Is it in their genes for girls to be extremely shallow and picky?

[Anonymous]

No matter how much girls deny it, they are ridiculously shallow and picky when looking for a boyfriend, or even when it comes to socializing or making eye contact with a dude.

Average looking guys don't even stand a chance in hell with an average looking girl. Even average looking girls expect a hot dude, and won't socialize with or even notice average looking dudes.

So are girls picky because of genetics, or is it because they were brought up to accept only a good-looking prince charming?

Anyway, I hope you shallow biotches die lonely old widows because prince charming never came. Good day.

[madmisskelly]

Girls are the same as guys in respect to attraction. I, in order to want to be with someone, do need to feel physically attracted to them. Anyone who says that physical attraction doesn't matter is lying. Yes, personality can make someone attractive, but this is after I've gotten to know them. This is the same as meeting a hot guy who has a bad personality- I WONT want to be with him either.

There are so many girls who like many different types of guys- there isn't just one type we all like. If I'm in a room with people I don't know, of course I'm going to go after the guy I find the most physically attractive- whoever that is. It could be anyone. Just like you may be the guy that the girl in the room goes for. Its all about tastes in men. Its not that I expect a hot guy, I just go for the most attractive one- that's human and animal nature. The female in the animal kingdom goes for the male that shows the fanciest colors or who looks the best.

Its human nature to go for someone you find good looking.

[Asker]

Exactly. That is why you females SUCK.

[madmisskelly]

Dear, you've missed my point completely. Men do the same thing. ITS HUMAN NATURE TO GO FOR SOMEONE YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE!!!! Meaning if there were you and a bunch of other dudes in a room, you might be the guy that girl finds attractive. Attraction is subjective. There is no golden standard to girls for attraction.

Youre kinda screwing yourself though because you are showing that you are not only judgemental, you're rude, you don't listen, and you lack any judgement or reason. You're f***ed.

[Asker]

NO NO NO NO NOOOO.... Men do NOT do the same thing. For me, 3/4 of every girls I see, there is some attraction I have to her. Girls are like he's either ugly, or he's hot. No where in between, and if he's not hot don't bother. You women are ridiculous, FINICKY little things.

[madmisskelly]

Again, you're wrong. I might not find a guy immediately hot, but that doesn't mean he's ugly. He can have a nice smile, or nice eyes. True, if I'm in a room with guys I don't know I'm going to go after the ones I find the most attractive. You do the same thing. what about the other 1/4 of the girls that you DONT have some kind of attraction to?

So I'm finicky because I don't want to go out with every single guy I see? Or because I I don't give every single guy a chance or because I don't approach every man?

[Asker]

NO. You are WRONG. I don't even pay attention to the really attractive ho's. I let doors hit them in the face, and glare at them. You girls are just finicky. You go after the hot guy, but ignore the less fortunate guys who weren't born with ripped body and angelic brad pitt face. I fecking hate women.

[madmisskelly]

I don't even like brad pitt, haha. I don't like ripped pecs and abs. I like guys that eat healthy and take care of themselves. You proved my point though. You ignore a girl based on looks alone. Just because she is really attractive you don't give her a chance because you ASSUME she is one way. You completely blow her off and go for someone else. So, you can put yourself in the same category you think us women are in.

[mdolphingirl3562]

Well of you "fecking hate women" stop dating them and go for the all respecting guys then! I think your being unreasonable here, not ALL women are like this. For me it's more for the attitude, what's on the inside, cause if I figured that if he looks nice on the outside, but treats you like crap/ is a total ass, why bother?

[daniellispinelli]

im not shallow at all, I just find it hard to talk to the guys I like so I have a tendecny to run away or denay my feelings for them, then it appears to be two late. Not all girls are shallow. Some guys end up being really good friends and when they reach the friend zone its a no go zone for a relationship as for me my guy mates are more like my brothers who id do anything for them. Shallow girls are picky because of the way they are brought up or maybe they have a specific type for example, they may look for certain features in guy, or the way there hair is. This could also be down to friendswho say that guys not attractive it can actually have an impact on the girls decision when they like someone. It doesn't always happen but it some cases it can.

there are loads of reasons for girls to be shallow, the media could be a part of it. Its not just a factor of one thing there are others that affect it too.

