Wow, never met a person who thought all those flaws were red flags and deal breakers. :O Thank you for replying, it was really interesting reading your point of view. ^^
aren't these obvious? if you haven't met a person that considers these red flags you haven't met many people. clingy=insecure=trouble, snobby=prideful=trouble, lazy= problem cause a lazy woman usually doesn't make a good housewife and mother, sassy= bad for obvious reasons as well. the home can't have "two masclinities". it would be explosive.
im a person that sees 10 steps ahead. people that can't see beyond their nose, bitch all the tmie about how terrible choices they mad and how they screwed up. better careful than sorry. you are welcome.
Everyone has a flaw that will be trouble sooner, or later. These descriptions are superficial and regular people have something like this plus 20 more flaws. If you see trouble everywhere, I don't know where you'll find a girl who is good enough for you. :O
Even Hana you claim to pick, you actually reject because she might be a cunt who is just too timid and sensitive to show she's a cunt.
Is there a flaw you'd accept? A flaw you'd take and say, alright, I can deal with this girl and her flaw... I'm seriously curious about this. :O
yes. being sensitive and overly emptional SOME times. being a bit strict with money, but that can be a good thing for a housewife if its not exaggerated. being fragile and sensitive-get tired easily. being not very smart. wanting to concentrate in carreer and hobbies. all these are things i can take.
BUT things like sluttiness, cunning, clinginess, anger, judging, backstabbing, gold digging, having no spirituality, being mettally unstable and unpredictable, revengfulness, obsessions, addictions, laziness, too much drama, are things i won't take. AND THEY ARE NOT SHALLOW AT ALL. they are BASIC.
I never said they are shallow. :O It's just that I've never seen someone with such a long list of deal breakers, or met a girl who meets them for that matter. In extreme form, people would agree. For example, take laziness. "A little lazy" passes for people and it's not seen as a deal breaker, but a "total slob and/or useless" is a deal breaker for most people. But you just saying " lazy" as one in the long list of similar deal breakers... That I don't see often, is all.
confucius used to say my dear young girl, that "you need to remove nothing more than a little brick every time, to make the huge castle collapse". small passions-weaknesses that dont get confronted, are breeding ground for even more destructive situations in the longterm. for example, being a bit non disciplined with how much you eat today, can lead you to full fledged bulimia one day if the stressful breeding conditions occur. there is no small and big sin, they are all big. caues the small thing will lead to the bigger and thats how degeneration happens.
"small passions-weaknesses that dont get confronted, are breeding ground for even more destructive situations in the longterm." No argument there mister. But confronting a passion/sin/personal flaw is one thing. It means to confront your own flaws and work to fight them and overcome them every day. It means to help the person you are with confront theirs by confronting them, or to support them as they fight entropy day in and day out.
But making all these flaws a "deal breaker" is not confronting them. It's avoiding them, seeking perfection.
Also the girl you describe can't exist now that I think about it.
Kinda dumb (not smart, you won't even say dumb), sensitive, yet drama free. If a girl is dumb while also being sensitive, you'll get drama by default. She has to be really intelligent to turn her sensitivity into gentleness and not to misdirect it onto others in some evil form. Career and hobby driven, yet a housewife... I don't get this. "Cheap, but not too much" isn't even a flaw. It's being good with money.
^ That's just a smart girl pretending to be dumb in order to seem cute and get a guy. (Something Japanese girls famously do to get guys.) Now I know where you can find a wife. XD
never said that. for example being a bit clingy isn't bad. it can be cute and romantic some times. so in a manageable degree some things are tolerable. but others are redflags from the very beggining. as is sluttiness, cunning or craziness.
"i never said she should be all these together. thats YOUR deduction. you said dont tolerate aany drawbacks and i listed some random ones i do." I see... ^^'
Also, I seriously recommend Japan. Chinese, Korean, Indian, Arabic, Palestinian, Indonesian, etc. girls aren't really like that as far as I know. Only Japanese girl have this in majority.
Mine? :O (girls' interests will get talked about on another myTake) XD
My deal breakers are being too short and being stupid. My desires really kind of change, depending on the guy I like... I mostly wish he'd be smart and a good person. :/
We all are. I hope you successfully narrow it down. For example a prominent part f your personality can't both be Hana and Claire (even if you do have traits of both). Which one defines you most? How do people see you? ^^
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cool nerd take. but honestly i'd avoid most of these supposedly "good recomendations".
Avoid most? Who would you not avoid?
What kind of girl would work for you then, if none of these even come close?
only the first might do it. but yet again i hope these supressed feelings dont build up inside her, cause that would be a disaster.
And what is wrong with the other girls? Mid if I ask why you'd reject them?
clingy, snobby, lazy, sassy. these are the main redflags that girls 2,3,4,5 have...
Wow, never met a person who thought all those flaws were red flags and deal breakers. :O Thank you for replying, it was really interesting reading your point of view. ^^
aren't these obvious? if you haven't met a person that considers these red flags you haven't met many people. clingy=insecure=trouble, snobby=prideful=trouble, lazy= problem cause a lazy woman usually doesn't make a good housewife and mother, sassy= bad for obvious reasons as well. the home can't have "two masclinities". it would be explosive.
im a person that sees 10 steps ahead. people that can't see beyond their nose, bitch all the tmie about how terrible choices they mad and how they screwed up. better careful than sorry. you are welcome.
