You are conflating "average, boring Joe" with "Doesn't understand, won't give her the last piece of cake", etc. Very judgmental. The guy she (in your opinion) is trying to impress, is the Alpha male who does not give, he TAKES.
Yes when I get dressed in the morning, my first thoughts (as a virgin are): I gotta ensure my sexual survival, better put on a top that compliments my eyes.
No, apparently they only dress up to attract some imaginary guy that they think every man should be. Apparently they have such unrealistic standards that in their heads, they have an ACTUAL IDEAL MAN and tell us how wrong it is to have an IDEAL woman
I agree with you. It's the same reason guys lift weights and get big despite the fact that most women say they aren't attracted to overly muscular men. We do it because we love the way it makes us feel about ourselves.
Your thinking is innovative.. I like it , but I think women dress 'slutty' purely to get attention of men. Now there are a lot of women who go about saying "I dress for myself, not for anyone else, your opinion on my clothing doesn't matter. "
Obviously that's a bunch of bull.. If people's opinion on your clothing doesn't matter, why don't you try wearing a bikini to a funeral, or a 2 piece in a school. People's opinion matter.
You have to consider that what you call slutty may not be another person's definition of slutty. I have been called slutty solely for wearing a skirt, even though it was longer than both of my arms. Slutty has just become too subjective to be taken seriously, in my opinion.
People don't wear bikinis to funerals by the way because it's a funeral and people dress for funerals and not everybody wants to a wear a swimsuit anywhere other than the pool. Again, I do think there are situations where women do dress for other people, but I know in my experience that the only person I try to please is myself.
That's the point, you 'think' you are dressing up for yourself but you are actually not. Just like, men who take viagra 'think' they want a bigger dick just for pleasing themselves, but is it indeed?
I don't see how clothing and sexual intercourse are even remotely the same thing.
Let me put it to you this way: why would I want to dress up for "men"? Most guys who approach you off the street, like I mentioned, I wouldn't touch with a ten foot poll. Sad, but true. I don't dress for the guy who thinks I put my clothes on for him, I don't dress for the guy who calls me a slut, I don't dress for the guy who thinks it's okay to harass me because I didn't wear a turtle neck that day. I dress up for "the man in my head" - which I described enough in this take for you to reference that if you don't know what I mean.
Hate to say it but it's pretty presumptuous for a guy to think he's special enough for me to want to impress.
I believe when someone goes out of their way to do something, it is done for a reason. And "I do it because I want to" is never a reason. For a girl asking her dad some money and if she throws in a line, "Give me money because I want it." is not a legitimate reason why her dad should give her the money. A proper reason would be "Give me money because I want to watch movie with friends."
Now as money is an aesthetic thing, the REASON will always be externally related. For eg - If someone says he is practicing writing to improve his handwritting. Why is he doing it? "He is doing it for himself" True, but that is not a reason. That is just a part of the actual truth. The real reason might be, he wants to get better grades/ impress the teacher etc.
Now , combining this, When a girl goes out of her way to choose which clothing she wants to wear, "She does it for herself" is not the reason, the reason has to be externally related (as stated above). Just because we don't want to believe it
Doesn't mean it cannot be. Similarly, I buy good clothes for myself, because I want to look good. I want to get positive attention. And if someone says " That shirt looks like shit" It will have some impact on me, and as it has an impact on me, that means, his opinion matters to me.
If this seems like a lot and too complex to take it in, forgive me, I didn't know how to phrase it better.
That's a little bit presumpteous to assume that a woman would have a desire to present herself for the sake of men alone.
Here's an example. There's a fashion trend now - cute fuzzy swears that resemble animals. Also, the "kid like" overalls thing is another trend. If a woman wears that, is she trying to attract men with paedophilic fetishes? No, she's wearing it because she thinks it's cute. I don't wake up and think to myself every day: will a man like this shirt? I ask myself: do I like this shirt? It makes ZERO sense to suggest that I would wear anything that I did not like and did not pick because I - as in me and myself - thought it was nice.
