Ladies why are so many women so heartless and selfish (Not all, unfortunately too many)?

[Anonymous]

My recent ex gf is the one that hurt the most. For four years I stayed with her comforted for hours when she had a depressive spell (bipolar depression), finally convinced her to seek help. I loved her as best I could I wan't a push over and couldn't be at her beck and call 24/7 but I made time for whatever she needed often. I thought we were in love and soulmates, we were going to move in together (financial considerations before hand prevented us) and I even hinted at marriage. Then she decides she "doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore" move to Florida with her parents, and breaks off all communication with me, and skimps out on her obligations (like for instance we agreed to split the cell bill 50/50, plus she owed me money I gave to help her out just before we broke up).

She knows that emotionally I am going through a tough time (personal reasons), and she just broke it off. Keep in mind she was always so scared I would leave HER, even though I repeatedly told her I loved her and I thought we were soulmates, and I meant it. She just rips out my heart shatters my soul, refuses to pay me back. I feel like she purposely waited until I was stressed so it would hurt the most. This isn't the first woman to do this to me, just the longest relationship and the one that hurts the most.

So now that you have the background, why are too many women heartless and selfish? And how do I meet one who isn't like that, will not out of the blue do a 180 and suddenly hate me, and is interested in me?

[Anonymous]

You may want to stay away from the emotional damaged women. Find a sane marriage minded woman if that is what you want, there are plenty out there. She probably didn't like that you were stressed and bailed. Some women expect men to never feel stress and be string 100% of the time which is unrealistic and so is the likelihood of a LTR with this type.

[Opinion Owner]

meant to say Strong not string*

[Asker]

I know they all whine and say "Oh I want a sensitive caring man." but when they find one they dump his ass so fast it makes his head spin and go on to dating narcissistic assholes, because since they never care about anything other than themselves they never show any emotion other than self love.

Also how can I meat unemotionally damaged women, and how can you tell if they are?

[Opinion Owner]

I am married so haven't dated in a while, bit i would use a good online dating site to quickly sift through the potentials and get dates going in quick succession to filter through the women. To do this though, you meed to have something they want like a reasonable waist size, income and style otherwise you may not get the volume of dates needed. I wouldn't poke around dating one for a year or two and then another. The emotionally damaged ones will show themselves when the circumstances are right, like when there is pressure. Something as simple as having to hurry up and get out the door to an event can cause some to come unhinged. You want the ones that can laugh at it.

[Asker]

Lmfao I have tried multiple ones including match, women refuse to contact you (shocker) so you need to email them, they rarely respond then they flirt a little bit (never want to meet) then stop talking to you suddenly (just like my ex). Also, I believe many are actually employees of the site because about a week before my membership was up I'd actually get women emailing me, sure enough after I paid they all of a sudden broke off contact, amazing. They are a waste of money.

Also, how exactly do they reveal this emotional damage?

[Opinion Owner]

First, two guys i know from work used Match over the past 18 months and they did very well. Multiple women on dates each week. One ended up married after a year and the other just broke up with a smokin hot ten. You may want to consider upping your game amd how you connect with them. imwould use email, not IM at first. They want read about you and see if there is a connection first. Nthat isnto your advantage as a pn email can be crafted just right. Also, i. Your picture they want to see your eyes, get a good photo, not some douchebag photo. and spoting the damaged ones is easy, when you say to yourself WTF, thats your clue. Good luck.

[Asker]

I always use email, what exactly do you mean up my game, and at some point I always say WTF, even with my guy friends...

[Opinion Owner]

Up your game... put a lot of effort into your clothes, hair, get some good cologne, read up a bit on how women want to be treated etc. focus on it as a goal. you will know WtF when you see it, especially since you dated someone like that for such a long time.

[Asker]

Alreasy tried that and more. The problem isn't how i treat women its how the treat ME, aka like shit.

[Anonymous]

a lot of women nowadays are scared and defensive for a billion reasons (not necessarily related to you personally)...
defensive/scared = cold/ heartless woman

[Anonymous]

Women are no more heartless and selfish than men. They are certainly more so than they used to be but still not more than men.

[Asker]

I know that and don't need a PC lesson, I want to know why so many are like that and how to find one who actually isn't isn't taken and is actually interested in a relationship with me.