Everyone has a flaw that will be trouble sooner, or later. These descriptions are superficial and regular people have something like this plus 20 more flaws. If you see trouble everywhere, I don't know where you'll find a girl who is good enough for you. :O
Even Hana you claim to pick, you actually reject because she might be a cunt who is just too timid and sensitive to show she's a cunt.
Is there a flaw you'd accept? A flaw you'd take and say, alright, I can deal with this girl and her flaw... I'm seriously curious about this. :O
yes. being sensitive and overly emptional SOME times. being a bit strict with money, but that can be a good thing for a housewife if its not exaggerated. being fragile and sensitive-get tired easily. being not very smart. wanting to concentrate in carreer and hobbies. all these are things i can take.
BUT things like sluttiness, cunning, clinginess, anger, judging, backstabbing, gold digging, having no spirituality, being mettally unstable and unpredictable, revengfulness, obsessions, addictions, laziness, too much drama, are things i won't take. AND THEY ARE NOT SHALLOW AT ALL. they are BASIC.
I never said they are shallow. :O
It's just that I've never seen someone with such a long list of deal breakers, or met a girl who meets them for that matter.
In extreme form, people would agree. For example, take laziness. "A little lazy" passes for people and it's not seen as a deal breaker, but a "total slob and/or useless" is a deal breaker for most people. But you just saying " lazy" as one in the long list of similar deal breakers... That I don't see often, is all.
confucius used to say my dear young girl, that "you need to remove nothing more than a little brick every time, to make the huge castle collapse". small passions-weaknesses that dont get confronted, are breeding ground for even more destructive situations in the longterm. for example, being a bit non disciplined with how much you eat today, can lead you to full fledged bulimia one day if the stressful breeding conditions occur. there is no small and big sin, they are all big. caues the small thing will lead to the bigger and thats how degeneration happens.
"small passions-weaknesses that dont get confronted, are breeding ground for even more destructive situations in the longterm."
No argument there mister. But confronting a passion/sin/personal flaw is one thing. It means to confront your own flaws and work to fight them and overcome them every day. It means to help the person you are with confront theirs by confronting them, or to support them as they fight entropy day in and day out.
But making all these flaws a "deal breaker" is not confronting them. It's avoiding them, seeking perfection.
Also the girl you describe can't exist now that I think about it.
Kinda dumb (not smart, you won't even say dumb), sensitive, yet drama free. If a girl is dumb while also being sensitive, you'll get drama by default. She has to be really intelligent to turn her sensitivity into gentleness and not to misdirect it onto others in some evil form.
Career and hobby driven, yet a housewife... I don't get this.
"Cheap, but not too much" isn't even a flaw. It's being good with money.
^ That's just a smart girl pretending to be dumb in order to seem cute and get a guy. (Something Japanese girls famously do to get guys.) Now I know where you can find a wife. XD
never said that. for example being a bit clingy isn't bad. it can be cute and romantic some times. so in a manageable degree some things are tolerable. but others are redflags from the very beggining. as is sluttiness, cunning or craziness.
i never said she should be all these together. thats YOUR deduction. you said dont tolerate aany drawbacks and i listed some random ones i do.
Clingy to a small degree is not a flaw. Just like selfish to a small degree is not a flaw. It's good and it helps the relationship.
But if you mean crazy, really cunning and a slut. Yes, those are deal breakers for many people. There you're not different.
yes im totally thinking of going to asia to find a wife. these women can be awesome. you got ONE thing right at least...
"i never said she should be all these together. thats YOUR deduction. you said dont tolerate aany drawbacks and i listed some random ones i do."
I see... ^^'
Also, I seriously recommend Japan. Chinese, Korean, Indian, Arabic, Palestinian, Indonesian, etc. girls aren't really like that as far as I know. Only Japanese girl have this in majority.
Japan it is then. sayonara!
Hehe, good luck to you! :D
what about YOUR desires and red flags for men? just curious.
Mine? :O (girls' interests will get talked about on another myTake) XD
My deal breakers are being too short and being stupid.
My desires really kind of change, depending on the guy I like... I mostly wish he'd be smart and a good person. :/
Why are they all white?
All Japanese anime appear to be that color with few exceptions, this isn't a race dilemma.
Thank you zorro8888. ^^
Lol wow
I'm like Maria in nearly every aspect.
Maybe wendy or claire..
I'm 80% Wendy with a 20% of Kate
I would pursue Maria for sure.
Closest to Claire, but still not even close.
I'm 90% of Hana and 10% of Maria.
Either Haba or Maria, intellectual girls FTW.
If I pressed for you to choose only one to take out, who'd win? ^^
I'd say Hana, since I'm too much like Maria myself that would probably not go well.
Being Hana is the struggle
Lol, I hear ya. xD
Mainly Claire but also a mix of Wendy.
I'm a blend of the five
We all are. I hope you successfully narrow it down. For example a prominent part f your personality can't both be Hana and Claire (even if you do have traits of both). Which one defines you most? How do people see you? ^^
Maria Is awesome
I agree. She's based on my mum and my best friend. :3
Hana or claire or maria...
Mix of Hana and Claire
I would date
1. maria
2. wendy 😊
They all sound awful, i pick none
I like a Hana or a wendy better :)
Claire is quite the woman!
I am a mixture of Maria and Claire.