Seriously, how hard is that to understand? Why would I dress up for you, honestly?
Translation: it's modern and fashionable to deny wanting or needing a man or his attention, so I'm going to play mental gymnastics with myself to avoid that admission.
When I have friends over for a get together I dress the same way I would if we were going to hang out at a bar. I wear what I think looks good on me regardless of who is present.
Trust me, I don't need to impress every Joe blow on the street.
@myTakeOwner, maybe you don't have to impress all, but just some eh? :) Crazy, i believe if a woman knows there will be only women for miles, they dress more comfortable with only enough stuff just to be the envy of others. Unless, its women who's opinion they care about.
I agree except for the dresses and stuff that SPECIFICALLY show off something on a woman. Like the dress that is normally except has a cut in it to specifically show cleavage.
I don't get why guys think they know the minds of women better than women. You would get so pissed if we started saying shit to make it seem like we knew the minds of men better than men do.
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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ey7PsxinHsYYou are conflating "average, boring Joe" with "Doesn't understand, won't give her the last piece of cake", etc. Very judgmental. The guy she (in your opinion) is trying to impress, is the Alpha male who does not give, he TAKES.
You do realize this has nothing to do with any of that, right?
Women dress for their mirror, to feel good about themselves.
Ever heard of the concept that women actually dress to impress other women?
Yes, just offering another opinion on the subject. No need to be crusty and rude, dear. That's the whole point of "MYtake"
It's all about sex/survival instinct as most things in life are, your kidding your self if you think otherwise.
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Yes when I get dressed in the morning, my first thoughts (as a virgin are): I gotta ensure my sexual survival, better put on a top that compliments my eyes.
Women dress to impress other women. If a girl is hot a guy will think she looks good in a burlap sack.
No, apparently they only dress up to attract some imaginary guy that they think every man should be. Apparently they have such unrealistic standards that in their heads, they have an ACTUAL IDEAL MAN and tell us how wrong it is to have an IDEAL woman
I agree with you. It's the same reason guys lift weights and get big despite the fact that most women say they aren't attracted to overly muscular men. We do it because we love the way it makes us feel about ourselves.
i haven't read your piece yet. but i wanna commend you on writing more content than the usual picture infested myTake.
Oh thank you.
Your thinking is innovative.. I like it , but I think women dress 'slutty' purely to get attention of men.
Now there are a lot of women who go about saying "I dress for myself, not for anyone else, your opinion on my clothing doesn't matter. "
Obviously that's a bunch of bull.. If people's opinion on your clothing doesn't matter, why don't you try wearing a bikini to a funeral, or a 2 piece in a school. People's opinion matter.
You have to consider that what you call slutty may not be another person's definition of slutty. I have been called slutty solely for wearing a skirt, even though it was longer than both of my arms. Slutty has just become too subjective to be taken seriously, in my opinion.
People don't wear bikinis to funerals by the way because it's a funeral and people dress for funerals and not everybody wants to a wear a swimsuit anywhere other than the pool. Again, I do think there are situations where women do dress for other people, but I know in my experience that the only person I try to please is myself.
That's the point, you 'think' you are dressing up for yourself but you are actually not.
Just like, men who take viagra 'think' they want a bigger dick just for pleasing themselves, but is it indeed?
I don't see how clothing and sexual intercourse are even remotely the same thing.
Let me put it to you this way: why would I want to dress up for "men"? Most guys who approach you off the street, like I mentioned, I wouldn't touch with a ten foot poll. Sad, but true. I don't dress for the guy who thinks I put my clothes on for him, I don't dress for the guy who calls me a slut, I don't dress for the guy who thinks it's okay to harass me because I didn't wear a turtle neck that day. I dress up for "the man in my head" - which I described enough in this take for you to reference that if you don't know what I mean.
