What do girls mean when they say, "Nothing, its okay, I'm fine,"?

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Does anyone have an answer I seriously don't know and am very curious.

MaskedSanity · Accepted Answer

It REALLY depends on the tone and the woman saying it, to be honest.

If I say I'm fine, it means I'm fine and it gets really annoying, because this stereotype enables other people to go "No you're not. What's up?" and you then end up in a battle trying to convince the other person you don't need a shoulder to cry on.
Bitch, I was fine until you insisted listening to whatever I DIDN'T have to say. I don't do the whole mind games bullshit, because it gets you nowhere and it just fuels and prolongs arguments. If something bothers me, I'll just outright say it.

However, other women do it, because they want their man to "sense" and "just know", which I think is a load of shit. They want their man to be able to read their mind and sweep them off their feet i. e. be treated like some fucking princess.

I think guys should try doing that to their girlfriends and see how they like it, lol.

Ananchor · Accepted Answer

Either way, whether she is fine or not. It means to back off. She's done talking about it now.
If she said it but you can tell she is still upset, just go out of your way to be a little nicer, don't so everything for her (she will think its insincere)
If she said it calmly, just go out of your way to be a little nicer, don't so everything for her (she will think its insincere)

She's obviously someone you care about, it doesn't matter what she says or how she says it. Just be there for her and show her that you care. You don't have to treat her "like a princess" most girls would prefer to be your queen anyway ;)

dupe666 · Accepted Answer

When I say it, it can mean two things. Either "Drop it. I don't want you to know, or talk to me about this.", or "I'm fine."
That thing where women say "I'm fine", but expect you to run after them I find utterly retarded. I make it a point to state my expectations, no matter how insecure I am about the possibility that men will think I'm crazy. It's better to be "crazy" and tell him the truth, than to be "normal" and act like an idiot.

XRabbitHeartX · Accepted Answer

If I just say "it's OK" or "I'm OK" with nothing else and no elaboration then likely that is me trying to cover up the fact that I'm actually indeed pretty hurt. If I truly was OK I'd say more than that but if it's short like that then yup... I'm not fine and I'm not OK with whatever.

Ishocnar · Accepted Answer

It is the most frustrating thing a woman says to a man. It basically means you have done something and she feels it is up to you to figure it out. Lord help you if you can't figure it out too, because then she will feel you dont care enough about her to know what it is. Ladies please realise guys are simple and if you dont tell them what is wrong we will not understand.

HandsomeRaj · Accepted Answer

From a very long and varied experience - one of the most feared words and situations even to those like me who don't give a shit about a gun pointed at their face or being in battle lol, you realize what's the meaning of 'blood running cold' is the moment these words and similar are uttered from a girl's lips :D

Vote 'B' (most time)

Rcjh1987 · Answer

Wow 9 guys get it lol haha... Haha most girls are lying when they say this... but sometimes I say this when wanted to be left alone... Sometimes it's you've really hurt us... I usually use the it doesn't matter... I know you men hate that one...:. But for me easier to say that.. It's my way of saying I'm not ready to talk about it and you anyone better quit asking because a your going to piss me off and b make it worse...

emilys123 · Answer

It really depends on the tone. Sometimes I say it just so the other person will shut up, sometimes because i'm not fine at all, or maybe because I just don't want to talk about it. You should always double check, but don't get too insistent because it can be irritating.

molan · Answer

Women are complicated, you can't trust what they say to be true, you have to listen to how they say it... the tone of voice, the body language.

The same goes for many other things women say or do, they are very ambiguous - never meat a women who weren't ambiguous in some way. Although some are worse then other of cause.

zombiebabe · Answer

err nope.. not a good sign... most of the time when she says 'nothing , its okay i'm fine"... she's normally about to cry or she is just angry (its normally the case with me;p)

StrawberryCream · Answer

Things are not looking good

dinecify · Answer

It depends on the tone she says it in. It may mean that she does not want to talk about it or she expects u to know she is not fine. Most of the times it means she is not okay but she wants to avoid an argument.

northernligths · Answer

Depends how she said it.
It could be genuine or It means you did something wrong and she is pissed and she doesn't want to tell you. And she is mad because you are clueless. So, What did you do? See you dont know and that's why she's mad!

TheDevilInside · Answer

lol look at the unanimous answer from 28 people! No one voted A! Faith in humanity restored... =D  This is the most basic thing everyone shoudl know when talking to a girl.

justbanANNAz · Answer

I AM NOT FINE AT ALL PLEASE HELP ME/STAY WITH ME/TALK TO ME or I AM NOT FINE AT ALL BUT UR THE LAST PERSON I WANT TO C RIGHT NOW. i just wanna b alone.

Realistic07 · Answer

it means something's bugging them, but they won't just come out and say it. It may not necessarily be about the one there with, but it is something on the mind though.

jeanbean · Answer

For me it means I'm totally not fine, but I don't want you to know that. I want to deal with this issue myself and I'll talk to you about it if I want you involved.

Hellena16 · Answer

It generally means we want to talk about but we want to see if you actually care enough to keep asking. Sometimes it's hard for girls to open up in front of a male because they think they are going to be judged by what they are going to say. Just make her feel comfortable and let her know that she can trust you and that you won't judge her. :)

1xadzy3dgSG · Answer

It means the conversation needs to end, unless you don't wanna be fine. Or, "nothing, it's ok, I'm fine". Sometimes there's no deeper meaning, it is what it is. Either way, end the conversation.

Anonymous · Answer

Well personally for me when i say that it means that I'm really upset and/or mad as well as maybe even on the verge of crying. And when i say it I hope that you ask insist a bit to try and figure out what's wrong.

Arnelle · Answer

For me, it either means I don't want to talk about it, I want to talk about it but I'm not sure how, or it's something I'm hiding from u. U mite just wanna hug whoever said that

youbecreative · Answer

it means nothing is ok im not ok... and if you dont take back whatever it is you say/do or plan to do you are bot gonna be ok either lol

Katy16 · Answer

Most likely answer: It is definitely not ok and she's not fine and you need to find out what's wrong before she gets even more upset

JSmuve · Answer

When in doubt, listen to the tone of voice. It's easy to fake words but less-so to fake voice intonation. If she sounds annoyed, angry, sad, etc., then chances are she is.

PianoChopinCharmaine · Answer

If they're crying before they're not ok. If you like her then go comfort her.

Anonymous · Answer

It means that the girl actually needs a hug. And the 'Means go slit your own rists..' First of all *wrists and second of all, don't encourage that you dipshit

Anonymous · Answer

it means that she wants you to find out whats wrong or depending on how she says it in rare cases things might actually be fine but its hardly like that lol

tauruses · Answer

when I say this I usually want you to ask me whats wrong. lol  i dont know i say this when I am not sure how to convey my feelings or when i expect u to know whats wrong.

DirtyDiamondDave · Answer

Im ok = somethings up but I want you to magically figure it out.

Anonymous · Answer

Means go slit your own rists if you think things are any where near "FINE"

sephylove · Answer

It's not Okay. Get your act together !!

LittleSally · Answer

HAHAHAHA not okay at all...

Ghosty · Answer

Lol those statistics though!

rUinSAYAN · Answer

just invert what she said haha

ieatDaCake · Answer

Obviously something's up with her, she's not ok

Anonymous · Answer

Code Red!!

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