Why do guys like girls that ignore them??

[Elfahkery]

i notice that guys like girls how ignore them and treat the girls how chase them like dirt I thought guys like the attention from girls so why do they like girls how ignore them ?

[OpenClose]

There's a word for these guys. It starts with an "I" and rhymes with "diot".

Any time a girl shows interest in me, I take the time to consider her, and if I'm not interested, I make it clear, but make extra sure to try to make her feel better about herself going out. I've seen girls give guys some pretty heartless and disgusting rejections because 'they're too good for him". I'm sure as hell not about to do the same.

On the other hand, if you ARE someone who gets a lot of attention, I could see how someone being interested in you seems like you'd have to "settle" for them. It makes it seem like they're the available one, and dating them would be only taking what is handed to you on a silver platter.

But it's PEOPLE we're dealing with here. People are not food items you can pick and sample. Nor is love like taste buds. The circumstances of you meeting and expressing affection should not be picked apart and analyzed, and someone's apparent status has little to do with their compatibility with you. I say this partially out of venting, but I also say it because it's how I feel about girls who show me interest. I give them my attention and respect, and even if I'm not interested, I walk away with my head held just a little higher, and want to help her hold hers up, too.

[Elfahkery]

i know that and I think people should act like that(im better then u)because guys don't leave a girl alone untel she acts like that trues me I know on top of that if the girl does not reject them that way, every time she want to lay them down she will back down in the last min because of the look that men give you know the sad puppy look and it is hard rejecting someone like that

[Elfahkery]

i usually don't judge a person on there apparent because him being interested do not cruse my mind I ether think he is a player how is just trying to huck up to brag in front of his friend, he is a friend he would not think of like that or he is out of my league

[OpenClose]

Sorry, I was using a rhetorical "you". It wasn't actually you I was saying this to. ;)

[Elfahkery]

it is ok

[kholland65]

I don't. The only guys that do are the players, which only make up about 10%of the population but about 80% of the guys that girls want to date, so its a skewed reality.

Players, as the name implies, like a game. They like a chase because it makes them feel more accomplished when the real in the big fish so to speak.

Normal guys hate the games. If a girl seems like she's not interested we'll just move on.

However, I would be curious as to your definition of "ignore". For all you know, your flirting up a storm but to you your just acting like you would to anymore else.

[Elfahkery]

thanx but I did not understand the last part can you explain more thanx

[kholland65]

Well its very common for a girl to think she is not leading a guy on when she is. For example, maybe you are hanging out with him a lot or texting him a lot, maybe your interactions with him are coming off as playful and flirtatious even though that is not your intention. So to you, you are more or less "ignoring him" simply due to your absence of what you think is flirting, but to him he sees nothing but flirting. Just a guess since it's a common dynamic between men and women.

[Elfahkery]

that explains a lot thanks

what can I do to stop it? it is like what you side I do not mean to do it do I just stop talking to guys or not be so nice to them

[kholland65]

It's tough, I know, you can still be friends, you just should never treat any "guy friend" as a close friend. Only text him when putting together social gatherings, don't hang with him one on 1. Don't get to playful with him, and don't touch him. Some guys are also a bit more aloof than others and just don't take the hint as easily. In some cases your best bet is to just sit him down, let him know you think he likes you, and kindly let him know that you just aren't interested in dating him.

[Elfahkery]

i think they now that I'm not but I will do it any way and thanks again

[kholland65]

You have to remember, men have large egos. We don't like to accept defeat. Even if all the evidence points to the girl not being interested. There is always this part of us that thinks, if I play my cards right, I can change her mind. It takes a very solid rejection at times to put the nail in the coffin, hints will not be enough, no matter how obvious. For many stubborn men, it takes a literal "I'm not interested in dating you" for them to back off and move on.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Those girls are already attractive to them, yet they present a challenge. Its the thrill of the chase. Picture a shepherd who has 50 sheep, but if one leaves he might try and chase after that one he can't have, leaving the rest of the 49 unattended to. The other girls are a "sure thing", the girls who don't care about them are not.

[Boris9397]

Couldn't have said it better!

[DutchAtheist]

That's why some women are called "a catch"...

[Anonymous]

They don't.

Not even players do.

And I can tell you from experience because I AM one.

And most of my friends are players.

Players and guys like me like women who are attractive. We don't give a f*** if they ignore us or not. In fact we prefer that you DONT.

There are enough games that women do that we respond to it either as "another obstacle" Or she's just being a bitch. Either way there's too many women on earth to deal with that bullsh*t.

There are plenty of other women who don't do that.

I can tell you this as well.

EVERY SINGLE PLAYER than I know of looks at "the game" as a necessary evil. (the ones that are any good anyway)

We HATE the games, so when women are honest and upfront and genuine we tend to like that sort of thing.

In spite of what you have probably heard players have hearts too.

[Elfahkery]

that means why guys don't give much attention to girls how would do anything for them or if the girl was a slut they would ditch her for a girl that ignore them but they think that she gave them the look or is starting to like them or even gives them so little attention

[Elfahkery]

even though the girl they ditch is much prettier

[Opinion Owner]

"even though the girl they ditch is much prettier"

Obviously they didn't think so.

"how would do anything for them" you mean who?

Think of it this way, if the girl was megan fox or a girl of that calibur do you think that an ugly betty who ignores a man is going to get his attraction and make them leave megan fox? I don't think so.

[Opinion Owner]

This sort of game works on women. Not on men.

Because women date men based on behavior, MEN date based on looks.

[Opinion Owner]

This "sure thing" idea is bullsh*t.

There are 2 types of players.

1. The kind that assumes EVERYONE is a sure thing (including women who ignore)

2. The kind that assumes that ALMOST assumes everyone is a sure thing.

The first one being he doesn't give a f*** either way. (hes going to get a woman regardless of what she does so he doesn't care either way. (even with the 2nd one, he understands that 99% of women put up SOME kind of resistance. so the only "sure thing" out there are prostitutes.)

[Justthinkingaloud]

Well being a guy I can say that's not completely true about all of us. But there are a lot of guys who like the challenge, or having what they can't have. There are also those who find it to be like a tease and it turns them on. Those are the basic reasons.

[Elfahkery]

i notice that not all but most but most of them it is really crazy and makes me laugh because there is this girl how looks more European then libyan so she thinks that she is better then the rest of us and she ignores most guys with me so they all chase her around and the guys how are born overseas she chases them and they ignore her and chase other girls it is like a circle

[bDizzie]

I don't know why they do that because I don't play games so I'd be all for a girl that chased me.

[courtney06]

same but vice versa but only if I'm into the guy

[bapmo]

Well, those girls ten to be the girls that are most attractive so... that would be why.

[ChicagoGuy]

eh, human nature. we chase that which retreats from us.

[Anonymous]

Hum, nope...