Do I ever cross his mind? Why does it always seem like my ex is having way more fun in life than me?

[Anonymous]

Probably the whiniest question asked. But I just had to ask it. I guess fb really only shows the good things... I should realize that... but I wonder if he ever even thinks of me or wonders how I'm doing. Our break up was kind of mutual ish... elicited by him though. We just weren't feeling it anymore. He knew it, I knew it. It needed to end... and we both kind of knew it... but we were nice people and didn't want to act on it.

We both wanted the same things in life and we were genuinely good people... just two awesome people who's personalities didn't mesh. We never did anything hurtful towards each other and I don't hate him. I just wonder if I ever cross his mind... we only dated approx 2 months, but even when he broke up with me I could still see he thought I was attractive. He admitted he still had fun with me too, but said we couldn't be friends. I guess that's understandable... when you like someone like that. He said I was his "almost the one," but not quite... and he only wants to invest in the one. He used to always stare at my mouth and that was my major hint to kiss him! he totally did that when he broke up with me. Do you think I ever cross his mind? It's been a month since the breakup. :/ Am I forgotten?

And no, he was really a genuine and nice guy... but I don't want to get back together with him. too difficult to be in a relationship with.

[shadowelite102]

If it didn't work out and you don't want to get back together then I don't understand why it would matter much if he thinks about you, maybe it's a guy thing. I don't think you are forgotten but I think you should work on your life and not be so caught up in his. If he was being nice in the break up it's because he didn't want it to be a big deal, he probably wasn't getting what he wanted in the relationship. Maybe you weren't being open enough, or maybe you weren't very expressive, I don't know. Maybe he started to like someone else.

But if you still have feelings for him(which, to me it seems like you do), then be a busy, fun, exciting person that he will want to be around. But if you are saying "I don't have feelings for him!", then just live your life and (like I said)don't worry about his.

If your relationship had an effect on him then he might think of you, but honestly moping around won't help anybody. Sorry if that all sounded rude, it might be my mood, not you.

Hope that helped, if not then my apologies.

[Asker]

Aw, no that is very helpful. It's not that I have feelings for him, the relationship ended pretty well and I guess that I'm sad because I don't have him as a friend... and none of his friends have extended a hand either. I lost him AND new friends that I actually liked :/. I guess I never understood why we had to cut things off when it didn't end poorly. We never emotionally connected which is why it ended. We had an amazing 1st 2 weeks and we kept trying to bring it back, but neither could.

[shadowelite102]

Well, maybe it's not meant to be, and if that is true then the only thing you can do is move on.

[Asker]

True. Very true. I sort of met one of his friends though... not through him, but completely by coincidence... and I think we're going to bump into each other. Maybe I should write him ahead of time and um explain?

[shadowelite102]

A guy friend? If so, that's awesome! And I hope you hit it off. I don't know what you would explain for, if you'll enlighten me.

[Asker]

Oh, a guy friend who may potentially be interested in more... I'm not quite sure! He asked me if I like men with beards because he has one. Seemed like a hint that he might be a little interested?

[shadowelite102]

HaHa, I like that guy, he's funny(just kidding, I don't even know him). He may just be trying to be funny, but depending on his tone and what words he used you could tell if he wanted more. But I say that if you like him then you should go for it. I'm straight, so if anything came off sounding...weird, I just wanted to make it clear, lol

[Asker]

haha nope, you sound fine. lol this was over text message. idk. I'm voting go for it... however, we have a 4 week break so I won't be in town for that long! guess we'll just have to talk/txt til then?

[shadowelite102]

Go for it, and don't over think it.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[shadowelite102]

Friend me if you got a account if you ever want someone to talk to, I'm easy to talk to

[Asker]

I added ya just in case. Mine starts with an R :)