Girls, how would you describe your dream guy?

[RedVulcan]

I basically want to know what most girls look for in a guy the most, because it seems to me that none of you are looking at all lol. Guys you can also vote what you want to see in a girl but I did tailor the options to what I think is a more female centered menu.
Ultimately, I want to know what qualities will make me and other single men more likely to succeed at getting partners for long term relationships.

Describe his looks in general

Describe a specific part of his body such as his face or muscles

Describe his personality

Describe his succeses or job

Describe the way he acts with you

Describe similarities or differences between the two of you

Other, please specify

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+1 y

The most commonly used descriptive terms so far are (not really in order, is too much text):
Confidence tops at 7
Adventurous
Fun or Funny
Ambitious or Passionate
Sweet, Nice, or Kind
For physical features women seem to prefer tall and manly.

Updates

+1 y

Let the record show that most women chose personality and how he acts as oppose to his looks or status. Faith in the world restored :) .

Also, how tall is tall, for those who've chosen height as an asset?

[ElissaDido]

My dream guy is probably Arab and probably Tunisian (but not necessarily).
He shares the same values and morals.
He might not be virgin himself anymore but even if he isn't, he would respect and understand my choice of saving myself for marriage (Although I prefer him to be virgin).
He's confident and charismatic, he's well respected by other men and when he speaks everyone listens because he's just so smart and wise and people like to hear his opinion.
He's very ambitious and passionate and hard working. He likes to achieve things and he's successful at doing so.
He's traditional and a gentleman, knows how to treat a lady and like to protect his lady but he's also modern.
He's manly and virile in the way he acts and looks.
He's not desperate and doesn't act like sex crazed maniac with girls (he doesn't send Dick pics to girls on the internet).

He's tall and athletic and knows how to dress nicely without being over the top. His hygiene is impeccable.
He's also very knowledgeable of Islam like @Omar5881
He has Oussama Mellouli's body ( I also like his face)
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He's family oriented and likes kids. He's very respectful to my family and his family is very nice. He also makes a good living so we can travel from time to time and own a nice cozy home next to the beach in Tunisia.
He loves me a lot and is ready to do anything for me, as do I.
Here's my perfect dream man LOL :P

[Omar5881]

Oh god I am mentioned hahaha , thanks love 😘

[RedVulcan]

Wow, thanks for the great answer! You've set the bar pretty high but I did say "your dream guy" so that's absolutely fine.

[Kacik]

If I should sum up and use 1 word I´d go for a "gentleman". My idea of a gentleman might be different from others´ so I´ll explain. I want an attentive guy, well-mannered in society who would respect me, love me and treat me well. Someone who realizes a relationship is not about being selfish. From me a guy gets what he sows - the better he behaves toward me, the better I to him. It´s not like I would wait for him to express himself, I act as I wish other acted towards me. There would have to be a spark between us, call it sexual tension or whatever. I´d like intelligent conversation from time to time, realistic, understanding. If I could choose looks - I´d go for at least as tall as me 5´11´´(even though I dated much smaller guys), masculine looking. Don´t care about weight as long as he´s not obese. Could me romantic a bit.

[RedVulcan]

So, more of a "nice guy" than an alpha male? Also, funny how fewer people mentioned that spark of yours, that's a very important thing to have in a relationship.

[Kacik]

yes, more a nice guy than an alpha... :-) We are equals in a relationship, I´d let him be alpha in bed if he wanted to :D

[Kacik]

I kind of always fell for the guys who were nice to me... in retrospective some of them couldn´t be considered handsome, so the looks isn´t everything... more about charisma (and I could be the only one who would see it) :-)

[RedVulcan]

Thanks. Definitely someone who's equal to me

[BlackBeauty90]

@RedVulcan - WHAT is an "alpha male"? The typical "alpha man" that I've seen is a douchebag loser with an attitude problem who thinks he's valueable but, in reality, the only women who find him attractive are usually douchebag women themselves. Why else do you think "alpha male" celebrities end up with women of little value beyond being an arm piece and is only with him because of his wallet not his personality.

[BlueMaze]

Of course, his personality is the most important. That's what keeps you wanting to stay. I like respectful, loyal, considerate, appreciative, intelligent, and funny guys. I dislike rude and obnoxious men, so if he is more reserved in public that is good. Looks, I'd say average on up. If he has nice feature, like a nice smile or nice eyes that would be good. I'm not too picky on height, weight, or skin color.

He doesn't have to like everything I do, but having some common interests would be great. I would want to spend some time with him, doing something we both love. Then we can alternate doing something the other one loves to do and maybe even learn something new!

[RedVulcan]

I wonder if looks matter less as you age. It would make sense, given how they deteriorate so badly lol

[BlueMaze]

I've always felt this way. When I was 16, I dated a short chubby guy and friends questioned why. Why not? He was funny, kind, and treated me right so that's what I wanted.

