Should I let my girlfriend go fishing (my hobby) with another guy that I have hated for a long time? She never wants to fish with me?

[Anonymous]

I have asked my girlfriend many times to go fishing with me but she never wants too. This guy I've hated since before me and my girl started dating asked her once and she wants to go.

[Anonymous]

maybe the 3 years are fizzling down. Usually 3 years is where it is a make or break year. If you make it then you'll be fine. But, if you don't then it's over.

I have a feeling she wants out of the relationship, she just doesn't have a backup to turn to just yet. When she is sure the other guy likes her enough to take her in she will leave you.

Personal experience...

Watch soon she will start to pin the blame on you for not allowing her to spend time with guy friends that are supposedly like brothers to her.

[Asker]

That's one reason I hate the guy, he tries to mess up relationships and I know he likes her. I have told her that multiple times, but she says that he has changed.

[Opinion Owner]

Dude you can't win man... but at the same time YOU deserve a woman that isn't lame enough to SEE your point of view. So i see it as you should dump her before she does screw around with the guy behind your back.

I mean NO girl that truly loves a guy would EVER not take part in his hobby and yet take part in it with another person of the opposite sex.

Yeah the dude might be an assole, but it's not entirely his fault if your girl is going after him. I personally don't go after engaged, married or women in relationships. I only go for single women, but lot's of douches will do it because they want it all.

I'm just trying to get you ready for the worst, because this happened to me too bro. My only regret was not dumping her and having to find her cheating on me on the day of our 3rd anniversary.

Save yourself while you can!

[Asker]

I know, but I actually want to catch her so I can blow up on her and somehow make her feel like complete shit and get revenge some how. Because I know that she is smart and if I don't catch her I will never catch her.

[Opinion Owner]

How will she feel like shit?

She will feel bad for a few mins then laugh it off because she will have replaced you easily. It won't matter to her if you catch her or not. She will have the other guy to turn too.

Also getting revenge isn't worth it. I wanted revenge too, but it made me realize I was falling to her level.

[Asker]

I didn't think of that, I just want to at least catch her and if she does anything then it will over then and I know some girls I could go to for back up to maybe piss her off.

[Opinion Owner]

you won't catch her dude... trust me. I wish you would listen otherwise you will go through all the BS I went through.

#1 no use catching her and if you do it will be after she uses you even more
#2 revenge will lead to no where, people will laugh at you for stooping to her level
#3 mature people don't go for revenge.. they go for success.

Dump her and move on and find someone else. You might luck out and find a girl that actually likes fishing and there ARE woman that like it.

[Asker]

Yeah, that would be the best thing to do

[Opinion Owner]

the girl I was with messed around for 2 months and I knew it, but I couldn't catch her... I never did. I only caught her or got a gist of it when she got engaged to the guy after 2 months of knowing him/cheating on me.

Better to just bail while you can and you're young not like you will have an issue.

[Asker]

Damn, I'm sorry that you went through all that. I guess the best thing to do is get out

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that's my biggest regret.. that I didn't bail first and let her cheat on me.. and dump me 1st.

Don't let it happen to you bro...

[Asker]

Alright, thanks for the advice

[AdamThomas]

She'll go witg him but not you? Yeah there's definitely something fishy going on here.

I'd just dump the bitch. She's clearly doing some sneaky shit behind your back. Even if you try setting boundaries and telling her off for it she'll find a way to do it again only she'llhide it better than she is now.

[Asker]

That's why I'm allowing her to go but I'm gonna follow in a friends car without them knowing so I can catch her the first time.

[AdamThomas]

How did you find out she was going fishing with him? She tell you? I wouldn't go to the trouble of following them.

[Asker]

She told me that he was texting her and I was okay with that at first and then she told me he offered to take her fishing and she wanted to go.

[AdamThomas]

What did you say to that?

[FeelMyLoveBaby]

NO! It will be the end of your relationship! And why the hell she wants to go with him and not with you? there seems to be something wrong here dude!

[Asker]

She tries saying that's it different with friends than with me and that I'm too serious.

[FeelMyLoveBaby]

Sorry to be too blunt but i think she is cheating or hiding something from you! No girl would reject to do something with her boyfriend but okay to do with her friend that too with a guy friend!

Time to do some detective work!

[Asker]

I have a feeling she is. She has gotten really close to her phone lately also and I know they text each other a lot but she deletes the messages before I can see them.

[FeelMyLoveBaby]

Dump her before she dumps you!!!

You will be hurt first but you will heal! Eventually you will find a girl who is worth your time!

[Asker]

I just want to catch her, if I do catch then it will be over as soon as I see it or hear about it.