[MoreLikeFlying]

Someone's a little bitter, but I can understand. I've known my fair share of incredibly shallow girls (and friends) in my couple years. But, don't be hating, Guys are often the same way with girls.

But don't be so ignorant as to categorize every girl and guy into one category, we're not all the same believe it or not. And yes, we've been taught to expect something "Better" and "Good looking", but what's so wrong about being a little naive and blind about a few things? They'll grow out of it eventually. Be patient. :P

[anonymousforever]

OK, so you hate girls. Go find yourself a gay dude and get rid of some of the competition for us guys that still like girls. If that's not your thing then stop being so spiteful, pick yourself back up and get back out there buddy. Girls are not that difficult to figure out, and what you will learn with time is that most girls don't really know what they want in a man until they reach their mid to late 20's. Many of them miss out on good opportunities during that time, or screw things up in the learning process and live to regret it latter. That is all part of the maturation processes. Start dating girls a little older then you or just party for the next couple of years and then try to build relationships. By the way, both sexes are picky by nature, so get use to it.

[frustratedchump06]

I agree with you somewhat, girls just have to be cute and pretty in order for us guys, girls just have to be perfect in the looks department, but us guys have to be perfect or nearly perfect everything not only do we have to be good looking, but we also have to walk right, stand right, sit right, think right, have the right social skills, conversation skills, attitude, mentality, way of thinking, confidence, because confidence is a mental thing.

[Asker]

Exactly.

[frustratedchump06]

Yeah, like girls just have to be cute or pretty, that's all in order for us guys to like them or want them as a girlfriend, but in order for us guys to be boyfriend material, we have to be perfect everything like I said.

[bubblygirl92]

Actually it has more to do with personality than anything. To me, even if you're the hottest guy I've ever seen, if you have a horrible personality it instantly turns me off. Saying stuff like this is unattractive, or at least to me it is. Maybe you should try to see the best in people rather than the worst. Just because girls in your area are like that does not mean all girls are like this. Try to keep an open mind. Sometimes people will surprise you.

[Asker]

That's a lie and you know it! There are decent girls out there, and you sound like one of them. But for the most part, what I say holds true.

[Rainbows]

I think the majority of women are decent, and very few are as horrible as you seem to think they are, question asker.

[jacquesvol]

Indeed and I hope the majority of men isn't misogenic like this QA

[violetkarma]

wow, who have you been jilted by?

there are shallow people of both sexes, I'm not sure if one is more than the other.

i tend to see more hot men with hot women, I think this is because men tend to agree more on what is attractive rather than women.

women will date a wider population of men because the personality of the guy can kinda effect how we see him.

[FrozenDonkeyWheel]

What are you even talking about? What is wrong with you? This is basically the exact opposite of what life is actually like. Ugly guys are able to get with hot girls all the f***ing time. Girls go by personality more than anything. As long as you're not fat or horribly disfigured, girls, for the most part, barely even give a sh*t. They're absolutely nowhere near as shallow as guys. Your personality seems pretty terrible, so I would not blame girls for not flocking to you, but it's entirely possible that you've just had sh*tty luck. I really don't think you should blame the entirety of women for this, though. I mean, honestly. Look at your second to last sentence. You called all women "shallow biotches". Do you have any idea how retardedly douchey that sounds?

[Asker]

I've never seen an ugly guy with a hot girl.

[jacquesvol]

I just talked 15' with a marvelous girl, intelligent, breath takingly beautyful, 22 years old, a real top performer in classical music, touring the theaters of Europe since her 17 (I know her since her 16 and followed her carreer)

She just made her second CD, due in May.

You know what? She dates an ugly guy, intelligent and a good musician too but ugly and bad mannered.

I know both and was really afraid when she started dating him.

She did see his real qualities. I didn't.

[Asker]

1 out of 1000

[jacquesvol]

What are the odds that I should talk to that one out of 1000 on the exact day you come complaining here?

[Brooke101]

I see ugly guys with hot girls ALL OF THE TIME.

I love my boyfriend to death and I think he's gorgeous, but none of my friends agree... They think I'm too pretty and "hot" for him. I guess it depends on perspective.

