My girlfriend seems to be annoyed by me??

[jp2440]

She was acting kind of weird (at least it seems to me) then I asked her and she said everything was fine but she is not the same way that it was before, now I know for a fact, she told me she was just tired and all that so I went with that, she was the same after a couple of days (still indifferent w/me) so I asked her again and I think she got really p*ssed off so I she said that she is fine and stop asking her so I did. Now we work in the same place so we always are IM each other, but today she didn't at all and she didn't even say goodbye, so I was thinking to give her some space, like not calling her or text her...and she didn't as well...so I don't know if this is a good idea...and I don't want her to think that I don't care...all for all I know maybe she doesn't wanna know anything about me anymore...What should I do ?

[mmeg77]

Like everyone below has already said "fine" is code for something is wrong. Sometimes girls just like guys don't wanna seem weak or overly fragile so we don't tell you our problems. Also we fear that sometimes our problems especially if they are with you they will come across as complaints. Chances are if she said "fine" she wanted you right then and there to ask her what was wrong and say you don't believe her when she's tired and not ask about it days later. Instead of constantly asking questions about the problem, maybe just do something nice, bring her flowers, dinner, movie or a night at home together. Tell her you know she's down and will try and be there for her whatever the problem is. Chances are she'll eventually tell you what's going on.

[jp2440]

Thank you ! You know I'm a really nice guy and I do wanna be for her wherever the problem is and support her....I just sometimes I think...like you said...wants to pretend she is very strong (and she is) but sometimes is ok to open up to other people, so she puts up this wall to avoid to get to close to me I think so she won't get hurt in case this doesn't work or wherever so sometimes for me is hard to try to show her how I feel because she just goes like is not a big deal but I think is becuase that

[mmeg77]

Just give her some time and maybe open up to her with your problems and maybe she will feel more comfortable opening up with hers. I am the same way I build a wall. It took my boyfriend months to break it down and I still sometimes put that wall up. Don't give up that's the most important thing.

[jp2440]

I will...hopefully she can realize I do love her and I just want her to be hersefl with me and don't trying to push me out instead....becuase I have this feeling that that's what she is doing...I hope I'm wrong.....but really thanks for the advise !

[mmeg77]

Np

[Anonymous]

whenever a girl says she's fine, she's lying. if she says that again give her a hug and be like I can tell somethings wrong tell me what I did. (even if its not you) she'll end up telling you what's wrong. as for not texting her I think that's a bad idea, even if she doesn't want to talk to you at least you attempted and that will look good on you. try texting her tonight and keep the convo light. and if she seems weird in the texting be like I know you hate when I ask this but did I do something wrong? hopefuly this helps!

[jp2440]

Thank you ! I Just really don't want to bother her you know....so I was just trying to give her some space but I was actually dying to call her or text her but I will defenetly send her a light message and hopefully by now she cool off, thanks a lot for the advise :)

[Opinion Owner]

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[karenxox2929]

defintelely agree with the comment below me! I have done the same thing to my boyfriend that she is doing to you and it was mostly because I didn't want him to get in the middle of other problems that had nothing to do with him. as many times as I told my him to leave me alone about it, in the end his consistency paid off because it showed how much he really cared and wanted to help!

[Anonymous]

Anytime a girl says they are "fine" you should be getting ready for battle stations. "Fine" is only ever used when a girl is anything but fine (towards you). If she was happy, tired, cranky, etc she would tell you with those words. But when "fine" is used that means you're in trouble for something you did (or didn't do).

[jp2440]

I kind of knew that so I got really worried and maybe that's why I keep asking her and p*ssed her off more.....I know there's something she is not telling me but will see if she is better by now..thanks !