She keeps asking me if I love her.

[Anonymous]

On every date I have with my girlfriend, she always gets serious and asks me the question "do you really love me"...am I supposed to say yes I really do every time she asks? I feel that she is just suspicious that I love another girl and hence, asks that question. Note:she keeps checking my phone conversations with other girls.

[LilRedHead]

Sounds like your girlfriend is insecure. If you mention to her randomly that you love her without a conversation then she has no reason to freak out. Checking your phone though is unnecessary. I never feel a need to check my boyfriend's because I trust him. Trust is the glue that holds a relationship together and she can't trust you enough to leave your phone alone that should definitely be a concern. I would have a talk with her about her trust issues and state clearly to her that she should trust you and checking your phone is ridiculous in general if she does trust you. I expect a thirteen year-old to do that and not someone who is considered an adult. If she keeps it up after talking to her about it then you need to figure out if it's worthwhile to stick around with someone who is insecure.

[lovedcursed]

i will tell you , this girl has been badly hurt before ! I quite know it cause I have been there - she must have been cheated on or left for someone else and got real sad about it - that she will doubt your love for her the more she falls for you - YOUR part is to understand that even if she won't admit it and if you really love her try make her feel safe as much as possible and time by time she will be better , But please if you have any doubts about you together or hesitated between her and any other woman just leave her now because she will really be affected in her confidence and soul if she got hurt again , good luck

[calialltheway1993]

If you do then what's the problem repeating yourself?

[Asker]

Coz it feels like she's challenging me...she keeps thinking I'm cheating on her...even checks my email and Facebook profile. . N makes the question look like I am with her just because I want to get in her pants. Trust me...its insulting. I love her and dnt mind not even kissing her till we get married"..

[calialltheway1993]

Then tell her for reassurance.

[bassman]

DO NOT follow her into deep subject ville. How long you been dating? She has issues that will likely never go away. You answer her questions as Jim Carey would. Use so much humor,that its ridiculous!

[Asker]

Like two months...i cant. She doesn't like humor when she's involved.

[bassman]

Drop her like a bad habit then! You are wasting your time with a messed up girl! Run brother! Run!

[YouAskedForMyOpinion]

*sigh* People seek out intimate relationships, because they need their desires for inclusion and affection fulfilled. If you don't want to deal with emotions, then you shouldn't date.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

She's a very insecure person. This will likely ruin the relationship unless she's willing to chagne.

[FaerieGirl]

She sounds very insecure.

Be blunt with her. If you DO love her Just say " Of course I do goofball. I am dating you because I want to, so don't worry about anything okay?"or something like that.