Do you think my crush got jealous?

[Anonymous]

My crush and i don't really know each other, we have talked maybe a few times, and only work related stuff. However lately i have caught her looking at me from far away and looking away.

So here is what happened, my coworkers sat on the grass beside her, and my other coworker whom i believe likes me, started to touch pocking my leg because i have hard muscles (i work out and play soccer) and then she said something like "put it hard" refiering to my leg in order to flex it, which everybody obviously took it the wrong way and laugh.

After that i noticed that my crush and her friend left and walked somewhere else.

So what do you think? Do you think she got jealous? or am i reading too much into it?

[talias288]

Girls can be complex, but some things are hard to hide.

Next time you catch her looking at you, pay attention to what direction she flits her eyes. If she looks down "shy geisha". Good - she has some interest, and feels a little shy around you. If she sweeps her eyes across, she's unsure or uninterested. If she looks up and away, she's annoyed (think rolling eyes).

Seriously, every time a cute guy looked at me, I was like in disbelief and mortified, like omg he caught me, now he thinks I'm a creep stalker. I secretly hoped he would come over, but it never happened.

Still, you need to be a bit more proactive. Compliment how she looks, especially if you notice a new item or piece of clothing. Tell her it's really flattering on her, and act like its nothing, go bout your business. You need to drop not so subtle hints that you think she's totally cute and you would totally go out with her if she was available. Worst thing is she might say 'ewww', but life is too short man.

I wasted so many years of my life being shy, and it turns out that most of the guys I crushed on in school actually liked me but were equally afraid. Since then I've gotten much more assertive and direct. I approach guys all the time in public places, with mixed results, and adrenaline rush feels like jumping off a cliff every time. Still, I'm at a serious advantage to all those other hot chicks holding up the wall, too afraid to take action.

[Asker]

Ok thanks for that i will take that into account. But let me ask you this, do you think she got jealous or not?

[talias288]

Sorry, i didn't even answer the question. You might be looking too much into it. If a girl was jealous, she might not do something obvious to make that apparent. She'd just as likely sit there and swallow a lump of disappointment. She might be afraid that if she hangs around and laughs then people might suspect she is into you - stupid, but prob a big fear, if indeed she is crushing on you.

[talias288]

Give it some more time. If you keep dropping hints, then eventually you'll find out how she feels about you.

[Asker]

will do thanks

[Solstice88]

Probably reading too much into it. Or maybe they know that girl is into you and wanted to give you space. I usually find that in an office environment everyone knows who likes who. Does the girl you like ever ask everyone to go out as a group when you are there? (Like maybe in the hope you will come with). Does she go out of her way to start conversations with you?

[Asker]

No and No lol

[Solstice88]

Yeah probably not a good sign. Unless she wants you to do all the work. But if that was the case she would probably at least make it obvious in some way (eg get a friend to tell you) that she liked you. Unless she is extremely shy... :/ good luck with it anyway!