Fed up with mind games, want advice please?

[Anonymous]

I am at this point where I met this really lovely girl who I have fallen in love with. She gives me hints that she likes me, I've kinda asked her out before, but not in person. We discussed it and then she suddenly said no. But she always gets jealous if I'm not with her or speaking to her or speaking to other girls. I don't know why she won't admit it, she is quite a shy girl and doesn't like rumours spreading at a school. What should I do?

[HowRUbBuddy]

Dont ask her out anymore , always say hi when you see her and act like you dont give a shit , talk to other girls infront of her and try your best to not show affection , when you see her alone crack a joke or ask her about something you dont know , after a while she should be more open to dating you , if she still isn't and doesn't want you to talk to other girls tell her to her face " if you dont want to date me , i have no reason to pursue you anymore !"

[Asker]

Yeah I think I need to do that thank you!

[jdoe80]

the only question is, why would anyone, OP included, that much effort for any one girl if there are enough girls just as good?

[Klaatu51]

guess that's the reason dude... she doesn't wanna have others in school sayin that u and her r "into each other" ;-)

[Asker]

So after school has finished, would you recommend that I ask her out in person, that way no one will know?

[Klaatu51]

yeah... that would b a good idea... i approve ^_^

[Asker]

Aha thank you!

[abundantlyrich]

That's not love. It's infatuation and lust at first sight.

You can't force it on her. Ignore her and she might mysteriously chase you back

[Asker]

Okay, this has been going for over a year now, we have our arguments, but after a week we are back together, I have to admit I am but pushy sometimes, because she leaves me hanging all the time aha!

[abundantlyrich]

She's getting tired of you controlling her. You two aren't compatible.

[Asker]

Okay, yeah I suppose your right. Thanks for the help

[Trini-Rose]

Don't ask her anymore, she might say no again.. move on... If you see her and she wants to talk.. talk to her.

[Asker]

Okay, yeah it's just so annoying, anyway thanks!

[Trini-Rose]

No problem

[Anonymous]

Aww... you've fallen in love!!! hahahaa wtf are you a woman? There are billions of women out there to bang and have a good time being around. Don't get stuck on some mind game playing bitch.