Guys, do you like being fussed over?

[PippiL]

Do you like it when your girlfriend/wife fusses over you? When she tries to make sure that you've had enough to eat, that you're comfortable, happy, and that all your physical needs are met? Is this a turn on, or does it remind you of your mother?

[mangaka92]

Hmm, that's kind of a difficult question. I know that I, myself, kind of struggle with this and figuring out if I like it or not. The reason being, is, as you said, it could be either a turn on or just remind me of my mother. I really don't like being mothered. Ever. However, having someone that's genuinely concerned about me and wants to me make me happy as much as I enjoy doing everything I can to make me happy is really wonderful and a big turn on. I think the underlying difference is if the action feels like it's mothering (e. g., worrying all the time - unexcessive worry is still very good - about where I am if I'm not back when I say I was going to be and sending me a million texts, telling me what I should and shouldn't eat because something is good or bad for me, constantly reminding me to do something like my mother would when she asked me to clean up my room as a kid, etc.), then it's a big turn off and just reminds me of my mother. A lot of times, it ends up in frustration. However, if she notices I'm uncomfortable and asks if she can do something for me, or notices that I'm a little down and asks me how my day was and wants to talk to me about it and try to cheer me up, or asks me if I've had enough to eat, I feel like she cares about me and my well-being and that's a big turn on. A caring and loving heart like that is one of the things that attracts me to a girl more than just about anything else. Those are the kinds of women I'd do just about anything for to make them happy, as well. A girl that is naggy and mothering, but hides it behind the term "caring" isn't as attractive to me and is a turn off.
Usually if there's something like that that a guy doesn't like being asked about (e. g. a girl telling her guy that he shouldn't put so much maple syrup on his waffles as he does because it's not good for him as a silly example), it's pretty obvious that it upsets him. In general, I think it's pretty safe to assume that he likes being fussed over. :)

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have thought to describe it as a turn on but yes, I suppose so.

I'd love to be with a girl who'd love to let me lay my head on her lap while she runs her hands through my hair, who'd know how I feel and would try and cheer me up when I'm sad, who'd be there for me when I'm sick and who'd like to help me by cooking me food or getting me better clothes.

What you describe would actually turn me on as I'd feel loved and connected. Tbh if she did half that, I'd be so turned on, I'd be desperate for her. Lol

[Frost_Byt3]

Well yes, i like to be in relationships where we parent each other, and sometimes i like to be mothered.

[Anonymous]

I love it, and I think it's a big turn-on. My older brother lifts consistently and got himself really big, and he said the greatest part of it is that women tend to want to take care of him by making sure he gets enough to eat and has enough rest. It's like him being huge brings out the feminine instincts in women and they want to care for him a lot more than they would a less masculine guy.

[Heavyhitter]

I don't know no bout the mom thing never got treated like what u said but I think it would be ok but only lightly I don't want her to know the days that I don't eat I broke my foot at work I won't her to be happy and not think about my problems

[knight1986]

Look ill be honest, sometimes it can be positive (sometimes), but not to the extent of being like a mother, no ways

[Anonymous]

Hate it. I'm an adult I can care for myself. Unless I'm sick I'd get annoyed by that.

[Iron_Man]

Yes as long as she does not turn me into a good year blimp

[fenixx0083]

Not even a little. I'm an adult and can manage at least the basics 😊 And for that matter, when I'm sick, hurt, or angry, all I want is to be left *alone*

[oldanddecrepid]

I sure do... as long as she does not mind the same treatment!

[sexyphil]

I like to be fussed over but also like to fuss over my girl. It is a two way thing to me to look after each other...

[james_mark]

if she does that from the bottom of her heart not like a duty it's okay , but don't over do it, nobody need spoonfeeding from his girlfriend in every step in his life.