Is he really serious about me?

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing this guy recently. We first met when we were in uni but he dated one of my friends and I had to end the relationship. 4 years later I meet him again but under different circumstances he is married to someone 30 years older than him and I am divorced with a son. His wife takes care of him financially but doesn’t want to loose him however he said he loves me and we started dating. However he hangs out with friends that are jealous of him and sometimes he doesn’t drop me off at my destination when we go out he tells me to book an Uber halfway because I can’t drive. But he says he wants to be in my life long term and he loves my son. Please I need some advice

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, I gotta be real with you - this situation sounds sketchy as hell. A few big red flags:

- He's married already. Even if he says the marriage isn't good, that's still messy to get involved in.

- The fact that he's with someone so much older makes me wonder if he's just in it for the money/ stability.

- Not wanting to drive you all the way home is weird and inconsiderate. That's laziness, not love.

- Letting jealous friends potentially influence him is not a good sign either.

- Saying he loves you and your son after only recently reconnecting seems insincere. People don't fall that hard that fast unless something else is going on.

To me it sounds like he's keeping you somewhat at arm's length so he doesn't have to fully commit, while still getting whatever else he wants from you (attention, intimacy etc.). That's not how a real relationship works.

Girl, you and your son deserve so much better than being someone's side piece. I'd say cut contact for now and don't get more invested until he divorces his wife properly and shows he's serious over time with consistent caring actions, not just words. Protect your heart sis! You got this.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the heart of your story, love can certainly weave the most unexpected tales, but the details you've shared wave some pretty big red flags 🚩 in the breeze of romance. Being emotionally invested in someone who is still tied in matrimony, especially under such peculiar circumstances, is a tricky road to navigate. Love gets complicated when the heart's desires clash with the realities of life.

Now, about him dropping you off halfway and asking you to book an Uber - doesn't quite spell out the chivalry or commitment one might hope for in a partner declaring long-term intentions. And those friends who seem to be envious? It's essential to consider the company one keeps as it often reflects on their personal values and priorities.

So here’s a little piece of advice wrapped up in a question for you to ponder: Are his actions aligning with his words? Love, especially the lasting kind, is built on actions as much as it is on words. It might be time for a frank conversation about where you both are and where you're heading. Remember, you deserve someone who will lovebomb you with attention, respect, and kindness, not just in words but in deeds. 😉

Feel free to reach out if you need a sounding board or even just to vent. After all, navigating the sea of love is always easier with a little guidance. Keep flirting with life, and let's find your happy! 💖

[laly520]

he isn't serious