Do girls like guys for their looks or personality?

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because every girl that i have ever talked to at some time cared about looks more then personality. And please be honest i want this to be straight up 100 % truth because i dont want to be mislead please tell me the truth.

Kiwedin · Accepted Answer

I didn't vote because there isn't an option for both. There's a difference between sexual attraction (unless you're asexual) and emotional attraction, it's when you find both in a person that you want to be in some kind of relationship with them. It also depends on what you're looking for, and this can range from casual sex to long-term relationship to no relationship and no sex at all.
It wasn't until recently that I had any desire to be in a committed relationship despite the fact that I'd known my boyfriend since I was six years old. Previously, I was only into casual sex or open relationships.

SensualScribe · Accepted Answer

Personality above all. Looks will attract me to a man, but not keep me. That being said, I have come to find men attractive after getting to know them, that I did not find attractive initially. It was this way for my current significant other. Did not find him unattractive in the beginning when we were just friends, but he did not stand out as being attractive either. It did not take long for me to start seeing him this way. After two weeks, spending hours a day getting to know him, I started finding him highly attractive. Now, he is irresistible to me. It is all about personality to me.

geeky_artist · Accepted Answer

I used to go after the crazy hot guys and would overlook their tendency to have a horrible personality but after taking a year break from dating I realized looks didn't matter as much and ended up finding average/not as good looking guys with great personalities much more appealing. I feel like someone with a great personality can make that person much more physically appealing. Same goes with good looking people and horrible personalities, they become less attractive.

handholder · Accepted Answer

Definitely definitely personality. I've liked some guys who my friends woould not consider good looking, but because I was attracted to them on the inside, their outside was attractive. I know most girls wouldn't find them attractive, but I would if I already liked them on the inside.

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stubbsy · Accepted Answer

Personality will always mean more here because the more time spent with someone you can relate to and enjoy being around, then the more attractive they will become, but if you dislike their company, it really won't matter how attractive the guy is, because unless he has a personality, your not going to spend much time together, so looks won't matter, because you won't be seeing him any way, x

NerdInDenial · Accepted Answer

That depends on the age of the woman. Generally, women do value a man's looks and personality. There are other things that they care more than both. However, if you just stick with these two options, and you're talking about younger girls, it's about looks. Personality will make them stay.

RickHasslehoff · Answer

looks get me interested, personality gets me hooked.

same goes for girls, my looks get them interested, but my personality is what gets her to like me or not. of course, my looks have never been a problem. i am handsome enough to get a girl interested, but my personality unfortunately doesn't suit their's. i don't blame them of course, I'm very unique so i guess I'm looking for a girl who is equally unique as i am. still haven't found her but i won't give up! my golden ticket is out there somewhere. just have to find her...

chimi · Answer

Guys I knw wd never go 4 a girl if she dressed crap. when I was a teen even tho I'm attractive no guy wd go4me cse of my cooky dress sense. so why shd women be any different. so altho guys come2 me now I've become just like the people who judged me. I go 4 looks 1st cse their shd be some sexual attraction espesially if I was thinkin about wanting a baby from him. but then again I've also turned down hot guys 4 having no personality cse no personality wd make me real bored. so yes cute guy and if he average looking he shd at least have good grooming and common interests of course.

Donaldduck · Answer

There is a Guy I currently like, I like him A LOT. He is very skinny, I mean I have seen some skinny guys in my time but he is exceptionally so. And has glasses and is much shorter than me :) He has SO much charisma, and doesn't try to be confident, he just is. He is a nice guy to everyone (not just me) but isn't arrogant or over-confident. He is so comfortable in himself that when speaking to me I instantly feel relaxed enough to joke around and have a laugh with him. Personality all the way.

DarkHorse24 · Answer

No matter what the guy looks like, if the guy has a wonderful personality, he'll be the most attractive person in the world to me. That's how I fell for my vrush. I swear, if it weren't for his amazing personality and kind heart, I would have never thought of falling for him. Now to me, there's no one better looking than he is.

TheReturnOfRae · Answer

I'll probably get some downvotes... I honestly want both. I feel like he needs to look good to attract me. Then he needs the personality to keep me. However, I talk to guys who aren't that cute all the time. Yea, I probably wouldn't date them, but they make great friends. Then again, I've fallen for guys before who I haven't even seen so I don't know.

Whosthat · Answer

People do care about looks- it's kinda how humans were designed. But, that's definitely not all there is to attraction. There's physical chemistry, which can happen to any two people sometimes. But a great personality is the most important. Be mature, be the best version of yourself. I kind of thing k that everyone is attractive, they just have to be confident. Confidence is key.

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

Why isn't there an option for both? That's what most women like. A man they find attractive with a personality they can vibe with.

playdatesx · Answer

The truth is that every girl is different. The only way you're going to get the answer to your question is if you go and ask every single female on the earth.

If you as me personally, though, my answer would be: both. Yes, both---but the personality HAS to be there, whereas the looks don't necessarily have to be anywhere near a 10/10.

