aw wow, ofc i feel sympathy.. It makes me so sad to read stories about men so easily abandoning women.. this is not ur fault.. this is unfair.. i hope u healed by now i hope u find happiness.
Wow! I give you a lot of credit for sharing your story. As I could never imagine what you went through, you had to do what was right for you at that time. You had to make that decision and go through it alone which is very brave. I'm pro choice and always will be. If I was in your situation at that time, I would have probably done the same. Thank you for sharing.
It's not a baby, it's a fetus. It will become a baby later. And it's her body, if she didn't want to have her body go through pregnancy and birth, have to deal with people's judgements or knowledge of her baby, or whatever else comes with adoption then that is her choice and you can't place judgement on her if you haven't been in her shoes.
@ForeverYours39 I figured you would say that. Regardless that "fetus" had HEARTBEAT, it had toes and fingers, a little nose, arms and legs, could probably even suck its thumb... Just like a baby...
@ForeverYours39 wow ur hella stupid... "its a fetus not a baby" its still a living thing. Did UK at 20 weeks a baby feels pain when getting aborted? Its scientifically proven so how is it not a baby?
@CoolSky01 sometimes accidents happen. if people are still willing to believe that a virgin gave birth 2 thousand years ago, I am sure there are many people willing to understand that sometimes, we don't control everything. I guess she paid for this 'lack of responsibility' enough without some kid preaching about it.
@damnwinter leave religion out of this and dont desrespect it even if you dont believe, and yes accidents happen but you have to take responsibilty not take the easy way out.
@damnwinter iam not going to, that is the difference between men and women , dont play the giving birth card, she obviously didn't even do that !! if you're a dumb fuck who gets knocked up well... its not the babys fault
@CoolSky01 the giving birth card is definitely legit. i don't go around preaching to you on how to use your dick. also she didn't get knocked up on her own. so yeah. shit happens and she pays for it. so what exactly is your problem? did you bother to read about any of the torture she went through? alone? if she had brought a child into the world irresponsibly, fucking him up, that's true irresponsibility right there. this is one of those 'if you don't have anything nice to say then stfu' times. and you're making it worse with every single reply.
@CoolSky01 Actually I am everything but a feminazi, which I guess is what you mean by 'the reason why some men hate women'. I am all for protecting men against this crap that so-called feminists are up to. Also, the word 'little'... i think it suits you more than me :)) 'Bitch' may suit me, so I don't take offense. Also, about the 'meeting on the street' thing.. man you don't even have enough guts to show your username. :)) you're not even legally allowed to drink. get a grip.
If you think that was easy then your an ignorant fool. Just because you think raising a kid before your ready is the "responsible" decision, doesn't mean having an abortion is the easy way out. You must not any idea how difficult and not healthy having children is when your not ready. Things aren't that black and white man.
Don't have sex if you're not willing to deal with the consequences. I don't care how old you are and I don't care if you are 12 and decide to have sex. I'm fine with that. But not with getting abortions cause it's convenient for you and because you didn't think it through. I have no sympathy for people like you honestly. Because of your selfishness (I don't even think you're stupid. You're actually selfish) you in a way killed your own baby because you were careless and didn't want to own up to your choices.
1. how long ago was this. 2. do you want kids kn the future. 3. what would you have done if your boyfriend wanted to keep the baby. 4. do you truly believe in your heart you made the right decision? What would have happend if you told your parents, and they offered to help. NB I'm not judging you, just curious so you don't have to answer any of my questions.
It was years ago. Unsure if I want children. If he had wanted it I would most likely have had it. I did leave out one detail: I called him the morning of the procedure, I told him I was pregnant and that I was going for an abortion. He asked why I had called. I had called to make sure he was ok with that as I couldn't have gone through without his knowing. I do think it was the right decision yes. I don't think the route to the decision was the right one though. My parents would have supported me emotionally. There would not have been any anger or disappointment from them. They have always shown me unconditional love.
this is pretty horrifying. but you were young at the time and were not able to take care of a child.
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I'll give you all the sympathy you deserve. However, it was only your personal experience and this myTake simply sounds like a pro-life rant disguised as a sob story.
That wasn't the point of this Take at all. She just wanted to spread some light about this controversy. Many people argue and debate about this subject without even being educated about it or experiencing it.
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aw wow, ofc i feel sympathy.. It makes me so sad to read stories about men so easily abandoning women.. this is not ur fault.. this is unfair.. i hope u healed by now i hope u find happiness.
You can never understand what it is like. To lose a child that you loved with your whole heart. Just to see them taken away from you.
You hated your child right from the start.
That isn't true.
Although I sympathise with those who aren't able to be with their children, it is possible for me to experience.
Yes it is. You said it yourself.
Not if you haven't even tried to raise your own kids.
You're not understanding the difference between a possibility and an impossibility. Forget about it.
I know the difference, more than you think.
I won't forget about it. That baby was just tissue to you.
Did you even read the whole thing?
You're small minded if you did not understand the emotions.
I read ENTIRE thing!!
Yes it is true. You didn't seek professional counseling and putting the baby up for adoption.
You can read but you cannot understand and empathize.
Wow! I give you a lot of credit for sharing your story. As I could never imagine what you went through, you had to do what was right for you at that time. You had to make that decision and go through it alone which is very brave. I'm pro choice and always will be. If I was in your situation at that time, I would have probably done the same. Thank you for sharing.
I wish my parents had decided to abort me or ny mother had a miscarriage, i woukd do anything to turn back time and make that happen
Why do you feel that way? Many people spend years wishing such things and manage to come through and find something worth living for.
i just imagined what that child could have grown up to like...
