It is Okay to Think You're Beautiful!

[RockDoll86]

Ladies!

It is 100% okay to think you are a beautiful woman!

What is with the stigma of girls being cocky because they think/know they are beautiful? Let me tell you what, that needs to end ASAP because there shouldn't be any shame in self-confidence. That very stigma is the same one that makes us feel as we can't think we're beautiful and therefore lowers out self-confidence, and sometimes even self-worth.

When we look in the mirror, we should be able to look at ourselves and say "Damn... I look good!" Go ahead, holla at yourself in the mirror like you mean every word you say, don't be ashamed! Snap your fingers and point at yourself, smack your butt, tussle your hair, smile uncontrollably... and then laugh because you probably look ridiculous hitting on yourself with no one else around because self-confidence has to start somewhere right! I challenge everyone who reads this, male or female, gay or straight, transgender or cisgender, to do that in the mirror and comment how you felt before and after.

How many of us have been picked on because our nose is slighty too big, too small? Teeth not white enough? Lips not full enough? Eyes not as big as "they should be"? For being shorter than the rest of your class? For being too tall? For not doing your makeup at all? For doing your makeup and getting called a clown? For your breasts not big enough for any attention? Breasts "too big" that get constant (sometimes unwanted) attention? Eyes up here, everyone ;)

Let's not forget about all my fellas out there! For the guys who are muscular and get picked on for being "too buff", for the guys out there who are on the gangly side and get picked on for "not being manly enough", for the guys who may or may not have a some fat on their bodies, for the guys out there who take pride in dressing in trendy clothing, for the guys who are fine in just jeans and a T-shirt: You are just as beautiful!

We are all beautiful. African American, Asian, white; we are beautiful creatures. Let's stop the body shaming, let's stop poking fun at the people who are still working on their self confidence, let's feel amazing.

Let's be confident. Let's be powerful. Let's be beautiful.

[thomasjjeffy]

Beauty is relative. To me, some of the girls look pretty while others they don't.

Some girls are more popular:a bigger group of guys find them "beautiful" like I do.

Just because you are not appreciated by 150guys but only 3, it doesn't mean that you'll not find a boyfriend or husband. After all, you only pick one guy and not more.

About the mirror thing: Yes, I do it a lot, quite often. And I do find myself good looking. While I also know that not everyone finds me good looking. I don't know why, but I don't really care. I won't straighten my hair, nor I will cut my beard and especially I can't do anything about my lips or skin color. Some find it special while others they don't.
Sure life is easier as a blonde girl with big boobs and a nice fit body, but fuck this shit, that's the life I was born with, I shall live this one even when things go wrong.

[ladieslady50]

Very profound article. I agree that there shouldn't be one particular standard to strive for. If you're shorter or taller, there's not much that can be done. I do believe that health is important and fitness, but for those who don't aspire for fitness, should I be shaming them? No, because that's my journey, not theirs.

[RockDoll86]

I am extremely into fitness as well! As a derby girl, how can I not be? Gotta be strong for game time 👊💪

[ladieslady50]

roller derby? It's not that big in Australia... it would be fun, though

[RockDoll86]

Yes, roller derby! If you are really into fitness, you'd love it. Just the right amount of control, agility, speed, and hits made it the perfect sport for me

[ladieslady50]

I like contact sport too... I do Krav Maga at the moment because I like to hit and kick...

[RockDoll86]

Ohhh I've never heard of that before. That's something I'd definitely be into

[ladieslady50]

Israeli martial art, originally used to their military and designed to be lethal. In Australia they give us the watered down civilian version just for practical self-defence

[crazyincalifornia]

The facts are more that beauty is really in the eyes of the beholder.
I'm 19 YO, AA titless.
Yet I'm fairly tall and thin 100 lb. at 5/8 with a Christey Brinkley million dollar smile
So some guys are crazy for me, and others don't give me a second glance
I accept the fact that I will probably never have any significant cleavage.
Girls mostly like me, although I do get some hostility from them if I'm strutting around in one of my string bikinis.
:)

[FlyingTurtle]

At 5'8 and 100 lbs you are clinically anorexic, I hope you're eating well :/

[Arnelle]

Some people are just naturally really thin. I was really sick when I was younger and don't weigh a lot

[Arnelle]

@FlyingTurtle

[crazyincalifornia]

Anorexic relates to age, height, eating habits, genetics and is only indirectly related to weight.
My BMI is around 16.6 in kg/m2.
As a family we are able to eat whatever (almost) and not gain weight.
I am thin for sure, like many EU, but healthy.
I love my bod and so do plenty of guys.

[dartmaul15]

I'm going to be unpopular and say that unhealthy = not beautiful.
Sorry, but your health (at least when it comes to body shape) is your own decisions. Not telling you all to be fit, just don't be freakishly skinny, or too overweight. And we are softcoded to not like that, because it results in a decreased chance of survival compared to a regular healthy look.

Unpopular opinion over

[FirmSteam]

it is fine to think you are hot... until it strays into arrogance... or the idea that everything girls do is great and beyond criticism. Which often happens in modern western nations like the UK and the US

[RockDoll86]

I also agree with you. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance.

[FirmSteam]

hmm cool. Impressed by your mature attitude. x

[RockDoll86]

Thank you very much!

[abbynormal67]

That is exactly what I needed to read. I am beautiful! Thank you.

