Is he taking me seriously or just playing around with me?

[Anonymous]

So i’ve been seeing this guy for 2 months. Our dynamic is not very intense, we’re not constantly texting but still in touch, sending reels/tiktok back& forth and talk a little everyday.
We meet each other at least twice a week for dinner or dates. Everything goes well, we had very good quality time, we go ti places and got to experience lots of new things.
I know we like each other, but i wonder how do i know if he taking me seriously? Because i’m sure i’m not the only girl he’s talking too.
In addition, He introduce me to his mom already, i had dinner with his mom & other family & relatives not once but few times,
My friends says it’s a good sign, but i still can feel he is still playing hot & cold mind games with me, and im still sure he is talking to another girls too because i caught girls be texting/calling him
so my question, is he taking me seriously? or he just do this thing to other girls?

He is still testing the water

He is serious about you

[PhenomenalQueen]

I feel like he’s still testing the water, meeting their family and friends means absolutely NOTHING.. I say this because I’ve watched my friends play people and I’ve seen them be played as well… Dating isn’t the same anymore, relationships have lost their value.

[spartan55]

Not true, bringing family into the equation is an important milestone. Don't believe me? Post a poll and see.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I would never introduce a girl to my family until she's earned the key to that door into my life. I would hope she wouldn't either

[Asker]

yes i have the same thought as phenomenalQueen

dating today already lost it values,
so meeting his mom wouldn’t be a big deal anymore for people in today generation

so thats why i wonder how do i know or is there any more sign if he is serious?

or this is just part of his game?

[spartan55]

@asker He has done NOTHING to make you doubt him like this. Do him a favor and move on.

[midnightmoon05]

Asker…
You have to also trust yourself!
You have to learn to trust yourself and the guy you picked. If you don’t then you shouldn’t date.
Dating is suppose to be loving and fun. These young people are taking away love because no one seems to trust anyone anymore.
Give yourself a chance to love.

[JesseP1nk]

He is still testing. One foot in and other one out. I understand your frustratsion because you dont know where you guys stand. You should ask, either he is too pussy to ask you to be exclusive or he just use that confusion to mess with other girls while keep you around. If he is not concrete about what he wants, then dump his ass.

[mommymommymommy]

You'll never know unless you talk to him about it, but remember noone likes to be confronted, or given ultimatums.

If you think it's not going anywhere, then maybe your time is better spent elsewhere. Like I said, you could talk to him, just keep those things in mind.

[Paris13]

He is Showing me He Likes you and with Mom and Other Family in the Pix, Dates, etc as Well------He is Going Slow and Taking it Easy. You both are Not Exclusive nor Offical but with Patience, See where it Goes. Too soon to Tell. Your Choice. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. xx

[Anonymous]

Girl if he introduced you to his mum and other family, do you really not see how that is him taking you serious?

If he wasn't he would not have let you meet his mum or his family. Regarding the girls texting him, maybe they are friends whom he works with or whom he knew before he met you. Those girls could also been female family members

[Asker]

is it possible that he introduces other girls he’s talking too right now? or just 1, me?

[Anonymous]

Either a guy likes you or he doesn't. There’s no in between. Except settling. I’ve been with both kinds, the guy who settled for me and the guy who’s crazy about me, and believe me cutting the former out of my life is NOT one of my life’s many regrets. I met the latter (my current boyfriend), and I've never been happier. No confusion, no doubts, no second choices. Don’t you want someone who is sure about you?

[Truthatanycost]

This is a situationship and due to your self esteem, you don't feel you can make any demands. If you've already slept with him, then that is another nail in the coffin.

[midnightmoon05]

Are you taking him seriously? He is wondering too… since he already took you to meet his family.
have you done the same?

[midnightmoon05]

Other wise he will take another girl to meet his family.
So…let not ask here… go talk to him…go take him to meet yiur family.
Go make it official.
Mouse chase cat/cat chase mouse.. can only be so fun for so long.

[Asker]

yea , i invited him to meet my mom, dinner at my mom house, met my friends too. yea but i still wonder is it possible that man introduce mulitple woman to his mom/family before he made it official? like meeting his family is not something special

[midnightmoon05]

Unless he has lots of time and money…then yes.
Things sound good from what you shared.
Any other reasons you are doubting his sincerity?

[Asker]

he is not being consistent, like other guys who’s playing mind games. I just worried, this guy could go extreme into manipulating me by introducing me to his friends & hisfamily , spend good quality time just so i could be obsessed with him
and wanting more,

will someone go that far just to play games? or he just genuine? 🥹

[midnightmoon05]

Most guys don’t have the time and money and energy to date multiple women.
If this is the case…learn from it.
But don’t work too hard to kill a good relationship. Give yourself a chance to love.

[strateguy632]

twice each week is serious. time to ask if he is willing to be exclusive just you two hang out no "two timing".

[Mariena_Anne92]

Well did he declare anything yet? Or did you? Do u guys say I love you or anything like that?

[Asker]

no not yet, we like each other for sure but i’m not sure he’s in love with me already, no way haha 😂

[Anonymous]

Express your concerns to him and check his response. This would clear up all your questions because all we can do is guess but he's the only one who can give you right response regarding his feelings

[itsalyssaagain]

Have you had sex yet?
2 months is a long time he should tell you if he likes you yet or wants something.

[RosyBeak100]

He not serious, he wants another notch on his belt per to say

[spartan55]

That's why he introduced her to his parents, right?

[RosyBeak100]

Great observation

[spartan55]

I didn't see anything about introducing him to her family so maybe she is the one playing around.

[RosyBeak100]

Rejection maybe?

[spartan55]

Rejection what?

[RosyBeak100]

A man can only make the call to commit to a woman

[spartan55]

Why should he if she is not showing she's worth the committment? What rejection are you talking about?

[RosyBeak100]

Exactly

[spartan55]

Oh my

[Asker]

okay, i forgot to mention i invited him to have dinner at my mom house too, he met my mom once

[sarahnina]

I would ask him 🤷‍♀️ and have a talk about where it's goin, how serious you both are.

[Asker]

well, i don’t think i want to pressure him by this question

[spartan55]

How does he know you are taking him seriously?

[spartan55]

Why are you doubting his sincerity so much?

[Asker]

because i still can sense he’s not being consistent in terms of communicating like texting me and stuff, because for me if he is serious, he’ll be constantly talking to me? is that right or my opinion is wrong?

[Asker]

or he just went crazy to manipulate me maybe?

[spartan55]

"Constantly talking to you" Uh... no?

[spartan55]

Manipulate you? Wtf are you talking about. He introduced you to his family. That is a big deal to guys.
You gauging sincerity on how much a guy texts you? That's absurd.

[spartan55]

Again, how does he know you are taking him seriously?

[Asker]

because i still don’t feel secure with him, he’s like one day so available and the other just not there 🥹

[Asker]

well im consistent with him, duh i dont play games push and pull like he does duh?

[spartan55]

Duh, so you think because you want to talk every day all the time you are taking him serious? You aren't ready for a relationship.

[spartan55]

You need to find a guy who has nothing going on in his life so he can text you 24/7.