorced recently or something.

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@DishLady Kinda sounds like this "friend" really threw you for a loop, no offense.

What happened?

[DishLady]

Oh… I’d never call him a friend. 🤨
Wdym? It’s not like a person’s heart of character changes just bc of their age …

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@DishLady Well it sounds like you developed some pretty strong feelings for this guy, whatever you call him. If you decided to start dating again so you could "shake him off."

I guess I assumed that people your age are a little more settled when it comes to sex and relationships and whatnot.

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@DishLady Is all that still fun to you? Or has the thrill worn off because you've seen it all already?

[DishLady]

You're very chatty, kiddo. I don't have all the answers, though, and a lot is private.

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@DishLady If you're going to call me kiddo, should I call you ma'am?

Yeah, I'm chatty. Is that bad?

[DishLady]

@EveryDayIsPretzelDay Yes, I'm old enough to be you mother.

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@DishLady You're actually older than my mom. But it's not like we're being flirty.

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@DishLady Not to be mean, but I don't think I've ever seen a woman your age, and thought, "Oooh, I'd sure like to butter her muffin."

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@DishLady Maybe if she was a supermodel or something.

[DishLady]

@EveryDayIsPretzelDay I think you should give it a rest.

[ShellyB]

Well the awful truth is, it was natural and unintentional when I was like 15 or 16 but I realized what those things were (at least most of them) and after that, I would know if I was doing them and I could deliberately do them or deliberately not do them. It is all the normal stuff like touching my hair or posture (what I do with my arms) or how I look at them and how I smile things like that. What I mean is, yes there are some natural things that I would tend to do but I can also catch myself and not do them, or, if I want to, I can do those same things intentionally. Maybe that is just me though!

[Summeroflove]

Even if I’m nervous around someone I just met I’m generally more interested to keep the conversation going if talking probably also looking at someone

[NathanDavis]

I let them know... I don't play around with it, I don't do "hints", don't wonder or hesitate either... I definitely don't leave it to chance either

if they start seeing me every day, it's because I want to be there every day, lol

also, in person... moreso if it is mutual, because if it is not mutual, then I won't even entertain any ideas, and to me this now, comes naturally

[Tarifa]

Prolonged eye contact is usually a telltale sign.

[MissSunshine2]

I glance at them more often than I do with most people and I check them out from behind very subtly when they're walking away and no one can see me.

[kmg9150]

Flirt, banter, request their phone or give them mine for a number. I treat it like its the only time this person might be around me, regardless of the circumstances showing otherwise…

[ManOnFire]

Flirt. Big time. But I only start doing it if I've already been making her laugh. Once I see this I go all in.

[bobalife]

Very flirty and bold


Or I actually find myself feelin nervous, blushing, stumbling, & butterflies where my mind goes blank… 😭

[Alex-Snow]

A lot of eye contact and some gentle touching

[MrChinaski]

They are the first person you visually scan the room for when you enter, and the last thing you scan for when you leave.

[Nikki1989]

When I like someone, they know about it. I am very forward like that.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'm maintaining the conversation even if I'm running out of ideas/questions

[Anonymous]

Create excuses/reasons to talk to them/be around them.

[Hunter-40m]

I feel excited and have difficulty finding the right words even my walking style changes when she is around these kinds of things

[cranberrycattoystory]

Not a thing. Nothing... They may be perfect, but I'm not. Why'd they even bother looking at me? And everybody knows pretty girls are already taken by Brad, and would never even spare another glance at you...

[majd90000]

Since I'm single, this question is very difficult for me.

[Clyde_123]

I always text them. I give them time no matter how busy I am.

[Honeyateleven]

Wanting to give them your heart!!!

Wanting to be with them every second!!!

[Paige2006]

Hold their hand

[LiamJHayden]

Approach and engage.

[Anonymous]

I look at her very often.

[AnoManoJano]

I shut up and avoid them.

[robocop666]

talk to them a lot

[Marissa4]

How mu body react.