I see most the girls I have met, they want guy to please them and chase them at least for first few dates. Why are girls so selective at this stage? Why dont they date more guys, like most guys do at once?
1) Is it because girls tend to get attached more to partner faster, so they know if they go out on 3-4 dates, they get attached
2) Or its just the type of girls I am meeting?
Most Helpful Girl
I mean if you're looking for a SERIOUS relationship both genders should be selective. No one wants their time to be wasted, so why beat around the bush with what you want/what you expect?
Mind you, that doesn't mean you oughta play games but be honest about what you're looking for.61
Most Helpful Guy
Biologically speaking the investment of childbirth is pretty devastating to her body and mind. For every child she has, is potentially one less level of attractiveness that she can attract in a partner. I. e. if she has 3 kids, she will never attract anything above a 6-7 ever again. Because of OUR biology. Men are just naturally repulsed by women with other mens kids. (Less civilized animals outright eat the kids). And of course attractiveness doesn't just mean physically, it's his potential to garner resources, his ability to protect them etc. Not to mention she has a time limit, to find this bloke, date him, bang him, marry him, get knocked up all while still fulfilling her 'career aspirations' (snicker) before 40.
I mean look at YOUR preferences. Would you date a single mom of three? She's 22 but looks 32. (another caveat in biology, once a woman has given birth the body no longer tries to maintain its youth and beauty. Things start to sag, she loses her youthful, glow, even her voice gets deeper. "We no longer have to attract a mate why why dumb these resources into youth, we've gotta store fat, and start the arduous task of raising the children." ) She's simply playing by the rules as it were.
I get what you're saying though, The old good guy bad boy dichotomy wherein you, the good guy genuinely want to protect her and treat her with respect blah blah blah, (gag) meanwhile:
THIS MOFO has like 17 girls snapping his ass daily.1
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