[RockDoll86]

You are very welcome :)

[sugarvenomx]

This is a good article. But I also think we should allow ourselves to accept or insecurities. We don't HAVE to feel beautiful all the time and that's okay because we never will. As long as we feel beautiful when it counts that's all that matters

[Kshppatel]

Society's version of beautiful people get treated better than those who society believes are not beautiful. I used to be very fat and now I am less fat and I can tell a huge difference in how I am being treated by random strangers. Its great for me but then again its sad.

[RockDoll86]

It is sad that society creates this mold of what beautiful people should look/be like. Why can't everyone appreciate everyone's own uniqueness? *sigh*

[gray_sailor]

Damn straight girl!

Speak the truth out loud!

Testify!

[Anonymous]

I completely agree with this. You can either hate yourself and be insecure with yourself and inevitably suffer and bring those down around you. Or you can love yourself and take care of yourself and be the best you can be (which is better)
sure we all have our own insecurities but we should just be more accepting of things we cannot control. i can't control how i look but i can control how i feel

its all a matter of mindset

[bubble_tea]

Is there something wrong to be humble?

I'm all for having self-confidence, but your self-confidence shouldn't only be depended on your looks or how much you admire your own looks...

[RockDoll86]

I know. I just figured that since most women I know have trouble with this, I'd make this a point of many about self confidence. I agree that it shouldn't depend on looks, there's many factors that go into it

[Laura1995]

As long as you don't think you look better than everyone else, then that's totally fine!!

[SecretSomeone]

It is fine to think you are beautiful but not to be delusional that your health is fine when you're putting it to risk.

[RockDoll86]

Yes, I completely agree.

[abundantlyrich]

No one really prefers uniquesness anymore. They have become freakshows.

[RockDoll86]

And I hate that -_- What is so wrong with uniqueness? In my personal experience, I have "toe" thumbs and I love them, but everyone I meet says they're weird and "freaky." I've even had people ask me if I thought about reshaping them to make them look "normal."

[abundantlyrich]

What is a toe thumb?

Yes its sad but they're still being brainwashed. It's not my job to tell them since they still don't care. Let them suffer the consequences. When they get rejected by guys who go for an average girl. They will asking oh why did that guy go for an ugly Asian or African but I'm so beautiful? Lmao.

[abundantlyrich]

They will be asking here in gag

[RockDoll86]

A toe thumb is basically a short thumb that is slender at the base but flares out. It kind of looks like a mini version of your big toe

[abundantlyrich]

I don't really think people will pay attention to that. :)

[RockDoll86]

Believe me, when you talk with your hands a lot, they definitely notice. Past boyfriends have been grossed out about it, but whatever. They're ex's for a reason ;) I love them since I've only met 2 other girls who have them so far. They're what make me well... me

[abundantlyrich]

Well i can't say much since your from somewhere much different

[RockDoll86]

I take it you're from out of the states?

[abundantlyrich]

Yes :P

[RockDoll86]

Ahh haha I wish I lived wherever you did!

[abundantlyrich]

Yea you will like it. :)... But i have lived in the states before. Does that count? people are intense there.

[RockDoll86]

It counts :p And yeah, too intense for my liking

[Arnelle]

Honey intense is not the word

[abundantlyrich]

@Arnelle i wasn't talking to u. Stop interrupting.

[abundantlyrich]

Are you talking about west coast?

[Arnelle]

Well then excuse me for expressing thought. I hope you can forgive me as I am in my sincerest regrets

[abundantlyrich]

@Arnelle i think your trollin.

[notverycreativeguy]

Not all people are beautiful, stop spreading lies.
Actually, a lot of people are not beautiful at all.

[Arnelle]

Just because someone doesn't fit the social beauty standards doesn't mean they aren't beautiful. What's ugly to you could be stunning to someone else

[RockDoll86]

Not to mention that beautiful doesn't only pertain to appearance. You could use the word beautiful to describe their creativity, their intelligence, their personality, their quirks. I put so much emphasis on appearance because women have a harder time with this from the time they hit puberty til death

[notverycreativeguy]

In that case even more people are not beautiful at all.
Women have it way easier than men, most men are horny jerks who would fuck any girl anyways.

[lolalovesvedette]

Body confidence is overrated when your thoughts are in the gutter.

[kangy]

it is good to see ourselves as awesome but not in denial.

[jjodllwedo]

this. just this. i need to give you a hug. *hugs*

[RockDoll86]

*hugs* :)

[Kerianna]

Of course its okay to call ur self beautiful!! It's better than calling yourself ugly right

[Anonymous]

I'll believe I'm good looking the day I can go to a bar and get decent service WITHOUT having a good looking friend with me.

[Arnelle]

Nobody has the right to tell you your not beautiful just because they can't see it

[Insignis]

If that's true then why do women say it turns them off when I think I'm handsome?

[RockDoll86]

Maybe you're talking to the wrong women? But there is also a double standard which I totally forgot to mention in this post. When women think they're beautiful, it comes off as sexy and confident. When men think they're handsome, it comes off as arrogant and cocky which is complete bullshit.

[Insignis]

You're right, I'm talking to the wrong women.

[RockDoll86]

Glad you help you then (I think?)

[Arnelle]

Just don't think you're so awesome and every girl wants to sleep with you. Don't be Barney Stinson. I repeat. DON'T. BE. BARNEY. STINSON.

[EnterUserName]

what is the intention to think ur beautyful? is it used to compare yourself?

is it finding beauty in life?

it depends on why you ask

[RockDoll86]

It does depend on who you ask but I don't agree with your statement that the intention to think you're beautiful is used to compare yourself because that's not what it's about. Thinking you're beautiful, in my opinion, is all about being happy with yourself and who you are. It's all about being happy with the cards you were dealt.