Hate to say it but it's pretty presumptuous for a guy to think he's special enough for me to want to impress.
I believe when someone goes out of their way to do something, it is done for a reason. And "I do it because I want to" is never a reason. For a girl asking her dad some money and if she throws in a line, "Give me money because I want it." is not a legitimate reason why her dad should give her the money. A proper reason would be "Give me money because I want to watch movie with friends."
Now as money is an aesthetic thing, the REASON will always be externally related. For eg - If someone says he is practicing writing to improve his handwritting. Why is he doing it? "He is doing it for himself" True, but that is not a reason. That is just a part of the actual truth. The real reason might be, he wants to get better grades/ impress the teacher etc.
Now , combining this, When a girl goes out of her way to choose which clothing she wants to wear, "She does it for herself" is not the reason, the reason has to be externally related (as stated above). Just because we don't want to believe it
Doesn't mean it cannot be. Similarly, I buy good clothes for myself, because I want to look good. I want to get positive attention. And if someone says " That shirt looks like shit" It will have some impact on me, and as it has an impact on me, that means, his opinion matters to me.
If this seems like a lot and too complex to take it in, forgive me, I didn't know how to phrase it better.
That's a little bit presumpteous to assume that a woman would have a desire to present herself for the sake of men alone.
Here's an example. There's a fashion trend now - cute fuzzy swears that resemble animals. Also, the "kid like" overalls thing is another trend. If a woman wears that, is she trying to attract men with paedophilic fetishes? No, she's wearing it because she thinks it's cute. I don't wake up and think to myself every day: will a man like this shirt? I ask myself: do I like this shirt? It makes ZERO sense to suggest that I would wear anything that I did not like and did not pick because I - as in me and myself - thought it was nice.
Seriously, how hard is that to understand? Why would I dress up for you, honestly?
Translation: it's modern and fashionable to deny wanting or needing a man or his attention, so I'm going to play mental gymnastics with myself to avoid that admission.
Totally. Lol.
What do women tend to wear when they know there will only be women around for miles?
When I have friends over for a get together I dress the same way I would if we were going to hang out at a bar. I wear what I think looks good on me regardless of who is present.
Trust me, I don't need to impress every Joe blow on the street.
@myTakeOwner, maybe you don't have to impress all, but just some eh? :)
Crazy, i believe if a woman knows there will be only women for miles, they dress more comfortable with only enough stuff just to be the envy of others. Unless, its women who's opinion they care about.
I agree except for the dresses and stuff that SPECIFICALLY show off something on a woman. Like the dress that is normally except has a cut in it to specifically show cleavage.
Women dress up to impress either men, or other women. There is no other reason.
I don't get why guys think they know the minds of women better than women. You would get so pissed if we started saying shit to make it seem like we knew the minds of men better than men do.
@BaileyisDarcy women already do that (all men are pigs, men are rapists, etc).
Omg this is so true..
Idiotic take. Girls so it for male attention period. Not one particular man. Why do I wear muscle shirts in the summer? Because of comfort? No.
Lmao. Your invisible anon muscles, eh?
Interesting and well worded take!
girls don't dress for his men but he should impress you. wtf?
No one needs to impress anyone and nor did I ever suggest that sir. That is your own assumption, not mine.
Women dress for other women. Fuckin weirdos
That was a really insightful, artful, well thought out response. Thank you.
Why thank you. You say the nicest things
Don't I? ;)
I see what you did there lol. Answering sarcasm with sarcasm. Touchè.
It's what I do my friend.
That one about was sarcasm was sarcastic. You missed that. 1 nil the boys!
Looks like you one upped me my friend.
You must be British. The sarcasm drips off you lol
Nah, Canadian.
You really like the verbal ping pong. Get somebody riled up and they answer quicker. Great when your bored.
I can imagine.
Sweetheart you got to stop being curt. Give me something to work with
Couldn't agree more
Excellent my take