Why do all girls hate me ?

[adamfk1]

19 , no girl likes , me girl ever wants to get to know me , every girl hates me before I say hi, never had a girlfriend , never kissed , never hugged a girl , told by a girl the only way I won't die old and alone is to kill myself while I'm still young . I try to approach as many women as possible and they all reject me . I'm crying everyday now . I don't know what to do . I blame it all on my ugly looks .

There was one instance where my roommate kept his phone at home and his female friend called and I told her he wasn't there and from one point it became a long conversation and I got her number . The next day , my roommate came to me and told me that she wanted a picture of me and he gave one to her . She never spoke to me again . So it has nothing to do with personality , only my ugly looks .

heres what I look like anyway flickr.com/photos/90828451@N08/

[snowangle]

You need to work on yourself first. No one wants a friend/boyfriend who they have to take care of, or nurse back to health. People can sense you're desperate. If you get some independence, people will want to be your friend.

So, first. I don't believe you're an ugly person, but if you do, there's stuff you can do to fix it. Grow your hair a different way, go on a skin cleaning regimen, get some exercise, whatever you think you need to do. This is something I also did this year... I looked chubby and awkward and I said "I'm too old to not know how to take care of my appearance." So I started wearing my hair a different way, I went to a dermatologist to clear up my acne, and I paid special attention to what clothes looked best on me. If you saw me a year ago and compared it to what I look like now, you'd see two different girls. I feel a whole lot better about myself, though.

Second, find a hobby or two. Are you in school? Find some extracurriculars you enjoy and join them. If not, find a class or fitness club in the city that you'd like. Tell yourself that you're there for the activity and not for the people. Just enjoy life, enjoy what you do. Find your happiness first before bringing people into your life. No one wants the responsibility of being the reason for your happiness.

Good luck! You can do it!

[Naughtybitch]

well I saw your picture and I want to tell you you're not ugly so it can be that your just not the girls type that does not mean there's something wrong with you if you want to you could change your look maybe a different hairstyle or change your clothing you need so be more social and more different gatherings to get a chance to meet different types of people but most of all you're not ugly so stop saying that and you're still young there yet good luck I know you'll find someone

[adamfk1]

nothing suits me for hairstyle ? nothing ever works .

and for clothing I just wasn't dresed up

[SummerHeatGirl]

That is sad. Well I don't know how you look Mr but I'm sure you look cute. Sometime girls reject because they are scared of you or they are not ready for friendship or relationship so It doesn't mean they hate you. Look in the bright side there's thousands of girls than just a few. Have you ever considering asking them why they are not interested in you...you never know what they might say about their true feelings.

[Anonymous]

You kind of look average/normal to me.

Not sure what the f**k was going on that girl's mind but no one deserves to be told anything like that.

I think you need to slightly change the way you perceive yourself.

Start by looking into a mirror and finding features that you like about yourself and I mean like really try, even if you don't see anything at first.

Also start exercising or doing like a sport, if you're not doing one already, not only will you look better, it will also make you feel better and you'll give off a better vibe.

[Moloch]

Didn't you ask this question before? You're not ugly, you're average. With that being said, be an interesting, fun guy and it won't even matter.

[adamfk1]

im not

[Moloch]

You're not what.

[adamfk1]

i tend to be nervous around girls because the way they look at me . They never give me a chance to talk to them . I can be funny around guys , not around girls

[Moloch]

You just need experience that's all. Trust me, it's not because of the way you look. I have seen other guys that were just PAINFUL to look at, and they talked to girls like it was no problem. I can tell by your writing and your picture that you're a little awkward, and that's okay, but if you wanna talk to more women, you have to project more confident body language, and that comes from experience. Get out there and do crazy stuff.

[adamfk1]

give me a few examples of what to do . I can't get experience if no woman gives me a chance

[Moloch]

First thing you need to do is talk to women WITHOUT even trying to get with them. That means no hitting on them, just being friends with them. That should make you feel comfortable enough to talk to girls. This phase WILL take you a while, and you have to make quite a few female friends in order for this to really work. AFTER you have made your friends and have hung out with them one on one with NO intentions of getting with them, then start just talking to girls regular and hit on them.

