Every time me and my girlfriend fight she won't eat or go to work or do ANYTHING. It's unhealthy...

[nicepaul]

Every time me and my girlfriend fight she won't eat or go to work or do ANYTHING. It's unhealthy and kind of crazy. Sometimes I'll apologize just so she doesn't go into a weird depression. What is the matter what her?

[RattledByMen]

I know you posted this a while ago... but just in case, I thought I'd respond. Your girlfriend is super unhealthy. She may be having a real reaction, but she may also be doing it just to manipulate you. As her behavior is REALLY beyond the boundaries of normal, I'd demand she get some help. You certainly don't want to live this way for the rest of your life! It would just be exhausting!

I honestly think being without her (providing she doesn't change) would be the better option.

Good luck to you!

[Anonymous]

Because she loves you and you inspire her and when she thinks things are heading downhill then she assumes there isn't anything worth being healthy for anymore because she does it all for you she doesn't wan things to get worse so when she does that shes tryin to show how much shes hurt and that if she ever did really lose you then it could get worse and your like a drug to her shes in love and when people fall in love chemicals get released from their brains that make them feel and act differentely.

[Sel31882]

I've done the same thing before to my man. What helped me out is trying to become more independent, and trying to do things that boost my self esteem. Obviously she gets that way after every fight because she is depending on you too much for her happiness. Try to encourage her to do things for herself that will make her happy, like picking up on hobbies that she enjoys. I've done this and it helped me to stop that unhealthy pattern.

[chelseydarling]

I do the same thing with my boyfriend. All the girls are right. We only do it because we depend to much on you. The thought of losing you to someone else completely destroys us. Maybe if we hurt ourselves you will stay with us.

This happened over a year ago, but hey, for future references, if she really loved you, she wouldn't hurt you.

A fight is a fight. It will happen. Trust try to comfort her.

[suzzy]

She is probably setting herself up for the worst every time, assuming that she will lose you which can be very hard on a girl. But you are right, that's not healthy and you need to tell her to either seek counseling or work out your problems better.