[madmisskelly]

This is so true. Attraction is subjective, there is no golden standard. Sometimes someone's personality can make them attractive. Personality is the deciding factor, not looks.

[jacquesvol]

Mr Courageous Anonymous,

Calling all girls "shallow biotches" because you were turned down is a stupid affirmation.

You know what to do? Become gay. You'll see if you get more success with guys.

I doubt it seriously.

BTW

"Anyway, I hope you die lonely old widows because prince charming never came." is a contradiction. [ link ] Read what you write.

[wildfire5288]

Because guys are never shallow and picky. You're just upset because you didn't get laid last night, don't blame every girl on earth for that

[Asker]

No, guys are not shallow or picky. Girls are just dumb and don't know what they want! Of course, you are going to disagree since I'm guessing you are a girl.

[70sikitechie]

WOW, that last comment made me laugh and also kinda scared.

It's the way they are brought up. Genes have nothing to do with it.

[Asker]

Oh ok. So it's the mothers that hammer into their daughters heads that only good-looking men deserve their time. The rest are societies leftovers and treat them like scum. Women make me want to vomit.

[70sikitechie]

Well society has something to do with it, too. I'm a model, and it seems like whenever I date a guy, people judge whether or not he;s "good enough" for me by his appearance. But its also a double-edged sword. I was stupid enough to fall into that thinking, and missed the guy I SHOULD have been with.

Whatever this average-and-shallow girl said to you, she's stupid. let it slide. Save the effort for someone more aware and worth it.

[Asker]

I know you are right, but I feel so bitter because I feel that all girls are this way. There are some girls that find me cute. But for the most part, I'm just an average looking dude that gets NOTHING. Well, I take that back, sometimes I get the "what the f*ck are you looking at?" look. Even from average-looking girls of the same attractiveness as me.

[70sikitechie]

I guess that as girls, we're taught to hold out for the "best" (realistically, an obscured idea of the best) and that we're "worth it". Its stupid and petty, I agree. But I promise that not all girls are like that.

[70sikitechie]

Sorry, I forgot to scroll down and look at the other answers. I havea story similar to jacquesvol's. Like I said before, I missed the guy I should have been with because I was told I could only settle fore a "hot" guy. But I got past that kind of thinking and re-connected with him. We're going out now. I can never repay him for his forgivness. But he's, realistically speaking, "average looking". I get sh*t all the time for being with him. It doesn't matter. I love him. We're not all shallow.

[BeautifullyHazel]

well with a comment like that at the end no wonder you have to ask a question like this, sounds like you have some self esteem issues my friend. but in all reality guys are the exact same way...everyone has their preferences when it comes to looks but it takes a 'real' person to accept someone for who they are on the inside.

[Anonymous]

My ex of 3 1/2 years dumped me because she felt she deserved a hotter guy. No joke

[Asker]

See!? I'm sorry man. They're all evil.

[jacquesvol]

1.

sh*t happens

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there's enough for everyone: you don't have to throw it around.

[Asker]

This is proof. Quit denying it jacquesvol.

[Brooke101]

I disagree.

Guys are just as big of tools as girls are. Maybe you're basing everything off of looks too much, just like everybody else in this world.

[Asker]

No, I observe life around me, and everything I say is true. For example, I see so many girls that only hang out with girls, because they are pretty and no guy is good enough for them. Not to mention personal experience that I have on the matter.

[Rainbows]

Lol. I can assure you that that is not the reason that girls only hang out with girls. That is completely ridiculous.

[Brooke101]

I believe you're observations are true, but your reasonings may not be.

[martyfellow]

By good looking, they mean his CAR...or his wallet...! And since only a few guys are in that category, they girls come off as picky.

Actually they're not picky at ALL, they'd sleep with a hippo if it drove a Ferrari.

[takemedrunkimhome]

From your question I'd say its your bitter personality that makes girls ignore you, not your looks.

[Anonymous]

with that attitude, you're gonna die alone. No one will want to be with you with that attitude. Congratulations on shooting yourself in the foot.

[jacquesvol]

link

[Asker]

What is that?

[jacquesvol]

Look at the poll:

A: Yes, because I'm shy 19 0 19

every girl out of 19 girls admits she's shy about it.