Yeah I definitely feel like I'm way more realistic than most women. Personally I would have zero problem dating an average looking woman with an average personality. I know no one is perfect and there a tons of normal looking women I pass by on the street that I would love to date to get to know more.
But hearing women on this site it feels like they need a guy to have perfect facial features, perfect body shape and all the qualities in the world. Even though these women are a 6 or 7 at best lol. They are completely delusional.
I would like to tell you that it gets better with time, that as a woman matures she gets less shallow, less picky and less greedy but it's not really true lol. It has nothing to do with "maturity". Those women will always aim for the sky until they start looking like shit and no one wants to fuck them anymore (around 30-35). Our only consolation is that most of these women will die alone or will get beaten by that "perfect guy" they so desperately wanted above us nice and average looking guys. They want to be treated like crap because they are crap.
But thankfully not all women are like that. Some are down to earth and keep it real. It does feel like they are getting rarer and rarer though.
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Calm down. These are just excuses you've come up with for why you haven't had success with girls. There's about 3.6 billion females on this planet, if you were truly looking hard enough you'd have found one who accepts you for you by now. The fact that you lead your life believing these things to be fact is also holding you back. If you have a look at society, it won't take you very long to realize that woman have it pretty tough too. Beautiful super models and actresses making girls believe that they have to starve themselves to get the attention of men... By comparison us guys have it waay easier.
I do understand that you are frustrated. Finding someone can be extremely difficult, and especially when it feels like you are hitting a brick wall time-after-time. What I would suggest though, for the time being, is don't let this quest to find someone be all-consuming.
The reason you are getting so annoyed , is that it sounds like you're focusing your entire attention on finding someone. Eventually you'll start to force a relationship, just for the sake of being in one, which always ends badly, even if you don't feel strongly about the girl yourself.
Have you ever thought of an idea of leaving it in the lap of the gods? (not to be taken as a literal deity :P) Work on finding other things in your life that mean something to you. It will improve the way you feel about yourself, taking your mind off finding someone who completes you, and then you can work on completing yourself without using another person as a jigsaw.
I understand that you are currently fed up with the situation, but the rant above doesn't make you sound very attractive, or all that nice. I know, it's the anger, but letting that fester will seep into other parts of your life and become a greater issue on people's perceptions of you.
I'm talking for myself when I say that I am, in fact, extremely picky. But out of the traits you've mentioned, the only box my boyfriend ticks (one of the two or three people I've found attractive in real life) is being white. Don't take it as racism, 99.99% of my country's population is Caucasian. Now, the guy's a shy dark-haired geek and I fucking love him the way he is. One of the things I like about him the most is that he's not bitter or judgmental and doesn't blame his problems on other people, which is what most "Nice Guys" are guilty of and what turns many girls off. I mean, negative vibes are easy to feel even if you're not aware of that.
Maybe its because you're kind of the picky one. Have you ever tried asking a girl out, or asked for their number. Because every girl I know would love if some guy asked for their number. Get to know a girl a little before bringing up a date. Don't just go up to some random person and ask them out! Relationships take time, and they won't just happen out of the blue.
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Unless you're living in a very unusual place, girls generally go for guys with these kinds of traits:
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Of course, nobody is all in one category or the other, but guys are more or less attractive to girls to the degree that they resemble one category or the other.
The big problem right now is that you have low self-esteem. You're not unattractive, but you feel ultra-self-conscious sometimes about your appearance. You're generalizing girls based on a few instances and temporary frustration. You're on the defensive the whole question.
Low self-esteem sucks, and it's a real problem no matter what anyone says, and it shouldn't be made fun of. But it's something you can overcome, and it's something that's going to be an obstruction to a relationship until it's fixed, even if you do actually get a date. There are a lot of ways to fix it, and some of them depend on your life situation. If you don't have a hobby or something you can talk about with a girl, find one. Find an avocation. Exercise regularly.They're really not dude. All you gotta do is figure out what kinda girl you want and go to the places girls like her go. Extra points if people at those places know you (You're a regular). Strike up friendly conversations with girls you're interested in and see where they go.
First of all learn to split your question into paragraphs
Second of all none of what you said is true for most girls and you know it. Have you ever even asked someone out?
I mean if you're aiming for 15 - 17, I don't know what those girls are into these daysthey are man i grew up being told by society that men are shallow and that we only care about looks and then i started seeing how the world works and that women are even pickier they just don't scrutinize guys out loud like us guys do with girls a perfect example of how picky women can be is a show called dating in the dark look it up on YouTube you'll be surprised how many average looking girls blow off handsome looking man for reasons like "he's too young"
From a biological standpoint, women control the sex. They control who gets it, when it happens, and how it happens. To an extent. This is ruling out rapes and the like.
So... yeah, women are picky. And they can be picky. Every female of every species is picky about what male she mates with.
This doesn't change just because the species is human.Generally, yes they are. Even if you are what they consider one of those amazing guys and they are head over heels into you, they can turn on a dime over something stupid and try to destroy you the next minute. Then a few months down the road stalk you like they always loved you and can't live without you.
Yes I am picky but because I want a guy to be physically attractive only his character and personality must be 100x more attractive to me. I'm not going to settle for less then what I know I can get he is out there just don't know where.
you say you aren't white? well this is probably the biggest thing depending on where you live. it might be a huge controversy to date out in some areas
Girls want what they can't have and when their younger they like bad boys and stuff... I guess that's why?
You shouldn't be dating teenagers when your an adult. You deserve what you get.
maybe if you'd stop categorizing people into numbers?💁
I don't get what your asking could you maybe please give more examples?
So all whites hate black people
all girls are picky
sounds like you need yourself some BBC buddymate be thankful you have 7 for looks some of us dont even have that
Well, SOMEONE in the equation has to be picky to avoid overpopulation.
Is it a case of girls being too picky or guys having a self-entitlement problems?
Another question about the same thing? You're the picky one, here. Enough said.
face it dude you're not good looking enough or your personality isn't good enough for hot chicks so you'll have to settle for fat girls.
luckily i am all those things
I agree, that's why I gave up
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