I punched my GFs jaw because she hit me in the balls (Thought I was cheating)?

[Anonymous]

First of all. This girl hasn't shown she's violent. For me I dont tolerate people who hit me intentionally. My girlfriend came over to my mum's house and into my room.

As I tried hugging she kneed me hard. Luckily I was wearing jeans so it didn't hurt as much. I got soo pissed even thou it didn't hurt really bad it was enough for me to grab her shirt and swing full force on her face. She fell down sort of. In between this she mentioned that I was 'cheating' on her. When I know I haven't. She kept saying I was a ass blah blah.

Any way after the punch she kinda stayed on the floor quiet before acting like I committed the biggest crime. She tried turning on the waterworks making herself look like the victim but I told her to get out before I do damage I'm not a violent person in general. Obviously I wasn't proud of what I did but I feel justified. Nobody should hit me let alone that region.

she's trying to play the female card but I don't feel obliged to apologise. She accused me of wrongly cheating which she knows now and she attacked me without even having confirmation from me. Should we break up? she's trying to make things work but brings up the fact that I shouldn't hit her. What hell is she smoking?

[Afro-dite9]

😧😧😧😧 Children, children, children... Some of these comment's are fucktarded for one! Secondly, NEITHER one of you should use violence to prove a damn point. Yeah you got caught off guard and reacted, so have I, but I don't pull bitches hair or throat punch mf"s for an assumed affair😑 she could have just had a mature conversation about this all and avoided this jerry springer drama and youuuuuu😧smh you're a guy wtf would you full force punch a mf youuu know you're 9time's stronger than and I bet she's smaller too (the smaller one's are always violent) if you're so young doing all this in this unhealthy relationship then you need to dump her... imagine what else you two are capable of down the road. What if she thinks u got a girl preggo or f**ked her bestie... are u going to WWE tap her ass out? Do urself and her a fav and leave one another be. Women are emotional af so this isn't shhh compared to what more could have happened and if you can't handle a so called hit to the dick that u said didn't hurt, yet u made her go night night thennnn um yeah honestly both of u are immature to me. She has know right to hot you and thinks its ok , period! To think she crying to play the victim 😑😑nigga u not only actually hurt her inside, but out. I'd cry too. I wouldn't have hit u though, but that is better said than done esp if I don't have proof u did anything. Violence doesn't solve shhh... but angry sex does lmfao. Maybe that's what y'all should have done. I don't know it just should never get to this point. I wouldn't want to be with someone I can't trust, nor someone who believes putting their hands on me is the key... cause honestly I have every male fam and friend on speed dial waiting to f*** someone up and that goes for guy's and girl's. The damage is done. Break up that's it.

[Babybebe15]

Why the hell do girls feel like it is okay to hit guys in the nuts? It is obviously painful and could cause a serious injury.

Women should never hit a guy down there unless he is trying to hurt her (like rape) and she needs to defend herself. Other than that it should be off limits.

And I don't know about other girls, but I would be too scared to hit a guy knowing that he could do a lot worse.

If she thought you were cheating then she should've just pushed you or been mature about it and talked to you instead of assuming things and being aggressive.

As for your actions they were also very wrong. If you didn't like her kneeing you then you should've just shoved her a little so she would know that that is not allowed. You shouldn't have retaliated like that.

Yes, I think you should both break up because it sounds to me like you guys aren't going to get over whatever happened so it's just best to apologize to each other and end it now.

[PsycheAndEros]

If she hit you first I say good for you for hitting her back. I in no way support domestic abuse but if she just stormed in and didn't even try to ask you about it first then she deserved it. If you kick a guy in the balls hard enough you can do serious permanent damage I don't think you should break up necessarily but if this has ever happened before, or if it happens again then chances are she's actually cheating on you. My ex tried to break up with me by accusing me of cheating after he cheated on me with my best friend. People are just all assholes in general. Good luck anyway!

[kaylaS91]

You shouldn't have hit her, nor should she have kneed you.

You guys both sound like drama queens. Two wrongs don't make a right; her knee should not have made contact with your balls, but in more civilized societies, issues like this are settled verbally versus through physical combat.

She should receive some kind of counselling or therapy for people who have issues controlling their aggression as nothing justifies kneeing someone in the balls. Not even solely 'suspecting' that they're cheating.