Maerinaekaeri · Answer

Personality is definitely the most important however If he doesn't at least look like he takes care of himself and his hygiene then I wouldn't date him no matter how great his personality may be. Clothing and how he presents himself is his choice , I could care less about that sort of thing but Hygiene is a MUST.

KPL101 · Answer

It isn't either one or the other it is give or take. Probobly some where in between but I for sure could never date someone with a horrible personality yet I could date someone that wasn't all that attractive I think out of the two personality is more important

LaQuébecoise · Answer

Both!
For a lot of my friends, the body is really important, go to the gym , be healthy and in good shape and you will be 90% more attractive.

To me, face is really important, more than the body. but few girls are like me :P

although , If the personality is not interesting, even if you're the sexiest/cutest boy on earth we won't consider you for more than few minutes.

ReaSunshine · Answer

while looks are the first thing that you see, personality Is what you have to live with. If a guy doesn't have a personality that is compatible with your own, then you are going to be in a very unhappy relationship. Smart girls know this, and so in the end, personality matters much more than looks. The best thing that a guy could do is just to be a nice and respectful person. Girls really appreciate when a guy is just really nice and a positive person to be around.

KianaLinay13 · Answer

I always look for a good personality in a guy first and then the looks, being cute or hot is just a perk to me if you have a great personality. I care about whats on the inside, not the outside

Lalaxoxo_soso · Answer

Looks can only grab attention, personality keeps it. My boyfriend isn't the sexiest guy around but his personality is perfectly matched for me so he's perfect for it.

Anonymous · Answer

Look. When a girl tells you she values personality more than looks, she is NOT. I repeat, NOT telling you that looks don't matter.

What she MEANS is that even if a guy is hot, if he's got a shitty personality, she doesn't want to be with him. She does NOT mean that if she thinks a guy looks like shit, but has a great personality, that she's going to want to be with him.

Looks and personality matter.

lucyrosex · Answer

Honestly a guy could be totally hot, but I'd walk away from him eventually if his personality sucks. Confidence and charm is so attractive to me honestly, and it could potentially make a guy with average looks seem like the hottest man alive to me. But that's just my opinion :)

LilWeezey · Answer

There's no option for both which is needed.
I value personality more than looks but there can't be a healthy relationship without some level of attraction, so in good conscious i can't select personality because looks need to be there too.

BUT you can be the hottest man alive but if your personality is shit your not dateable.

I_M_LEGEND · Answer

why does it have to be one or the other? men often have both you know.

its women that tend to lack significant amount of the other qualities.

and yes, looks rules along with ability. then people look for personality. you have to eat first and survive

selenafae · Answer

I would definitely say personality... Looks are just a bonus. If you're good looking but you have a crappy personality, chances are I dislike you. However, if you're average/less-than-average looking and you have a great personality, I'd more than likely go for you. :)

BumbleDeev · Answer

Looks is what attracts you to that person, but personality is what makes you stay. So I wouldn't say looks are everything, but it's a big part of it

Anonymous · Answer

Here's the reality. Every girl would like to believe that she is about a guy who's a good guy not just a good looking guy who's an asshole but believe me I'm that guy and a lot of girls come for me I never see them with the guy who's a gem but is weird looking they care about looks bro there's a shit ton of evidence for that very little evidence for the latter.

Anonymous · Answer

Obviously looks always play some what of role in what people are looking for in a partner and its hard for anyone to deny that. But everyone does have different tastes. Like I prefer taller, chubbier guys, with a lisp, where as another girl might find a guy with chiseled abs and no tattoos is attractive.

In the end someone who isn't as attractive as someone else but has an amazing personality is going to win over that attractive person who has a crap personality. Just takes a little longer for someone to get to know your personality versus the few seconds it takes to look at someones appearance.

ZebraKing221 · Answer

It doesn't matter bro, your a fucking guy! You're a conqueror. Not a fuckng flower to be admired. If you like yourself That's all that matters. Keep in mind "this is me! This is who I am! If you like me great. If not, great!"

Mysterio421 · Answer

I would say both as they are necessary. Oh by the way, have you noticed one girl disliked all our comments. I smell a troll

Anonymous · Answer

It's quite strange how I can go from not liking a guy to liking him once I find out he has a good personality. So I voted A, besides if you like him then you must see him as attractive and you overlook the physical imperfections.

soccerchick4eva · Answer

Firstly is their personality then their looks for me. but because when you first meet someone you of course look at how they look then you normally find out about their personality.
there should be an option for both! :)

Heyjessie15 · Answer

The looks get there attention the personality keeps them but if your friends then it wil probably start with your personality.

Taywallee16 · Answer

Looks attract but a great personality makes a woman stay

dazedandconfused22 · Answer

Were the same as you guys.. we fall for your looks first and then your personality. A guy with gorgeous blue eyes who is taller than me and smells good and has a nice smile will make me melt every time.

fermt · Answer

I would say both. Of course the looks are the first thing we notice when we don't know someone but if they have a terrible personality we won't like them and viceversa. A guy can be really attractive because of his personality

sexysportsbabe666 · Answer

a guys personality matters more, but looks do matter. but unless a guy is completely ugly, a good, funny personality can make him attractive. like for real a good personality can make guys seem wayy more hot

AnayaWilliams · Answer

I like a guy with a nice playful personality. I look at a guy with a nice personality as very attractive. Looks to me are just a bonus. I think personality is what captures the heart. But I know other people have different opinions.

