Would you be okay with him Catfishing you? Or maybe her is, you don't even"really" know him... How can love someone you've never met... How can he? How do you call that "dating"... And if you can't communicate without games or tricks... That's a relationship that ain't going to last anyway... Need to learn to be upfront and ask the person you supposed to be dating... But if I may... Don't you think it'd be better to date someone you can have a real relationship with, verses internet relationship? Then you wouldn't have to be asking this question, you'd know first hand cuz you'd really know him... Love is more than words... Love is actions...
wait.. he's your boyfriend and you haven't met yet? How do you know you're not getting catfished? You guys need to meet already face to face, that will change a lot and prove if your're compatible or not.
also bring a friend, pepper spray, stun gun since this the first time you're meeting if turns out to me some old creep.
Thanks so much for the answer but it kinda made me paranoid 😭😭 he sent me his pics but now I can't help but think what if he's a fake , someone maybe who hates me set him up with me , should I tell him about this?
No. just ask him to do someone weird in a photo that no one else can do. Tell him to stand on one foot, sticking his tongue out, while holding something in his right hand etc. If he can't provide you a picture doing that or just doesn't want to... red alert.
What you’re looking for are spoon pics
@ChefPapiChulo I once asked a catfish for a spoon pic and he sent me one from the wide world web and I unmasked him. It was my family friend who has been madly in love with me for 10 years. 🙄
@Gisellecute okay?
@Gisellecute aww do you like him or not?
I have no idea what she's even saying.
@BlueScorpio No I don’t! I’m happy with my boyfriend
@ChefPapiChulo Who tf are you? Irrelevant.
@ChefPapiChulo I think you got confused. She was responding to your spoon commit and just telling you about her experience i'm guessing.
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@BlueScorpio Yes! I asked the person for a “spoon picture” and he sent me one from the internet.
@Gisellecute English must not be your first language.
@ChefPapiChulo Coming from “PapiChulo” 😂 You done cooking for people yet?
Wow how many red flags can you throw up?
"Never met yet" if you haven't met yet how have you got to that stage? You usually go on at least a few dates before the boyfriend/if thing.
"He tells me he loves me" same as above.
"Is it a good idea to catfish" no, never, the problem with shit tests is that when a guy passes it never actually makes you feel better.
"Set up by someone who hates me" What? Why would anyone do that kind of thing for someone they hate? I would wager that taking a picture and doing an image search on google would be enlightening.
Ikr he tells me he loves too soon but I wonder what he wants from telling me this stupid lie , the funny thing is that I started to believe him 😞😞
Although that is a red flag it could be looked past.
The primary concern I have is ironically what makes you think he's not catfishing you? You mentioned in a comment that the person that introduced you hates you, doesn't it make sense that this is a setup to upset you? Does he exist or is it just this person who hates you messing with you?
I hope not but I really can't picture a scenario where you would do someone the favour of setting them up when you dislike them.
No I didn't say someone who hates me set me up , actually we came in contact by a girl who studies with me , he contacted me on messenger as he was in the same work team as me in a project. but just you know kinda have doubts if he came across someone who doesn't like me and they told him to play me. Im very confused , what would you do if it were you?
Thanks for the mho, I thought Id answered you already but must have just written it and not sent it.
As for what I would do. I tend to compartmentalise things and deal with them one thing at a time. I would discuss with them what I was thinking and feeling, If he really means it when he say the L world then that discussion won't be a problem.
If you do that you must be ready to accept that his trust in you might be irreparably broken if he finds out and that his trust in you isn't ever truly tested unless he finds out. As long as he doesn't know you did it, he trusts you based on his image of you, not who you actually are.
Are you willing to sacrifice his trust in you in order to find out if you can trust him?
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Try it, but if he's really serious he should break up with you afterwards.
I think I discovered something. Generally in order for someone to ask for passwords and spy on you or catfish, they have to actively decide it's worth losing you. So when they spy on you , then you know your value to them. Should be an instant breakup.
I don't mean to sound nosy, but what made you decide to enter a relationship with him before even meeting him?
Anyway, I don't think catfishing anyone is a good idea.
Depends on how long has it been since you two met. But a bad idea in my opinion.
Don't rush it from your side, the true relationship. If you feel like he's love bombing you too soon, then don't be in a relationship with and do it. A relationship is nothing without trust. Also, be prepared for the consequences if he learns about it.
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Not a good idea. If he passes and finds out it was you he may be hurt and upset. If you don't have trust whats the point of the relationship? I would not want to be with someone I can't trust and I wouldn't want to be with someone who can't trust me. If you have problems with trust, don't accuse without proof and don't set the relationship up for failure by setting up this mind game.
Woah woah woah... you haven't even met yet in person, and he is already saying "I love you"? This guy is moving faster than Joe Biden's mouth!!! He needs to slow it down.
😂😂😂😂 I know right but the funny thing is that I started believing him
Honey, don't. Don't allow yourself those feelings until you can meet him in person and develop a more close relationship with him.
Dont test him, I can say that I love someone, easy, but truly if you test that with someone better than you (sorry), they might move on from you and you just lost your match.
It's a dangerous thing to do, if they find out you setting up the catfish, that's not a good situation to be in anyway
Just dont
Let me ask you this. How would you feel if he was testing you?
Second, if he was to somehow found out it was you, what would your defense be?
What if he were to stop talking to you if he found out. All these things are important to consider before you move ahead
Yes do it doubt I'd the foundation of relationship also send some of your friends to seduce him and see how loyal he is let one of your friends sleep with him and see how good he is in bed let's others do everything for you then you can trust him
Set him up with your friend then if he is doing good with her tell him the truth and he will come back to you and dump your friend
It's never a really a good idea guys normal feel betrayed by this. Tbf i wouldn't give a damn if a girl did this to me cause i am loyal and she wouldn't see me fall for it and i would probably never know it even happened.
