My crush got harassed? What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My crush got harassed 2 days ago by older man in a apartment and this isn't the first time she has been sexually harassed. There has been 2-3 same kinda situations and she hasn't do nothing. The man jumped on her and she pushed him away and locked herself in a bathroom. She told me, we had a argument where i told her that she always trusts wrong people and if she wants to belong in my life she will show that she is strong and people won't take advantage of her. Tell police or parents. But i dont know should i text her because i might thinks she will not take me serious after our fight and report the situation or at least tell parents.

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She didn't tell her parents or police. Im pissed. This is the 3rd time she has been harassed. Im going to say to her that i can't change your decision but i can change who can belong to my life.

[I_am_Niegel]

Put your self to her shoe.I think instead babbling around your ego.Go find another apartment for her.Go meet her parents.Do u think she's happy being molested or being harassed? Nah. As you can see maybe she is helpless or worst she didn't trust you. Because your not a man enough armed with initiatives, your just an empty drum only good for a sound. if Im in your situation ill Turn the world upside down just to protect her.

Sorry mate, im just expressing myself.

[Asker]

I know, but at the same time I dont know. Should i keep contact with her? Or let her come to me?

[Asker]

Because your not a man enough armed with initiatives <-- what does this mean? English is not my main language

[Asker]

It was her decision to go to that apartment. She didn't even say to me that day that she wanted to hangout. She said its girls night out.

[I_am_Niegel]

No your the one makes the effort.if she ignores you.Still you must pursue her.if she is nagging around then be a gentlemen to accept it.Grab this opportunity mate.Look at the brighter side of the situation.

[I_am_Niegel]

I see...okey.
Go to a silent place and Evaluate your self. coz i sense lack of confidence here.

[madhatters4]

be there for her as a friend but sort of draw a line. she needs support but she ultimately does need to do what she needs to do. I don't think she won't take you serious if you sort of reconcile with her, but just be very vocally firm that you do not support her decision not to do anything about the situation but you will always support her as a person.

[Telok]

But this has happened 2-3 times and im angry she still hasn't learned nothing

[madhatters4]

well then don't be her friend.

but it doesn't sound like that is a real option for you...so that's why I suggest supporting her as a friend but maybe ending the whole crush aspect of it because frankly you should have some concerns about the repetitive nature of this stuff without her doing anything.

[Anonymous]

I know you care. That's nice. And you can text her, it's fine to show concern. But don't inform her parents or the police. If you do that she'll think you interfere too much in her matters. She's a grown up, responsible person. She'll do whatever she needs to do. But I'm sure she needs someone by her side now, you can be that guy. Talk to her, not much about this matter. Cheer her up, talk about other stuff...stuff that make her laugh or something :)

[pooper89]

If you don't have open lines of communication with this girl, and she's not willing to talk, then you should alert police. Tell the police anything that you saw and tell them that this girl is vulnerable and won't stand up for herself.
If you're feeling brave, confront the man yourself and tell him to knock it off or you'll kick his face in

[Anonymous]

It's admirable that you want to help her, but she needs to wake up and learn how to take care of herself.

[oolala18]

Awww your heart is in the right place but ultimately if she's not worried enough to tell any one, what can you do? What does that say about her? She's the damsel in distress and you want to be her hero...adorable. Does she want to be rescued though?

[Asker]

I dont know. Should i keep contact with her?

[Asker]

Or let her come to me?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You are in the unsatisfying position of trying to get people to do what you want them to do. As you'll learn, people have to make their own decisions.

[Asker]

I know but i want best for her. She will never learn

[yaddayaddayadda02]

And yet you are hanging your heart on someone with poor decision making skills.

[523206720]

Call the police yourself and report what happened. Take photographs or get somebody to do it for you.

[JamielovesKU]

Talk to her and let her know you're there for her.

[thatbuffedkid]

Kick the old guys ass as hard as you can