I'm insecure about my girlfriend showing cleavage. How can I get rid of it?

[Anonymous]

She has a dress which has quite good cleavage and i Even told her about how i feel when she wears it. It's one of her fav. Dress still she said she won't wear it again for me but few days after she made it her profile pic. Now if I'm wrong how can I get ride of this insecurity. I want to talk about it to her but talking again to her makes me think what she will think about me if I'm controling her or i have a less open mentality something. Please help 😭

[Anonymous]

My breasts are much larger than that and even I would not tolerate my partner telling me what to wear. You are not her father. You need to get over your insecurity and she needs to stop letting you control her as if you were her child. Women dont only dress for men - we dress for ourselves. And people are always going to check out other people. Get over it. Either you trust her or you dont. If you trust her not to cheat on you, then the only left is to address your own feelings of inadequacy because you probably think she can attract someone "better" in your mind. This is often the lurking insecurity behind possessive men. It's not healthy and if a low cut dress makes you feel this way, I feel bad for her if she's at all social or ambitious. This insecurity will likely express itself in various ways. It has been a destructive force in my parents marriage for years and it definitely doesn't stop with clothing. I would never tolerate that at all. Good luck to her because she'll need it.

[Asker]

I'm trying to work on myself but you know the possessiveness i want to work on it that's why I need help because I can't do it by myself and I can't even ask her because i may hurt her. I really care about her and her feelings

[Mattydone]

The whole reason women show cleavage is to get attention.
Speaking of insecurities...

[mishanw_1071]

she looks absolutely beautiful, i honestly dont think there's a problem with what she's wearing... she can wear what she wants, but its good she respected your wish

[loveslongnails]

First of all, if that's the dress in question, and her breasts are not that large, what's the issue? Ah, the issue is you are afraid that tons of other men will see her, want her, and then you'll lose her to one of them. What does that say about you? You lack confidence and self-esteem, AND you don't trust your girlfriend, even though she agreed not to wear the dress out anymore. How do you get rid of those issues? You grow up and act like a real man. Maybe if you "act" like one long enough, it will take hold. If not, you're not man enough for a woman if you get all screwed up about a little sun dress like that !!

[Asker]

But bro why she even posted it on social media and wears it outdoor if she said she won't wear it... Yes I'm accepting my fault here i want to get ride of it i want to grow up but what about her words

[loveslongnails]

She posted it because she loves the way she looks in the dress, AND possibly to poke you in the side. She's agreed not to WEAR it out... she never said she wouldn't let herself be SEEN in her favorite dress. Look... bro... if you want to LOSE this girl, keep doing what you're doing. I guarantee she won't be around long. You gotta grow up FAST, as in yesterday fast, or she's gone.

[Asker]

I'm working on it😅 thank for help man that means a lot

[loveslongnails]

What country do you live in, Mr. Anonymous, and out of curiosity, what is your religion if you adhere to one?

[ForteExe]

Tell her again how much it bothers you. If she still ignores you then that's a red flag in the relationship. Whether or not your concerns are well founded is a separate matter. If she's dismissive of your fears then she's not wife material. She can enjoy being single with her dress.

[Mattydone]

This is the truth. She can dress how she wants and I choose to not be around when she does.

[SpaceFungus-07a]

It's not controlling to not want her showing her cleavage to other men. That's a perfectly reasonable request, and if she can't handle it that's her fault, not yours.

[Sonjita]

Agree.

[Freakintheflesh]

Man let her shine like a diamond, and be proud of that shit. You just have to trust her but be on the look out for dudes that want to mess with her.

[ecfresh]

Why are you insecure about the dress? What's the worst that can happen?

[Asker]

Guys hitting on her

[ecfresh]

Ha Ha, guys will hit on her regardless of what she wears. You need to have trust that she is with you and chooses to be with you. If you are afraid that another guy will hit on her and she will leave you, that is on you. You need to get over the insecurity quickly or you will make other choices that eventually she will see an insecure and clingy... that will push her away. Just let her know she is a beautiful girl and sometimes you are concerned when she gets approached by guys, she will let you know that you are with her... it may help gain some confidence. Other side of the coin, she might also be worried other girls approaching you.

[Asker]

Yes she gets jealous even if i have general conversation with my classmates who are girls

[ecfresh]

That's what I thought. There is no 'fix', just the more you are together the more trust you will build up. Going out on dates watch how each other interacts with people. Trust that is how they interact when you are not there. You cannot control her actions, all you can do is control how you act and show her you are loyal to the relationship.

[Asker]

Thank you i really needed it

[Massageman]

Don't fix what isn't broken. She looks nice in one of most conservative sundresses I've seen in a while.

[Tohhhru]

Well just know that the guys can look but they ain't touching

[Mattydone]

Starts with looking. We'll it starts with her craving attention from others...

[Sadboi69]

Hey man I’m kinda going through the same issue. Please drop your insta/fb ID if you don’t mind 😬

[AuroraRoseat]

What specifically is making you insecure?

[Asker]

That other people are checking her out and she's allowing it with the cleavage. She's really attractive for me and if want to look attractive for me then i told her i what i want. Still she is doing it. For whom she want to look like that etc. Things

[AuroraRoseat]

So the issue resides with you. I think you need to understand that people are going to look regardless and she is with you, choosing to be with you, and not for them. I doubt that she's wearing the shirt for attention and she should be able to wear whatever she chooses.

[reptocarl]

What are you Amish?

[Asker]

Indian

[JeffreyCress]

Man up and enjoy the show

[Mattydone]

How many times you've been divorced?