Why do I only attract single mothers? Why do a lot of single mothers want guys without kids so much?

[Anonymous]

Why? Every woman that has been interested in me has kids. Now its not like I hate kids , I just don't think it would be a fair relationship due to the fact that it will never be a equal one. Like if things got serious between us, she would expect to be #1 in my life, but I would have to accept that I would only be #2 in her life since her kid/s will be #1 which I don't have a problem with because kids should be #1 in every parent's life . I just don't think it would be good for a guy with no kids to date a single mother unless he couldn't physically have kids of his own. I also heard rumors that the only reason why single mothers go for guys like me because they think of us as suckers and we're more likely to help them financially support and raise their kids.

[traxlem]

I don't know wtf the young anon is on about, but I can tell you I know what you mean though it isn't always the case about the woman looking for someone to raise their child or use them for financial support, there is the issue of being number 2 in her life while she expects to be number 1, one thing that should always should be clarified in the beginning of the relationship is the dynamics of said relationship and the expectations from one another, put all the cards on the table. One thing that shouldn't happen is meeting the child with only a monh or two of dating I thing that the relationship between you and the woman should develop first before throwing a curveball to the mix from the start, that way you and her have your relationship defined. It's messy and tricky having a long term with a single mom but it is possible if you strategise and think logically.

[Asker]

Yeah I feel what you're saying but why wouldn't they try to find a single dad? It's just as many single dads out there.

[traxlem]

As many dudes who's criteria is a "girl who is single no kids" there is many women are looking for a "guy single with no kids" even though the woman might they have kids themselves. And at times it isn't about the child themselves, it's about who they just happen to like, I mean you don't go around wearing a tshirt that says "single guy no kids" right? It's just basic attractions from that point, and there just happen to be a high statistical chance that woman will be a mother, sad but true. Again it's a tricky thing dating a woman with children but it can work and it doesn't always turn all to shit.

[Asker]

maybe so.

[Anonymous]

I may not have much experience but My friends mom did the same thing and my friend is so happy with his new step dad as well as his mom my friends step dad has the same job as my friends mom and that's how they met bonded all of that stuff that happens prior to any relationship. when I met him he looking like on of those guys that give people bad tattoos and shady drinks at the bar but he is a really nice guy it's all on perspective
Long story short: you can't believe everything you see on TV or what you hear about Rumors because Reality TV may be realistic but is scheduled and has general plot already planned out. Rumors about most woman are television based some are true but most are not remember that

[Asker]

Sure okay.

[523206720]

Maybe it's because the woman you roll with have a liberal attitude towards sex and so are more likely to be single mothers. One example is my family: In 20 years, my parents have had only 1 friend and 1 family member that the knew to be divorced while I know girls who have 600 people on their contact list and only one of their friend's have parents that are still married to each other. It all depends which crowd you roll with.

[Asker]

um ooooookay.