Kshppatel · Answer

Lol at poll options. When will you learn that girls want both. They won't date A and they won't date B. They want a guy with both.

twisted_minded95 · Answer

Yes you have to be attracted to the guy in some way weather it be his smile, eyes, laugh, whatever. But looks do not matter because if he treats you like shit because he's a "hotty" well then you'll never be happy. Its the man that can make you laugh and bring you up when you are done when no one else can. Believe it or not its the "ugly" ones that are always there, they are the ones that listen and more so than less won't cheat on you. Men are men looks dont make a man its the personality.

Shawn37 · Answer

Both, if I'm not initially attracted to your looks there's nothing to draw me in. His looks are what catch my attention, his personality is what keeps it.

Anonymous · Answer

personality=charm and well.. You know what they say.. "Charm is more valuable than beauty, you can resist beauty but you can't resist charm." (Which I find 100% true)

princessdarkcloud · Answer

I think some of it depends on age. I do need to have some attraction, but as I am older now, I found myself looking for a guy that makes me laugh, cares about my needs and isn't in the least bit selfish. He must love animals and have compassion and empathy. If a guy has all that, I easily find them attractive, and look at all the good quality's he has.

snowgirl89 · Answer

This question doesn't function properly. If I like a guys personality, he's beautiful to me. I find my self attracted to people rather through personality than looks, it's just how I roll.

Knowledgejunkie · Answer

Looks help get attention but if you don't grab the attention with personality that's going to disappear quicker than it came. What is attractive is being yourself aka comfortable and confident in your environment. Just have fun with people take no one serious and bam! That's what women enjoy and look for... (grew up ugly become attractive so I learned personality)

FeyRa · Answer

Look, why can't it be a bit of both? I'm not expecting an Adonis but he has to look decent/average, and I think most guys can manage that. He has to shower and groom, or he'll scare the girls away. After that, it's all personality that makes him attractive.

cassiJames991 · Answer

Honestly it depends if your a good lookind guy with a sucky personality they might date you to brag to their friends , but thats different for the other way around if your a semi ok looking guy and your personality they amazing. then your a great catch.

PiuBelloAmante · Answer

girls like both... thats why it sucks lol! you gotta really be solid all around reasonably good looks, good charterer, good personality, and able to provide for yourself and be able to treat her.

lenaashby · Answer

i'd say it's none of the options above. of course looks matter to some extent, i have to find a guy somewhat attractive to be with him. but even if a guy isn't very good looking, if i spend some time with him and get to know him, his personality makes him attractive and i find small special things about his appearance that make him even more attractive.
if it's the opposite, the guy won't have much of a chance to be honest.

Bellxx · Answer

i mean i would like a guy with a personality over no personality but its good to have a mix of bolth. I would get so bored of that person and they wouldn't be fun to be around at all...

Dragonrider15 · Answer

most girls look for looks and they don't care if that person is a douche. However I prefer someone with a nice personality and if they're good looking then that's a bonus!

TheoneandonlyJessica · Answer

Honestly, I look for both, but every girl is different. I think though in the end most girls are looking for guys for have both a great personality and has excellent looks

Anonymous · Answer

I love personality, looks come second. If you're a funny, cool, outgoing guy that likes video games then just grab me right now. However if you're shallow and only worried about my boobs with no personality but you're cute/hot won't fall for you.

-DOLL- · Answer

You attract us with your looks, but if your personality is terrible then it won't last very long, so both are very important

questionssssss · Answer

Personality is important but you always have to be physically attracted to them or yiur not really going to want to show them off or kiss or anything so both is important

Anjellygirlyeah · Answer

If I like his personality even his face will be attractive. I don't want some hot douchebag wtf.

Anonymous · Answer

Looks might give you a shot, quickly. But without the personality, you're fucked. Personality with no looks, will get you a shot... eventually. If you persevere.

DailyAlice · Answer

both. a bad personality will make the cutest person ugly. a good personality will make an ugly person more attractive.

TheEdgyBarbie · Answer

For me looks do matter, but if your hot and dumb then forget it, I'd take a cute somewhat smart guy any day

meiam17 · Answer

Personality. They always look good when they have a great personality... but chemistry is also important.

Bubblemonster · Answer

Good looks are always a great thing to have as a bonus, but I'm more in for the personality. That's what I care about most.(:

Keira2002 · Answer

It has to be both. I'm not going to be interested in someone who only has one or the other. That's not how it works.

Keepitsexy · Answer

Personality is on par with looks, so you either get both or none. And the poll results obviously show that guys and girls think completely differently. Guys care about a girls looks, and girls care about a guy's 'personality.'

Bellibooo · Answer

Personality wins of course, but if I can have both, I'll choose that.

LadyBBaller · Answer

To be honest, for the guy I like I was first attracted to him because of his looks, but I like his personality now too!!!

peppermintlove · Answer

cool.. you're a gamer so am I. haha I prefer personality then lastly is the looks..

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