[adamfk1]

its not easy making male friends in university let alone female friends . everyones always busy and I can't go to bars yet

[Moloch]

Then stop worrying about the ladies and first work on your social life. That's part of the reason why you feel so desperate and alone.

[adamfk1]

i moved to a new city , everyone knows everyone from high school . I don't know anyone , and no one wants to include me . they just avoid me when they see I'm trying jump in to thier social life

[Moloch]

Then why are you even worrying about girls man. Get out and make friends, you're not only desperate when it comes to women, you're desperate when it comes to making social connections in general. People can smell that a mile away.

[NinaNona]

That's actually odd, you're cute! [: I think you just need to have a higher level of confidence because people can sense that you don't so then they won't talk to you or be interested. hope that helps

[adamfk1]

well its hard to be confident with women telling me "im going to die alone" or the countless "i don't date ugly guys ". I'm sorry but that didn't help :(

thank you though for your compliment :)

[lovelysecrets33]

Your kidding right?, you don't sound ugly... What are some of it features.. ..heavy or thin ..etc..just give me a quick description..

[adamfk1]

i used to be 211 now I'm 172 I'm gaining muscle , I got huge arms and legs , but my face is ugly and I'm trying to build up muscle as my last attempt to get a girl intrested in me . if I'm still lonely and pathetic then I don't what ill do

[lovelysecrets33]

Ymmv you sound great to me... I wish it was someway I can get this threw to you. I'm hurt that I can't say more, or really even have the words for you, steady something that you never heard b4. But being that I don't. I will just say, do what ever make you happy with that builds confidence, which leads to attraction. So it seems your on the right track physically... But work on your mindset on life. Learn you be happy with you and others naturally flock to that

[MeridiansAAngel]

Post a picture. you can't be that bad. and looks aren't everything, being funny counts too.

-love Sosa

[adamfk1]

i can be funny around guys ...i don't know around girls becuase they usualy shoo me away after I say hello

[adamfk1]

and I'm new on this site so I don't really know how to post a picture

[MeridiansAAngel]

Go to your profile edit, and click where it says profile picture, you'll get the idea. or post a link in this box (comment box).

-LS

[adamfk1]

im not a funny guy around girls :(

[MeridiansAAngel]

Ugh , you gotta have a personality! Stop self-hating and complaining and work for the things you want kid !

-LS

[adamfk1]

i did work to lose weight . I did work to get to 3rd year engineering .do you think I just sit at home and complain . thank you for telling me that I'm going to die alone . I got that recently "its better to die young than old and alone " . I'm glad to see that she wasn't wrong

[MeridiansAAngel]

it was really more of a joke and me trying to give you some inspiration.. yeah.

-LS

[CorneliaisPretty]

well maybe you go for girls that are too attractive for you

[adamfk1]

no trust me . My standards are very low (thats what guys tell me) , I find a lot of girls attractive that all my guy friends say is ugly . I've asked overweight girls out , underweight , pretty much all of them .

[CorneliaisPretty]

maybe you should either go for uglier ones, or simply those girls are too picky?

[adamfk1]

im sorry you're not answering the question here . your just agreeing with me that I'm ugly

[Missyme30]

Wow your sum help! Why not post a picture of your self before calling people ugly!

[adamfk1]

im calling myself ugly , I don't know how to post a photo here

[CorneliaisPretty]

@Missyme30 what the hell are you attacking me for? the guy himself said in his question that he thought he was ugly. I didn't start out by saying he was ugly before he did. He asked a simple question and I tried to answer it as best as I could. My answer was not mean or degrading in anyway. Based on the premise of his question, I was trying to help this guy. Next time maybe you should think a little more before attacking people on the internet. And by the way, I'm trying to help, while your not.

[TheAtomicBrain454]

Find a mirror and say this self-affirmation: "Im good enough, I'm smart enough, and dog-gonit people like me".

[Duarte]

Stop being so negative!

Being negative won't get you anywhere and the more negative you are, the worse you end up feeling.

[Anonymous]

I can't tell.

One photo you look sick with dark eyes. It's also a dark photo.

[Missyme30]

There is no such thing as being ugly! You shouldn't feel that way ever! You're so young and have a great life ahead of you!

[adamfk1]

if I show my picture then I'm sure you will change your mind