Can playing mind games be a good thing?

[Shihab91]

When its come to dating can mind games help to decide if he/she is potentially a good partner?

Yes

Maybe

No

Other

[NicoletteXO]

I will never initiate mind games.

If I observe a person initiating mind games, there are two routes I will take:

1) If I think they have other redeeming qualities, I will offer them one (or maybe two) chances to correct themselves - either by continuing to be open and seeing what they do or by directly telling them what I observe. This is because some people play mind games like waiting two days to text back because they think it's expected, not because they really want to. If, after that, they continue, I am totally out.

2) If they overall don't have many redeeming qualities, I am less forgiving. I will either just cut contact immediately... or, if the mood strikes and they have been particularly uncool, I might reflect their mind games back to them to give them a little kiss of karma for a bit.

So, no, mind games are not a good thing at all. They are a waste of everyone's time. If someone I like tells me "I like you" I'm going to be super happy. It's that simple. No mind games required.

[NicoletteXO]

Oh - a little addendum to this. I also won't assume that something is a mind game when it could have other causes. It's important not to be brittle here. I'm just talking about cases where a pattern is pretty clear.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

The only good thing about someone playing mind games, would be that it would make me see a lot faster they're not the person for me... I'll play board games, card games, sex games, I don't do mind games... To me that shows either a lack of maturity or narcissistic tendencies.. Not something I'll put up with...

[Bluemax]

AMEN!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Bluemax 🙏😊

[Bluemax]

Out of curiosity, what are your favorite board games?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Bluemax I like any games lol but Monopoly comes to mind and sorry (the game no apologizing lolol)
Ever play Shut the box? That's fun.. Like cards too

[Interstate]

I'll do all BUT both Mind and Sex games.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Interstate Sex games more meant like strip poker or naked twister🤣

[Shizunk]

Mind games must be quick and open. Try to catch someone with a clever trick, reveal it five minutes later and discuss why it matters, great. If you are not toxic, messing with someone's mind in good faith can be done well.
If however you are running a scheme for weeks and never explain what your findings were, you are probably just being sneaky and manipulative. That's a bad idea.
Mind games are notoriously hard to structure so that you would get valuable information out of them and imho lot of people are just misinterpreting random behavior thinking they just revealed deep secrets about the universe.
Unless you know exactly what your purpose is, you are likely to play yourself more than the other person.

[Hanrej]

Only on the incredibly rare occations that you actually know better than the one you're manipulation what is good for them.

[Hanrej]

Also, I hate spellcheck. I meant manipulating.

[Shihab91]

The answer i was looking for

[lilyanony1]

I don't see the benefit.
People that like to play mind games always try to justify why they do these things and they also like to find others that agree with them too.
Maybe if you met a person that likes to play these games too maybe it would be of benefit coz you'd be playing them together but I always find people that think this way end up with people that don't and mess them up.

The answer is no! There is no benefit at all!

[Cythera]

Literally at the age of 18, I will not stand for mind games. Even now at the age of 21, I have no time for stupid games. Either we’re together or not. I’m too grown for that.

[exitseven]

@cythera you tell em!

[Elliegirl]

If it’s in a teasing sense or toying with him
in a fun loving, cutesy/flirty way, yes. If it’s just fucking with his head or testing him, no.

[Shihab91]

Welcome back

[Elliegirl]

Welcome back? I didn’t know I went anywhere

[Shihab91]

Lol , I don't know i didn't see u for long time 😂

[Elliegirl]

I’ve been around

[Shihab91]

Cool

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Waste of time & energy.
Why play mind games when you can be outright & upfront?

[Shihab91]

Because they might be dishonest?

[exitseven]

I was going to give up on dating for a while or maybe forever because I was just so sick of all the games. I dated a series of girls who just wanted to screw with me (and not in a good way). I was just sick of it.

[Jessica405]

No. The word "games" gives the clue. In games, there is usually a winner and a loser. Which one do you want to be? Is it worth the risk?

