When a guy says your name a lot (and remembers you)?

[Anonymous]

so,there's this guy who's actually my ex boss at work. he's kinda older than me,but looks younger and he's terribly hot :/

we never really talked,but there was one time I went in his office and he said "you're (my name),right?" and thing is,i never really told him. One could say of course he knows your name,you work with him! But actually I never really had a real presentation. During this time he repeated my name a lot,especially when I was leaving.

After that,I didn't see him for a while (about 3 months). Then I bumped into him in another city,and I said hello. He initially looked very surprised,and while

I was saying "Remember me? I work with..." he immediately said "Oh (my name),hi! What are you doing here?" in a very "informal" way and began a conversation,telling me how long he would stay there and stuff like that (even if I didn't ask him).

That day I met him again and we made small talk again,and again he started telling me what he was going to do without me asking.

I don't know if the fact that he remembers me so clearly means something. I think that it might mean something cause there are really a lot of people at work and it's hard for any human being to remember all of them! So I guess I either made a good impression or maybe he finds me attractive (hopefully,haha!).

Right now I don't work for him anymore,so feeling attracted to him doesn't feel so awkward anymore (I'd never go with my boss),but still,he's older than me and I don't know if he likes me or not.

When we talk I always sound more formal,while he's a lot more informal,addressing me with "you" and sounding "younger".

So is he interested or just being very friendly?

Be honest :)

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Update: isn't there a way to find out without asking him directly for a date or something?

I have to admit, I still see him as my boss, so I'm even more nervous around him! If I bump into him again,isn't there a way to tell if he's interested by just having a conversation?

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cheesesteak7: with all due respect,of course... but I'm quite more the shy/introverted type rather than naive. I'm not very good at flirting, I admit it, and this feels a harder situation than being interested in a "normal" guy because of the age gap and the professional relationship we had before.

Just,don't tell me "you have to be less shy/more fliratious/etc" cause trust me,I do my best but it's hard to change who you are :)

[cheesesteak7]

no real way to tell. As you get older, and around more professional types, you'll realize those older professional types are just good at being friendly and professional and courteous. Repeating one's name is a sign of acknowledgment, respect. It's the same as in interviews, meetings, and such. It's just professional courtesy to acknowledge someone by their name, even repeatedly.

But that doesn't necessarily mean he ISNT interested.

[cheesesteak7]

*sigh* wtb an edit feature:

Anyway, the remembering thing, well, you'll probably hot or he's just good with faces/ppl he's met.

[AmongTheApples]

If he repeats your name several times while talking to you, not just once when he first sees you (although though the following can still apply, the correlation just isn't as strong), then he's enamored by you. Psychological studies show that both guys and girls subconsciously do this when he or she is infatuated with the other person.

[cheesesteak7]

is it mutually inclusive though? I'm sure I can think of plenty of girls I was infatuated with whose names I DIDNT keep saying. And others whose names I DID repeat, whom I didn't have feelings for.

[AmongTheApples]

If you actually said their names several times in the same conversation, then you were more than likely infatuated with them but had some reason for which you denied it to yourself.

[AmongTheApples]

Oh, you mean that, if you didn't say it several times in the same conversation, then does it mean that you weren't infatuated with them. Then no, the converse isn't true.

[AmongTheApples]

If he repeats your name several times in the same conversation, then he is almost certainly interested. If he only says your name at the beginning of every conversation, then he is probably interested, but, if that's the case, what cheesesteak7 said might be true. Now, even if he is interested, the question as to whether or not he'd date you is another question entirely.

[Anonymous]

I think you're way over-thinking this. Of course, your boss is a personable, friendly, engaging guy. That's what's expected of managers these days. They try to make each employee feel special to get the most out of him or her.

I'm not saying he definitely doesn't like you. But, there's no real evidence to suggest that he does. He just sounds like a very good boss.

[cheesesteak7]

update: it's called "flirting". And try not to be subtle.

[AmongTheApples]

I'd agree with that. She should be able to tell from his reactions to it.

[cheesesteak7]

she SHOULD. But will she? lol. She seems rather naive and clueless, with all due respect of course... >_>

[cheesesteak7]

@ edit (can only give 2 answers!):

believe me, I know it's hard to change that shy type of mentality. it definitely doesn't happen overnight. And it can be quite frustrating on both sides. I've been on both sides - both very shy myself at times and trying to deal with very shy girls.

Unfortunately, shyness is something that has prevented COUNTLESS of potentially fruitful relationships from happening.

[cheesesteak7]

i mean *@ update... -_- it's late, gnight.