How long would you stay interested in a girl before giving up on her?

[Anonymous]

If you had a lot of feelings for a girl and she was only showing vague interest, how long would you stay interested in her before just giving up? Thanks.

[dondep]

It's hard to tell when she sends conflicting messages. Like, this girl led me to believe she was available; 2 years ago, we flirted a lot and spent hours every day on IM, then she drifted away, maybe because I was "unavailable" as I was living with someone but we weren't happy. So then months later she ends up with a guy that was persistent with her, who she admittedly used for money any time she needed it though she didn't - and still doesn't - have the kind of soul-mate status she and I seem to have, nor much of an interest in anything he had to say. So then I broke up with my then-girlfriend and moved out and the shoe was on the other foot. But then the guy she was with moved back across country last summer after living together with her for a few months, and she renewed our relationship. This time we spent 8, 10, 12 hours a night on the phone and this time I fell deeply in love with her. But the "official boyfriend" came back for the holidays and to supposedly pack up their stuff and either move back across country together with her or she would move back to her folks while deciding whether she would be with me or not, but since then she's been discouraging my affections, though she still wants me to "love" her and spend time listening to her. I can be persistent, but if a guy 'falls', he can't easily go back into the 'friend zone' and still give a girl his love so long as she's living with another guy. So she sends conflicting messages, sometimes she hopes I can 'rescue' her, but most of the time she just wants me to be her 'audience' and almost puts me down for my feelings for her. So now I'm trying to 'escape' but - when you 'fall' - it's really hard to break free. Since I'm only miserable now with her, for the past 2 months, my heart is teaching me to 'give up' and move on. So it depends on how deep his interest is, how long he's had it, and how encouraging a girl is about it. (Maybe I should ask my own question about how long a girl would keep a guy on a string like I am.)

[Phoenix1991]

Till I get a straight answer, I'm persistent but I'm not aggressive/ the pressuring type.

[toolt00l]

I agree with PHoenix1991.

I'll be hooked on a girl forever until I know for sure how she feels. Being led on sucks though. Most girls usually make it clear either way eventually