[Anonymous]

I assume this took place in the UK (based on "mum" and how you spelled "apologise") so I'm not entirely clear on the legalities of it there. In the US, you'd be fucked. There's exactly one type of person you're not allowed to defend yourself against under almost any circumstances, and that's the type of person with a vagina. They fall back on it being a matter of size and strength, but for some reason, the law has zero concern for that kind of thing when it's a big guy and a little guy (not a child) in a fight.

My personal opinion is that if someone gets violent with you, you have the right to defend yourself with violence, and fuck "size." Don't start none, won't be none. Obviously the ideal scenario is no violence at all, but if they initiated it, it's a green light to end the situation by whatever means. But my opinion does not agree with the law.

Yes, you should break up. You should also very quickly look at what the law states about it and depending on what you find, be prepared to contact a lawyer.

[AdamThomas]

I don't like the idea of men hitting women but too many women think they can just hit a man for no reason and get away with it, especially when they have all these idiots who'll rush to their defense if the victim of their assault retaliates. Just because you're smaller and weaker doesn't give you the right to attack without any repercussions. Women can still do a lot of damage, especially hitting people down there. I'm 154lbs - if I hit a 300lb guy in the balls unprovoked and he hit me in the jaw would anybody have any sympathy for me at all?

[MaskedSanity]

I think you should definitely break up because she's violent and so are you.

You didn't defend yourself against her outrageous attack, you retaliated in revenge out of anger as per your own admission. You hit her because you were enraged and told her to get out before you do MORE damage.

I'd like to make this absolutely clear: she is an irrational violent bitch and her actions are inexcusable.

But you are no better. Seek professional help for your anger issues.

[Anonymous]

From personal experience you guys are both in the wrong. You guys should both apologize to one another. Why is it that we adults act like total clowns/children? A woman should not put her hands on a man, and a Man shouldn't put his hands on a woman. It's all wrong. Had you kept your cool and just broke up with her right there and then, told her to leave, or even took her out of your room and slammed the door in her face, you would be looking like the bigger person. But now you stooped to her level and you both look really bad. So I think a break up would be the best decision.

[Opinion Owner]

And as an adult, if a person needs to put their hands on another adult, then they are deeply insecure within.

[troyboy96]

I think dude shouldn't have punched her! But what she did was very wrong. I would have pushed her away from me very hard so that it was clear to never lay a part of her body in anger on me ever again. Long story short been in a relationship like this and im not no more.. and 2. I was kneed in the nuts so hard for something i dont member what i said. But still its words. That i was rushed to the ER. She split my left nut. It did heal on its own. So when anyone attemps that on me they are going to not like the out come from it. Thats one thing that will drive me over the edge!!

[Opinion Owner]

@troyboy96 Ouch!! I got the chills just reading that. Well dang, if you didn't hit the girl and she did that much damage to ur nuts then I don't know what this guy was whining about! My aggression out of insecurity/anger is part of what ended my last relationship and I learned a big lesson from it. Nobody is responsible for your what you let your insecurities do, but you. One thing is for sure, the only time I would ACCIDENTALLY hit my boyfriend at the time in the nuts was when I would climb on top of him to lie on him.

[Sad_Onion]

"I'm not a violent person in general. Obviously I wasn't proud of what I did but I feel justified"

yeah right. you are a vile worm of a "man"... and im using the term man very loosely here.

she didn't hurt you (your words, not mine) yet you hit her anyway. disgusting...

[Anonymous]

You should feel guilty, a knee to the nuts which you were - quote "wearing jeans so it didn't hurt as much" doesn't ask for a punch in the face.
Neither of you should have been violent to each other in the first place. If she is going to lash out like that if she thinks that you did something wrong, then the relationship isn't safe for you. If you're going to retaliate like you did, then its' not safe for her either. I think it would be wise to end it.

Honestly it was really hard for me to not see you as an ass because throughout your explanation you painted her as the bad guy and didn't stop to think that your actions were NOT okay. Hers were bad, but yours were MUCH worse.

[MeltedCheese89]

You were completely in the wrong to do that to her, and if you have ANY balls at all, you'll recognize you don't deserve that woman and leave her.

You hit a woman so hard she fell over after she BARELY hurt you, and you're too much of a wuss to apologize over that? You were justified in being upset, NOT in hitting her like that. Hell, hitting your girl at all is something NO man should do unless you're actually physically in danger.

