Suggestions on how to seduce a bartender?

[Anonymous]

So basically I go pretty much every week-end to the same pub and one of the bartenders he's really hot and nice.

It's a very popular place, so it's always crowded, and I have no idea how to flirt with him and to engage a conversation.

I would really appreciate every suggestion !

[pinknonsense]

That’s a tough one because I'm sure if you find him attractive other women do too….Im sure he gets hit on by sober and drunk woman or men lol. You really have to stand out…Maybe try go into the bar a bit before it’s starts getting busy. Obviously, once it’s starts getting packed he won't be able to focus on you because he has a bar to tend to. Maybe to display the hots for him right away ya know. Keep it cool…I have a bartender friend who I met at the bar that I'm a regular too. I thought he was cute and I decided to one day go in early before the crowd showed up. I was with a girlfriend so I didn’t look that weird….We talked and joked around with him. He was more focused on us and loosened up a bit since he didn’t have that rush of having to pour drinks. I then kept going in and just said hi and then finally he got my number…we hung out it didn’t work out but we are still cool.

[Asker]

Thanks for your comment,t the problem is I'm not the best looking girl around. I live on an island and girls here can be stunning.

I do try to look my best every time I go out but the competition is hard !

I'll try to go there on a week night or during an arvo, and I'll try what you suggested :)

[AustinMan]

Good suggestions so far. You will have to take the offensive. If he rebuffs you, don't lose heart. The boss there may be very strict. If you can't get a conversation going, write you mobile number down on a small piece of paper and pass it to him under your credit card or cash when you settle the bill. You can settle up anytime so do it sooner rather than later so you can gauge his reaction. You could include a note asking when his shift ends and if he'd like to meet. If he can talk to you some, just do the girl flirt tango: big smiles, bedroom eyes, lots of touching, great posture to show off you assets to their best advantage.

Let us know what happens.

[Asker]

Thank you for the advice !

Do you think it could help that I know one of the other bartenders ? We're not really close though.

I'll keep you posted about what happens next time :)

[kheserthorpe]

Guys try to do this a lot. Its possible, but difficult. Bartenders are often hired because of their looks, and their job is to be charming to get tips. So if you flirt and chat with him, he'll flirt back, WHETHER OR NOT he's actually into you at all.

Now the plus side is, the flirting will be easy. He'll flirt back because he's a professional flirt, and you're the paying customer.

So I'd be confident that the flirting will go 'fine' and won't be awkward. In any case, it will draw his attention. Then you actually give him your number, and either he calls you or he doesn't.

[WeaponZero]

My only suggestion is go when it's slow. You won't have a snowball's chance in hell of trying to talk to him or anything when it's busy.

[WeaponZero]

Also remember that if you want to get a man at his place of employment, it is VERY important that you be the one to initiate. It may require stepping out of your comfort zone, but most employers have strict policies about fraternizing with patrons. Because you chose to approach him at his place of work, it falls on you to basically do everything as far as initiating goes. That is, assuming he respects the rules of his workplace.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice ! The thing is I live on a small island so people here are much more laidback than in the States, in terms of job policy.

I totally agree with you, going there when it's crowded won't give me any chance. I'll try to go maybe on a week night and see how things go !