What if he fails? Will you tell him it's you? If you feel the need to do this, it also proves you don't trust him. So maybe it would be wiser to just end it and move on.
sure.. i would test the relationship if you are worried...
see if he likes you for real or does he have other women he is interested in?
if you do, be ultra sexy and provocative to really see his resolve is real for you.
The fact that you're not trust him will hurt him more than the actual catfishing. Also... Perhaps not call him boyfriend just yet if you haven't like met at least once, considering you doubt the status so much
Any form of deception is a poor basis for a relationship.
In this case, what do you expect?
You have chatted via messages, but never met.
That hardly initiates an exclusive relationship.
He would be a fool to turn down an eager woman until he has at least got as far as kissing you.
(FWIIW, I wouldn't consider going formally exclusive before having sex.)
I agree with all of this (except the part in parentheses!!)
Someone who says they love you but hasn't even met you is either playing you or has no idea what love is.
You really aren't in a relationship with this person if you've not met in person, so I don't think it would be bad to test him... and it would probably be a pretty good idea.
Personally I think only a shitty person would.
If my girlfriend did it and I only suspected it, I would bump her immediately. Because it means that there is no trust. Without trust there is no relationship.
I have done this so from personal experience I am going to tell you no. It's not a good idea. Either A ) He finds out you are catfishing him and leaves you or B ) You get hurt because you find out he isn't serious. But then again, if you are questioning his intentions than maybe you should. If he plays along with it than ditch his ass. Just be prepared to be hurt.
1. Why do you consider him your boyfriend if you have not met in oerson yet and on top of that only chat over messenger?
2. What if you do go throw with catfishing him and he starts asking you questions like:
Where did you find me?
What are you looking for?
3. What if he passes and finds out you were catfishing him?
4. What if he fails are you going to ghost him or tell him the truth that you catfished him?
Hey I used to do that with my friends. I would have my friends try to pick her up at bars or where ever.
We called it, baiting for whores. If the girl goes with my buddy, we caught a whore
No. One of the biggest parts of a relationship is trust, and if you can't trust him, I suggest you end the relationship and find someone you can trust. Either that or ask him, and take his words at face value.
Typical high-school stupidity.. I wanna see if he is serious so i am going to deceive him..
Grow up. Dont lie to him. Dont play games with him. If thats your plan, break up with him so he can find someone better, because girls like you aren't worth anyone's attention.
Additionally if you have not met... Its not a real relationship to begin with.
Don't do it. You might hurt yourself. How can you be boyfriend/girlfriend with someone without ever meeting them?
I wouldn't.
If my boyfriend tried that shit with me I'd break up with him.
Don't go seeking answers to things you probably already know. If you feel within
he doesn't garnish your trust, to help with
the games and masquerading. End it.
That's what I would do. You don't want to waste your time on the wrong person. Besides, I don't think that I would believe somebody who says they loved me when they haven't even met me yet
> Haven't met in person yet
> "In love"
Ok
do not do it, you might find answers you do not want to find.
How are you sure that he isn’t catfishing you? Have you ever gone face to face contact online?
Catfishing is like looking at someone's phone without their permission or asking for all their passwords. Keep that in mind. Is he worth losing?
Well I would strongly advise against it.
But if it works he could just say "well I guess I love you so much, I love you no matter who you're pretending to be".
how can he love you if you never met, how can he be your boyfriend if you never met
You do realize that if you do this and if he ever finds out, he will end things with you, right? This is a complete violation of trust.
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You haven't even met; so you probably haven't had a discussion about exclusivity. So why do you expect him to be devoted only to you? Until you have the exclusive discussion you shouldn't test his loyalty.
You only chat over messenger, so calling him your "boyfriend" already is probably misguided.
Never do this... cat fishing is illegal. His not your real boyfriend if you haven’t met in person.
No because if you feel like you have to play mind games then what the hell is the point and what the hell is wrong with you?
This sounds like a shit test. No one wins if you do it.
NO. DON'T play mindgames. IF you did that to me, then you would be HISTORY.
Better to be direct, honest and communicate OPENLY your concerns!
No, you should be able to tell by evidence in your relationship. If not him have serious emotional attachment issues.
NOPE. A shit test will just show you are a childish female with no truth or self esteem and most guys will get rid of that shit.
You haven’t met yet, so this the perfect time to do this. Just don’t ever mention it unless he takes the bait.
Do you want to break that trust quicker than glass?
That's a horrible idea... He says he loves you, why wouldn't you just accept that as true?
That's a one way street to disaster.
What could go wrong with starting a relationship with deception? Sounds like a solid plan.
How can you love someone you haven't met?
Lol I don't know you tell me 😂😂😂
No don’t do that if you can’t trust him move on
catfishing is bad period. never do this
If you haven't met then he isn't your boyfriend.
This is what guys hate
Be careful what you wish for. You might get it.
Catfish? sounds nasty. What is it?
Catfishing is acting like someone else. It's usually done by creeps that post pictures of hot models and claiming its them to get laid
Okay what do you expect him to do if you catfish?
One more thing how's that gonna help just ask to meet then you will see or video chat it's 2020 🤦🏻♂️
Sounds like he should pass on a crazy
That's an old trick. He probably knows it's you.
yea, that's always a good idea
If he finds out... He can break up with you
dont cf him if u really want him
Yeah, that's just lack trust if she does that.
Do it, but I feel you'll regret it
Why not? go for it
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