[Anonymous]

She's a crazy violent bitch but you are no better than her. You should have just pushed her away and asked her to leave or leave. I do not think punching was justified. She could have easily turned that around on you and made you look like you regularly abuse her. You should break up

[Gal-ask]

You should never hit a girl... you should never hit a guy. It sounds like this relationship won't work out very well. Why can't we just remember the fucken golden rule , treat others like you would like to be treated come on people don't act out in rage take sometime to reflect, think, and calm yourself and choose your damm battles people

[Telekinetic-Potato]

You're not a bad guy. I've been ain a ton of fights. Fights that were fueled by anger, pride, money etc. Never, have I or anyone I've fought gone for the balls, so what the fuck makes this girl think it's ok to knee you when all you tried to do is hug her.

You shouldn't have gone full force, I can only hope that you're a weak guy but it sounds like it wasn't that hard. That girl is a jerk and you are the victim in this situation.

[ivaneca]

Do break up. Definitely not a healthy relationship. And "... swing full force on her face."? I'm not going to judge, since I wasn't there and can't say whether it was or wasn't self defense (e. g. if there were any indication she would hit you at least one more time), but if as you say, it didn't hurt you very much, my first thought is that you used excessive force.

[TraintoParis]

Wow, mature. Sinking to her level... Sounds a bit like preschool - I'm allowed to hit her because she hit me first. Hitting someone is never okay, no matter the circumstances. When she kneed you you should have just walked away

[Jbbhaze449]

("Walked away" Since it didn't hurt him physically.)

[TraintoParis]

@Jbbhaze449 quote "Luckily I was wearing jeans so it didn't hurt as much.". And I ment figuratively, walking away from the situation

[GingerGuy]

I tend to agree with you, yes you shouldn't have hit her but she shouldn't have hit you either. Somehow it's become "acceptable" for women to hit but not guys (it hasn't but some women take advantage like your girlfriend). You guys obviously aren't right for each other regardless though and should end things in my opinion.

[dragonslayer1516]

Even if she hit you in the balls you still shouldn't have punched her in the face because no decent guy would hit a woman even if she hit him in the balls. So you should work it out with her and appogize for hitting her even though she wrongly accused you.

[KawaiiPie67]

A full force punch is way too much. U said u barely felt her knee... I don't get Y U would post this. Isn't it obvious people wouldn't agree with u?

This is something to remember though. If I decide to hit a guy 1st, it is always good to remember he can hit back... So I should make sure I try to make him hit the floor 1st.

[SteamBuns]

I'd like to see you try.

[KawaiiPie67]

@StreamBuns Most people I know can barely balance. If I just kick my friends' legs a little they'll stumble or fall down. I think I only wouldn't be able to knock down a guy if he was enraged m.

[KawaiiPie67]

@SteamBuns

[VirginiaBeachBum]

"Luckily I was wearing jeans so it didn't hurt as much. I got soo pissed even thou it didn't hurt really bad it was enough for me to grab her shirt and swing full force on her face."

And that's where you fucked up. Since it's obvious both of you are willing to use violence in this relationship, it's time to put an end to it.

[Tarvold]

Yes. Break up. Life is too short to put up with this bullshit.

You did nothing wrong. She came up to you out of the blue and attacked your balls. Even if you did cheat, she at least should have asked you for your version of the story first.

Cut all contact immediately and move on. This one is toxic.

[truthhammer]

if he kneed you and it was ok for you to punch him in the face i think its fine.

why is it ok for women to hit men? women do it thinking were not allowed and to stop this, men have to hit back until they realise they can go ape shit only to get their asses ragdolled.

i got assualted from walking away from a fight before. womena re too wild these days

[shadowofgulash]

Dude, not cool. no matter what she did. you should of never put your hands on her. when she did that, your best option was to turn around and walk away. or just run, putting your hands on her was uncalled for.

[BambooforPanda]

She shouldn't have hit you. And you shouldn't have hit her. Two wrongs don't make a right. I'm concerned that you actually feel justified doing that I would feel like a piece of shit, even if it was just a knee jerk reaction.

[Prettygurl12]

Well... if she calls the cops... you'll go to jail.

[Jbbhaze449]

You should go to jail in my opinion. You should be so lucky you only get dumped. Worse case scenario you feel good about this and escalate and hurt someone else in the future.

[Indigocloud]

White knight aren't we?

[NearlyNapping]

Why should he go to jail and not her? She's the one who started it.

[Jbbhaze449]

If you can't see what's wrong with hurting someone significantly below your weight class then I can't help you understand it. Sounds like the wife beater complex. She was wrong to hit him in the nuts (not hard enough for it to hurt by his own admission) so he reciprocates the violence. There's no excusing this. If I were on a jury he'd be guilty.