Girlfriend almost NEVER GIVES ME BLOWJOBS... how much of a dealbreaker is this? Rest of my life with NO BLOWJOBS?

Question

Been together 3 months. BJ's are a favourite of mine. I go down on my girlfriend all the time and I like it. I've learned to develop pleasure from pleasing my partner, and I'm a "giver". She, however, doesn't like giving it and has never given me a BJ longer than 2 minutes and she has never made me finish from one. When she does, she's not very good/unenthusiastic. I've had girls who has given me one on the first date and were amazing, were into it and continued to do so over the course of the relationship. I like it when a girl just does it and I don't have to ask.

I'm starting to realize that I'm a big "giver" in general, whereas she's a bit more stingy. She's picky with everything - food, movies, life in general. She won't suck it if it's been inside her or anything. I like a nasty girl who's really sexual.

Other than that I do love her but can't see the rest of my life without getting good head, I'm only 24. What do you think?

LuvvaLovee · Accepted Answer

Absolute deal breaker. If things aren't satisfying and she isn't into you enough to look forward to sucking your dick and can't wait to swallow you whole, won't do things like talk dirty or get down with you a little more nasty, it's not going to change. Your needs in this area will not go away, and if you convince yourself that it doesn't really matter, that you can live without that kind of depth with her, that sexy sex isn't everything etc., you will become so frustrated you'll resent her and likely cheat on her. It's way important to have a sexually compatible partner because when you don't have one, you obsess about not having your needs met, and when you DO have a compatible partner in bed, they are the only one you want! THEM, all day, every day. And that's what it takes to stay together forever

KailahBooBoo · Accepted Answer

Lol, well first, it's only been 3 months! And second, I don't think she's the one for you. You love her in all but you might get tempted to have "someone else" give a blow job for you to satisfy your longings. Who knows. She might change maybe? If you give it some time? I'm not trying to be mean I promise lol. I'm just stating what I think. You can take it however you want. I try to help as much as I can though. How about you give to her how much she gives to YOU! Lol. So, if she goes down on you like once a month, then so shall it be with her. But that's just an idea. You can run with it if you want. Good luck ; ) lol

experiencedLass · Accepted Answer

Three month relationship means there is no guarantee that it will be the rest of your life, but you say you love her and clearly want to make it work.

You have to make her feel comfortable, the first few times I gave bjs it freaked me the fuck out! But now I love it.
If she is picky with other things in life then there is probably a bigger issue, something she is upset or angry about with life.

Help her with other issues, being closer with lifes struggles will make you closer sexually too.
If you love her be patient but express your needs/wants and encourage her to express her own.

Comebackkid87 · Accepted Answer

Girls don't give blow jobs to guys they don't think are worth it. If she isn't blowing you its because she doesn't value you enough as a man to get down and pray.

Guarantee she has/will give them to other men.

You have two options :
1.) Mold yourself into a dominant man who is control of his life and can guide the relationship. After doing this, you shouldn't ask for one, just pull it out and tell her what you want her to do. If she is adamant in her no, proceed to option two :
2.) break up and work on improving yourself more until you are ready to lead a woman and relationship into the direction where this is normal.

3rd option is that she doesn't like blowjobs, which is ridiculous. Blowjobs aren't half as difficult as munching on some hairy tuna for 10-15 minutes.

Tbola278 · Accepted Answer

If it is an issue now, it is only going to fester until the relationship's inevitable end. Unless you talk about it, and can come to some understanding that puts both of your minds, and genitals, at ease, there is not much of a future. Also, you are young, there is no pressure to stay with anyone forever

redeyemindtricks · Answer

You probably just haven't unlocked the higher levels of girl.

95 percent of female sexuality is in the mind. If you want to GET head, you gotta fill HER head.
What are you doing to try to change her perception of this? Get her more into the whole thing in general? Can you tap her own fantasies and link them to this? Bet you can.

Felinegirl · Answer

You can try to see if she would be in for an open relationship. If her low sex drive is the only thing that makes you wonder wether she's perfect for you, it could improve your relationship since you would be satisfied and still have the emotional connection. She must be 0% jealous and you must be 100% emotionally connected to her though, otherwise it won't work.

9mfeo · Answer

Either deal with it or break up with her. Not exactly rocket science.

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

really? "it's just something you should do even if you don't like it" fuck that shit, i do what i want and if i dont want to do something then i dont.  same goes for any other human being out there.

bhale2012 · Answer

Y'all have been together three whole months? Dude. End it. Sex isn't everything but it's something. Not that not wanting to give bj-s is that bad. But you have to belect sexually satisfied for it to work.

Emilyshae97 · Answer

Talk to her about it. She might just think she wouldn't b very good at it and nervous of rejection if she does suck at sucking. Let her know. your concerns

Thatweirdone_ · Answer

Talk to her about it Or like I don't know pour chocolate on your dick and say it's a Banana split  Maybe that would get her to do it 😂😂😂

Girl7150 · Answer

Your relationship is quite new and you already sound like you aren't very in love with her.. She probably not the one if you are already in doubt

Anonymous · Answer

You love blowjobs more than you love your girlfriend... Leave her so she can find another guy and so you can sleep with those nasty girls you obviously want instead of your girl...

Kiminowa · Answer

If she knows how much it means to you and she cares she'll try in the future

Anonymous · Answer

Is your D super girthy? It may be really uncomfortable. See if she's do a handy with lots of licking and tip to tongue tickling!

jacquesvol · Answer

Do you expect a girl with a low sex drive to give you blow jobs? Really?^_^.

Anonymous · Answer

I could get off to giving one but won't receive it I don't like getting oral. everyone is different. Find someone for you!

KawaiiPie67 · Answer

How important is ur sex life to U? I think U should decide now before U commit!

Anonymous · Answer

Break up. This is her in the honeymoon phase. It's downhill most likely from here.

pewdiepie_ · Answer

ask her what she doesn't like about bj? Tell her if you give her a head then she also has to do it. have a deal.

Anonymous · Answer

I think you are a jerk and any girl give this idea that u deserve it is a bitch whore just like u

thatkaruguy · Answer

dont give if you dont get i say.

Anonymous · Answer

Girlfriends are overrated dude... stick with hookers, they'll give you many blowjobs

apple24 · Answer

Dude Fine another girl!

abc--123 · Answer

That's a pretty big deal breaker

Anonymous · Answer

Just chill. she probably need time

Hailz_Morquecho · Answer

bruh you have been dating for 3 months fr!

jmmmfi2 · Answer

That definitely wouldn't work for me

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