Heart warming story
, but tell me are you pro-choice when it comes to financial a abortion
I just can't. How could you kill your own baby? I understand that you couldn't raise it but you could at least let it get adopted.
I don't really know what I can say to you that isn't in the take.
It's not a baby, it's a fetus. It will become a baby later. And it's her body, if she didn't want to have her body go through pregnancy and birth, have to deal with people's judgements or knowledge of her baby, or whatever else comes with adoption then that is her choice and you can't place judgement on her if you haven't been in her shoes.
@ForeverYours39 what about that baby's body? Where was its choice? I'm sorry she had to go through that, but damn...
@missjayne "It's not a baby, it's a fetus"
@ForeverYours39 I figured you would say that. Regardless that "fetus" had HEARTBEAT, it had toes and fingers, a little nose, arms and legs, could probably even suck its thumb... Just like a baby...
@missjayne Still not a baby, though, which is my point.
@ForeverYours39 wow ur hella stupid... "its a fetus not a baby" its still a living thing. Did UK at 20 weeks a baby feels pain when getting aborted? Its scientifically proven so how is it not a baby?
This was 12 weeks.
Still my point is that it was still a living thing.
That's in debate.
Take responsibility for your actions instead of getting an abortion and taking the easy way out.
dude you aren't even 18, not to mention you have 0 vaginas. keep it to yourself.
@damnwinter he's got a point though...
@CoolSky01 sometimes accidents happen. if people are still willing to believe that a virgin gave birth 2 thousand years ago, I am sure there are many people willing to understand that sometimes, we don't control everything. I guess she paid for this 'lack of responsibility' enough without some kid preaching about it.
@damnwinter leave religion out of this and dont desrespect it even if you dont believe, and yes accidents happen but you have to take responsibilty not take the easy way out.
@CoolSky01 we'll talk more when you grow a pussy. get a clue. cheers.
@damnwinter iam not going to, that is the difference between men and women , dont play the giving birth card, she obviously didn't even do that !! if you're a dumb fuck who gets knocked up well... its not the babys fault
@CoolSky01 the giving birth card is definitely legit. i don't go around preaching to you on how to use your dick. also she didn't get knocked up on her own. so yeah. shit happens and she pays for it. so what exactly is your problem? did you bother to read about any of the torture she went through? alone? if she had brought a child into the world irresponsibly, fucking him up, that's true irresponsibility right there. this is one of those 'if you don't have anything nice to say then stfu' times. and you're making it worse with every single reply.
@CoolSky01 Actually I am everything but a feminazi, which I guess is what you mean by 'the reason why some men hate women'. I am all for protecting men against this crap that so-called feminists are up to. Also, the word 'little'... i think it suits you more than me :)) 'Bitch' may suit me, so I don't take offense. Also, about the 'meeting on the street' thing.. man you don't even have enough guts to show your username. :)) you're not even legally allowed to drink. get a grip.
@CoolSky01 when you become a man you can tell me if i am really the reason why some men are misoginists :))
@damnwinter u just tagged me...
@CoolSky01 good for you!
@damnwinter wow based on your comeback you're clearly the one that's needs to grow up.
If you think that was easy then your an ignorant fool. Just because you think raising a kid before your ready is the "responsible" decision, doesn't mean having an abortion is the easy way out. You must not any idea how difficult and not healthy having children is when your not ready. Things aren't that black and white man.
Don't have sex if you're not willing to deal with the consequences. I don't care how old you are and I don't care if you are 12 and decide to have sex. I'm fine with that. But not with getting abortions cause it's convenient for you and because you didn't think it through. I have no sympathy for people like you honestly. Because of your selfishness (I don't even think you're stupid. You're actually selfish) you in a way killed your own baby because you were careless and didn't want to own up to your choices.
@damnwinter Shut your gob, i agree with him she is selfish and took the easy way and blamed a man for her actions just like a typical girl
@damnwinter You are a feminazi
@stallion12 And you sir are not a stallion, let alone you also felt the need to mention your mental age next to your username
Yo this is some deep shit right here. Are you still in the abusive relationship?
No I'm now in a very happy relationship and have been for a long while.
Wish I could chat private, so many questions.
I'll happily answer them here, but not in PM.
1. how long ago was this.
2. do you want kids kn the future.
3. what would you have done if your boyfriend wanted to keep the baby.
4. do you truly believe in your heart you made the right decision? What would have happend if you told your parents, and they offered to help.
NB I'm not judging you, just curious so you don't have to answer any of my questions.
It was years ago.
Unsure if I want children.
If he had wanted it I would most likely have had it. I did leave out one detail: I called him the morning of the procedure, I told him I was pregnant and that I was going for an abortion. He asked why I had called. I had called to make sure he was ok with that as I couldn't have gone through without his knowing.
I do think it was the right decision yes. I don't think the route to the decision was the right one though. My parents would have supported me emotionally. There would not have been any anger or disappointment from them. They have always shown me unconditional love.
And what if you get pregnant now?
I'd have the child without even a second thought. I'm financially secure, mentally stable and in a long term committed relationship.
Cool good for you all the best.
this is pretty horrifying. but you were young at the time and were not able to take care of a child.
I'll give you all the sympathy you deserve.
However, it was only your personal experience and this myTake simply sounds like a pro-life rant disguised as a sob story.
It's not. I know it's not.
I do not,
want to try and gain your sympathy
i just want you to know what exactly what abortion did to me
That wasn't the point of this Take at all. She just wanted to spread some light about this controversy. Many people argue and debate about this subject without even being educated about it or experiencing it.
She sounds like trash. I bet the baby was half black. Good riddance.
So the baby ruined your life?
No. It did not.
That's horrible but why write story anonymously?
I have no words
Your vile
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