I really like this girl but hardly know her. I need all different types of help. Can you help?

[ayesh]

OK, so I'm in college and I am really attracted to this girl, I'm always thinking about her. I moved to this college a year ago and she is in 2 of my classes. I'm a very funny, normal personality with friends is what I've heard but near girls I'm not to good. Especially ones which I like aka this one. I don't know her a lot just had a hi around the place. don't sit next to her because in one class she has a few friends(food) and the other, alone. I want to talk and get to know her but I just can't get the courage to do it because I think ill mess up and she would think I'm a total retard. I might be over thinking but she's given a few hints that she wants me to go to her,eg stares at me at times, tries to get into situations where I approach her or I dunno maybe I'm over thinking but I always stuff it up. I just get out of it. Its my first go and I really need help. she's pakistani, pretty, and just good inside and out. OK, so, one day she was chitchatting with my friend and somehow he got to the point where he said that I was really funny and she was totally confused. She couldn't believe it eg I'm really different around her but I don't want to be. And recently, I've been too shy to even say hi or hey, I'm thinking that she thinks I'm just ignoring her now.

Guys and girls please, I've given you my whole story, just help me :( can you please tell me some really good convo starters like when she's walking alone to class or somewhere, conversation goers when maybe a point comes where its just plane awks. Plesase tell me some things that gets the girl wanting to talk to me, some questions that she would love and keep talking about, compliments that have blown you away and will do the same to her, how to get her number, what to do in lunch when she's with a friend walking or alone, how to talk and stuff, and most important, if I HOPEFULLY doo get get to know her and we sit together and everything, how can we break the touch barrier? To tickling and things? I've heard that I'm cute, ticklish and have good cheeks so I was hoping she could break the barrier. Tips on how to? please help me, I really need help and I really want her,im always thinking of her. And please don't write, just go, I have no idea so you need to explain. Also girls, when alone, what do you like? eg text or calls and hat else like fb chat? Thanks guys really appreciated.

Also, there's this joker kid in our class that's messing with me around such as kicking my chair as a joke, should I ignore or when I'm gonna sit alone on a two seater, he comes and tells me to move and let him sit. I don't say anything because I know its a joke and also I want to look like a nice person in front of her. What should I do to him? And some jokes that you heard from a special boy you found really funny and got you wanting to talk to the boy. Please help, and also, she is very pretty so a lot of guys are going for her, what would make me stand out? and what things turn you on? smell and eg smell, recommended scents? Thanks

[kia58]

Ok first you need to drop the "Oh she is so wonderful and I am such a loser!" attitude. It will NOT help you. Stop telling yourself that you will freeze up if you approach her. It is a justification and a claim you suck in the same sentence. You don't suck. And if you do, then improve yourself. Get real confidence before you do anything else. Means, if you are insecure about your body, train, your mind, study, your odor wash yourself etc.

Second comes in approaching her.

You don't need convo starters. You need blunt honesty, politeness and confidence. Don't waste your time on pointless annoying small talk as if that builds friendships. You don't need it. Just introduce yourself, ask about her background, her major, say things about yourself so she does not feel as if you are a complete stranger, where you are, what you do and end it by saying you find her attractive and that is the reason you would like to get to know her.

Special questions and compliments don't exist. If we girls have ever told you so, we lied. If you want her number ask for it with a cocky attitude. "Give me your number. If you're nervous I'll write, you just speak."

YOU (not plural) will break the touch barrier. Respect her enough not to grab her ass, but you can hold her hand to lead her somewhere on the date. Let's say she tries to get away and you tighten your grip:

She: Let go.

You don't until she repeats herself a second later.

She: Let go.

You let go, look at her and immediately start walking back.

She: Where are you going?

Hold, turn to her.

You: If you can not handle holding my hand, why would I want to take you anywhere with me?

This is presuming your sudden breaking of the touch barrier would make her refuse you. And if this conversation actually happened, she would be chasing you after.

If you lead her by the hand she gives up on letting go, you reward her by showing her an awesome spot, by buying her a sweet present etc.

Stop imagining you need to be cute or sensitive. Pets are cute and sensitive. Kids are cute and sensitive. Not men.

It does not matter what she wants. The pointless chat. Maybe she wants this or that? Do this, or go there. Who the hell cares?

We don't know what we want half the time. And when we do, it is mostly to check if you will cave into our demands. So my advice, DISAGREE.

It does not matter what she wants, but your ability to get what you want and to lead her to that point, while making her happy to be by your side in the process.

This is the reason most girls chase bad boys. But don't get it wrong. What I described is not a bad boy. A bad boy is completely inconsiderate of her. He will lead her like a man, but will ultimately not offer anything but his own gratification when he gets where he wants to be.

Oh and in case you didn't get it thus far, don't try to be her good friend. Especially with the stupid attitude you were planning on having in the process.

[princess311]

just talk to her lol come on you are to old to be acting like 5th grade lol go up to her and ask her on a date! and get to know her and don't try to have sex with her all fast!