[FeelMyLoveBaby]

Another thing she is making a fool of you by in relationship with you but cheating on you, she does not respect you or the love you show her! You know he likes her and she knows that too! Do it before you loose your face!

I would like to suggest best revenge to take on how to break up with her! But would be better if you could confirm she is cheating on you! if not you will become a douche! :)

[FeelMyLoveBaby]

Instead of checking her phone check his! Get someone to do it for you! He has no reason to delete the convo between them! and snapshot it and send it to you! Proof!

You can trail them to their fishing area and see what they do!

Okay my ideas are becoming crazy! Just trust your instinct man! It never lies!

[Asker]

I'm gonna be watching her close without her knowing and try to confirm this stuff.

[Asker]

I have no one to get to his phone, but I was thinking about borrowing a friends car to trail them and watch with a camara.

[FeelMyLoveBaby]

You got to embarrass her like something this video did if she was cheating on you!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fOibEyJFr14

[Asker]

I'll just tell her family and everyone she knows. He family loves me so I know they would disown her.

[FeelMyLoveBaby]

So how did it go?

[misscocobutter]

You can't really stop her can you, I think she's trying to wind you up. Hoping you will get jealous

[chuckyegg]

She's going to cheat on you. Girls and guys don't mix as friends ever (unless gay). Get out of there. I know from experience.

[Asker]

I have been dating the girl for almost 3 years now and she just recently started talking to him out of nowhere. I have never loved someone like this before. I have thought about borrowing a friends car and watching them for the whole day, but idk.

[chuckyegg]

She's blatantly trying to get with this guy. Seriously, dump her. She is not worth it. You will be Plan B if this guy doesn't work out for her even though you are her boyfriend, and she will only do it again with another guy. You deserve better than her. And do not go back to her either. She has the audacity to do this to you, she doesn't deserve you.

[chuckyegg]

Also, confront her, and ask her why she would never go with you, and she all of a sudden wants to go with him?

[Asker]

I have confronted her about it, she says that I take it too seriously which I really don't take serious at all.

[characterdeelaa]

use her own move against her then... if she is allowed to do that. Then you can go fishing with another woman that's your friend. See how she likes the taste of her own medicine.

[chuckyegg]

Dump her or cheat on her first, those are your only two viable options

[Asker]

I've thought about doing something like that, I just don't know what exactly yet, cause no girl I know really likes to fish.

[chuckyegg]

What ever you do, you must accept that this is the end of the relationship, and any person that does something like she is doing is not worth anything as a human.

[Asker]

I am already accepting that but when I catch her I want to show the evidence to her parents so she'll get disowned by them. Her parents love me more than anything and I know they will side with me.

[characterdeelaa]

wrong dude.. her parents will side with her ALWAYS.. that's THEIR daughter. They rather die then not fight for her. Everyone loves and fights for their own blood and flesh. You showing them proof will just make you look insecure and like a fool.

That's why when you see court cases and some dude has murdered someone. The family ALWAYS sides with their own kid and family. The same will happen here too.

Like I said earlier.. bail out and who cares what she does after.

Don't waste time on something that isn't worth it.

[Asker]

It's different though. Her parents think of her as a goody two shoes and that she never does anything bad, but I have a lot of proof to get her in trouble. She is only 17 and her parents are really strict.

[Brontosaurus]

I've had a really bad experience with crap like this to the point that it is a huge red flag for me. Sorry dude. :(

[Panzer103]

The signs don't look good. Might want to watch get a bit and of course tell her not to.

[Asker]

I have told her not to, but she gets mad and says she wants some friend time.

[Panzer103]

Well if you have someone who knows you all that could "chaperone" that would make things easier. He could keep an eye on her so nothing happens

[Asker]

I want to watch her without her knowing so I could catch her in the act.

[chuckyegg]

dump her, friend time is bullshit. There's only two girls that I'm genuine friends with and have no interest in, and I'd never ask them to come and spend some time with me when they have boyfriends.

[Asker]

I have never asked any girl I'm not dating to anything even if they don't have boyfriends.

[Panzer103]

Yeah. I'm just trying to approach this from a more sympathetic angle. Although I fully agree with the MO

[Chris011]

Honestly i would be pissed off if my girlfriend did that to me.

[NZDSTR]

Hell no !! SHe's doing it on purpose to hurt you. You've done something to upset her and now she wants you to suffer watch out mate !

[Anonymous]

if you do this, your girl may hold the man's fish ;) so no.

[cavmanier]

Sounds like bad news. Gtfo in my opinion

[DirtyDiamondDave]

I second that

[Insaan]

May your relationship R. I. P.
Amen.

[Insaan]

Once she goes with him,
Take your phone , click on contacts, search her name, click options , select delete.
Then go to your mind and delete her from recycle bin.