Hey everyone! This is my first post to this website so I hope I'm posting in the correct section.
My girlfriend recently told me that she wants to have her breasts augmented. I have mixed feelings about this and I've had a bunch of long talks with her about it. Her situation is a bit different than just wanting bigger breasts, I'll describe her situation as well as I can.
First of all we have been dating for 5 years, she is 21 years old. When she was 17 she had double D breasts, but because of insecurities and what seemed like pressure from her mother she decided to have a breast reduction. She went from a double D to a medium C. Unfortunately she had complications and an infection set in. Because of this the doctors had to further reduce her breasts and she is now a small B cup.
Apparently she has always regretted getting the reduction, but only recently decided to really open up to me about it. I've always known she was very insecure about her scars,(she not even comfortable having her bra off while the lights are on) but I didn't know she had such incredibly deep regrets about even having the surgery for the reduction to begin with.
I tried to talk to her and tell her that she looks great the way she is but she is convinced that I'm just being nice to her and not telling the truth. I do genuinely believe that she is fine the way she is and have tried to show her that she looks great... But she honestly believes that she ruined her body. There have been multiple times that she has cried for over an hour with me about how she ruined her body. She has said terrible things about herself and has literally told me that she hates her breasts and doesn't even like to look at them. Its an awful experience and I want to help her.
My question is how should I go about helping her? My first thought is to help her get th
My girlfriend recently told me that she wants to have her breasts augmented. I have mixed feelings about this and I've had a bunch of long talks with her about it. Her situation is a bit different than just wanting bigger breasts, I'll describe her situation as well as I can.
First of all we have been dating for 5 years, she is 21 years old. When she was 17 she had double D breasts, but because of insecurities and what seemed like pressure from her mother she decided to have a breast reduction. She went from a double D to a medium C. Unfortunately she had complications and an infection set in. Because of this the doctors had to further reduce her breasts and she is now a small B cup.
Apparently she has always regretted getting the reduction, but only recently decided to really open up to me about it. I've always known she was very insecure about her scars,(she not even comfortable having her bra off while the lights are on) but I didn't know she had such incredibly deep regrets about even having the surgery for the reduction to begin with.
I tried to talk to her and tell her that she looks great the way she is but she is convinced that I'm just being nice to her and not telling the truth. I do genuinely believe that she is fine the way she is and have tried to show her that she looks great... But she honestly believes that she ruined her body. There have been multiple times that she has cried for over an hour with me about how she ruined her body. She has said terrible things about herself and has literally told me that she hates her breasts and doesn't even like to look at them. Its an awful experience and I want to help her.
My question is how should I go about helping her? My first thought is to help her get th
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I ran out of space, but if anyone needs any additional information let me know.
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I didn't realize that my question got cut off. I was going to say that my first thought is to help her get the operation, but I don't think that that will solve the true underlying issue which is her insecurity. And yes I do think that she needs someone to talk to possibly a therapist.
Thanks for all of the responses
Thanks for all of the responses
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