[5points2gspot]

Fuck No ! Mind games will make you sick literally. It’s bad for the health. Toxic. Poison.

[Coulis]

This.

[Shihab91]

This or that

[koolbrz]

As a guy, it is good thing. Girls like mind games no matter what they say. They like the drama. It feeds thier need for attention. When you are being honest, open and give your time to them, that's when they get bored of you. They indulge overthinking.

[Livewire3]

If you are playing them on your partner and not with your partner.. then you are not a good partner.

[Ninani]

Quite the opposite. Never play games if you're looking for something real.

[sensible27]

Chess is real.

[corny_cooter581]

Nope definitely not. In my opinion, it's kind of a douchy thing to do

[Interstate]

All it is, is disrespecting, belittling and manipulating another person. There is never anything good about it.

[Alyssa11]

To an extent. Not too much. I don’t like too much.

[Shihab91]

Me too, especially leading people on...

[Alyssa11]

Definitely not! But I think leaving some thing to add some curiosity in the beginning stages is healthy. But real life games and heartbreak no. I don’t like lies

[Shihab91]

👀👀

[Shihab91]

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[Alyssa11]

Lol you still think I’m the type to lead guys on :(

[Shihab91]

Nah...

[Alyssa11]

How would you know if you haven’t even given me a chance 🥺

[Shihab91]

A chance of what?

[Alyssa11]

To know my awesome personality :)

[Shihab91]

🤔🤔 well i mean you said we are friends and we do chat from time to time so...

[Alyssa11]

So you know I’m not the type to lead guys on :D

[Shihab91]

I don't know but idc 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Alyssa11]

Loool suit yourself

[Shihab91]

😆 look

[Phoenix98]

Playing mind games and fucking with people is never a good thing and will always come around to bite you on the ass later.

[pickedcrisps]

No. Just annoys everyone involved. If it was playful and consensual but not teasing for the sake of thinking they'll like the allure.. uh-uh. 🙄😲

[genericname85]

i think it's great. cause as soon as i see she does that, i drop her like a hot potato. it makes my life easier, helping me filter out shitty peole i don't need in my life.

[katiesmuff]

I don't think playing that game ever has a good ending

[Jay3344]

Mind games are not generally a good thing…if though when flirting you play with each other by teasing a little that’s ok. But that doesn’t really count as mind games.

[sensible27]

Sure if you like playing games? And the other party agrees I don't know if it's optimum..

[icantpickausername]

What kind of mind games are you referring to? You say to catch someone who might be dishonest. In what way would you attempt to do that?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Mind games are for idiots, so the only thing they would help with is pointing out she's an idiot, so I can leave.

[Laura456]

No, it's a waste of time. Just get straight to the point why play games.

[globetrotter22]

Funny how more women voted no on this then men. Yet they are the ones who usually shit test.

[Flower7]

No, mind games are a horrible idea.

[DiegoO]

Is not. That's a "good" way of been hated and ultimaty: rejected.

[TheBigGuy9]

To see if she can figure out your perspective before you figure out hers?

[Mangospacho]

Psychological manipulation on the girl of your dreams? Seems like a bad idea.

[Rachel794]

Mind games are never a good thing

[Pandupillu]

Noooo! That's a huge turn off and extremely immature!! I would stay away

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

For people who are super bored and financed by someone else/do not need to work for money, perhaps

[lonelyguyintheworld]

Yes if playfully executed

[SandandWaves]

No way

[Coulis]

No, mind games suck.

[bubbles328]

Nope I don’t play them and I don’t accept them

[Tabasco25]

I don't like them personally

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, it's a pretty cool song.

[es20490446e]

Only if done playfully, nothing too much.

[Cherry234]

No I don't think so

[OddBeMe]

Sodoku or catfishing?

[ChiTown33]

I don't think so.

[ChiPaPa]

Nope. Lol.

[Browneye57]

At your own peril.

[okeydoke]

Absolutely not.

[noohair]

Never

[Anonymous]

I love chess