Should I just show up over at his house?

[Anonymous]

So for the last few weeks I have been causally seeing this guy, and I really like him. But for the last few days he has been ignoring me. I have talked to him, but at the same time he ignores me. He says he will call me back then never does, he promised to come pick me up last night and he didn’t. So around 2am I text him and told him good night and that I would stop by his house today around 6. Should I? or should I just give up. I mean I told him that I was about to stop trying and he was like don’t give up on me yet. But that was 2 days ago and since then he hasn’t stopped ignoring me.

I asked him before he started ignoring me what it was he wanted out of us, and he was honest he said in 5 years you have just randomly shown up every few months and then you say you’re coming back and never do, so let’s just see what happens.

So should I just show up at his house today, or just walk away.

[Uramazing2me]

I think it's best if you give up, if he's ignoring you then there's something up right. I'm sure there is someone out there that when the time comes wouldn't ignore you and wouldn't expect you to show up randomly every couple of months but would want to be with you everyday, or whenever you need him. I mean I have a type of relationship that when we spend time together its just him and me, and then after that it will be like one month of him not talking to me, just a text every week saying how was your weekend and what no but that was one of our conditions we talked about and knew that each other wanted our space not because of our secret lives or hidden agendas ( but because we wanted to live our lives and we both followed through with what we promised each other. That's been over three years.

I don't see this guy being someone that follows through. If there is an off chance I feel ignored I do get a response and never have I once shown up uninvited .. because essentially we are friends first. I wouldn't walk if I were you, I would run! no matter what you've already been hurt by him and this is the best chance to cut ties while its already a state of mind.

Hope this helps : ) Good luck.

[Asker]

he always asked me to stick around but I would always just leave. and everything was fine up until I left in the middle of the night, no I didn't just up and leave I did tell him I was leaving. I staied their for almost 4 nights and on the 5th night I woke up freaked out relising I was starting to care and I told him I had something I had to do. after that is when he started to ignore me. I know just showing up is okay with him.. that's what I have always done. by choice and I did tell him already

[Anonymous]

I can relate so much to you right , this guy and I were texting non stop and he kept telling me he wanted me and everything. Then we started hanging now out every Ight for 4 days in a town and after that he kinda stop texting me and every time he said he would call he didn’t. And I talk to him in person since we go to school together and he says he still like me and that my bad for ignoring me but tbh I don't know with him. And that sucks I feel u, like I wanna show up at his house too but then I feel like that would be to creepy to do. But u know if he really wants u he shouldn’t find it creepy. U should do it , I think I am

[Chibikitty]

I honestly think you should just walk away. If he really likes you and wants to be with you he shouldn't be ignoring you. If he doesn't reply back via text or call you back, then most likely he's just not interested in having a relationship with you. Sounds to me that he would rather just keep things "casual" instead. I wouldn't stick around for that, it'll just be a waste of your time. You can't force something to happen when the other person isn't willing to partake.

[Asker]

i get what your saying I really do. and I normally would be the first to just walk away. I don't really try or give much effort in anything that has to do with guys. however his phone sucks, so he might not even be getting the calls and he hates texting so that could be why he ain't texted back. I know last night he said it would be real late before he called due to him working on his truck but I gave up before he called and text good night and that I would be their today at 6 would it be pathetic

[Asker]

would it be pathetic to just go over their like I normally do, before we ever became anything more than friends. normally I just show up out of no where and he has always been okay with that