What deteriorates so badly?

[RedVulcan]

Imho looks in general deteriorate after 35ish. Wish I could date someone like that, mebbe not quite short since it would be a pain to stoop down for anything.

[99percentangel]

My dream guy? Well, for personality wise would be: confident, fun, loquacious, able to make me laugh, dominant, kind, strong.

And as for looks a handsome face, a six pack would be nice (but it's not a requirement), muscle, nice legs, defined shoulders.

I just want to say that I am not that picky, but we are talking about my dream guy. So this would be the dream partner. What's yours? Just curious. Lol.

[RedVulcan]

Why thank you for caring :) . Also don't forget to say which you want more, personality or looks.

My dream girl... first off before anything else she has to love me above any other dude and genuinely care about me.
I prefer personality over looks. Her personality should be more outgoing than mine but not so much that she's constantly surrounded by friends. She needs to be funny, smart, and honest. Especially honest, when I communicate with her I want there to be as few barriers between us as possible. We need to have a relatively similar mindset but also a few differences we can have fun arguing over. I also see you said dominant, but I think I prefer her to be relatively equal to me in terms of dominance.
Looks, if any, are mostly taller. I hate having to stoop for anything lol. Hair should be more straight on the head and I actually don't care about it anywhere else on the body. If she's obese that might be gross but if she's just chubby I think I'll be fine with it.

[RedVulcan]

Wow that was long.

[99percentangel]

Oh nice. Looks like you know what you want, that's good.

Yeah I prefer personality over looks as well. That's why I mentioned it first lol.

[RedVulcan]

Heh people are fascinating amd deep. That wall of text was both superficial and some of it even negotiable lol. I think more people do prefer personality, which is good news for me!

[RedVulcan]

Mho for asking my opinion😁. Seriously feel like any girls i meet irl don't care at all about what I think or feel.

[Cowboy6666]

I prefer girls which are:
Taller,
Educated,
Confident,
Cheesy/flirty,
Taller hair,
Fairer complexion
Awesome personality.
Having morals,
Simplicity.

In fact if I find that girl anywhere in the world I would offer her for marrying me.

[RedVulcan]

Good on you for giving an actual opinion and not that negative shite I'm getting from a lot of other guys.

[HulkkSmash]

Confidence, ambitious, flirtatious humor. Looks are important for a one night stand but those 3/combined with average face, will make her fall in love with you.

[RedVulcan]

Ambitious? That's a tightrope walk sometimes, don't want to seem creepy. Flirtatious humor is hard due to shady boundaries too, and I also feel that would be more useful towards the one noght stand than the long term relationship.

[HulkkSmash]

You couldn't be more wrong about all of that. Sit down jr

[RedVulcan]

EXPLAIN! I didn't come to this site to not get answers.

[HulkkSmash]

Ambition, women love a man that will prove himself. Confidence, everyone loves self esteem. Humor, who wants to be with a boring guy? Make some jokes, and make them flirtatious if you can.

[RedVulcan]

Huh. Seems fair I guess, but sometimes those are hard for me and not at all part of my personality.

[HulkkSmash]

Do what works for you. Thats what confidence is.

[RedVulcan]

Very well, I will try. Thanks for your helpful input!

[Snarkymalarkey]

5'8" tall, black as night hair and the brightest, sexiest, big green eyes you could imagine😍 Baby spare tire, strong shoulders and arms, Really cute booty😘

Sweetheart describes his personality in a nutshell. He's funny, intelligent understanding, and absolutely disarming when he just smiles because it just radiates the sincerity of his love for me. I can be cornered tiger, ready to maul anyone who looks at me wrong, and all he has to do is smile and say "babe come here and stop all that fussin" and suddenly I'm just a kitten😽
His word is his bond. If he says it, it happens and you can always count on it. He's always there for his friends and he helps as much as he can.

Furthermore he's a stud🍆 He takes love making seriously and brings out the animal in me every time. Even though we didn't click well in bed at the very start, he learned quick and taught me a few things too☺️

And that's the ideal man, the perfect man, the only one for me.

[RedVulcan]

Dayum. Someone's been thinking a lot about this, love your detailed description.

[Snarkymalarkey]

It's easy to think about when I see him every day😁 And especially since I'm wearing the engagement ring he gave me😁😁😁😁

[RedVulcan]

That explains a lot lol, good for you!

[JoyGirl]

**😍 My dream guy 😍**

• I want him to be a good listener.
• I want him to laugh at my jokes, even if some of them are corny. 😊
• I want him to be able to play the same instruments as me, or teach me what instrument he can play.
• I am an outdoor person, so I want him to go fishing with me, and take long walks on the beach with me. I also like to run, so I will like him to be faster than me so that one of my running goals would be to beat him. 😊

• I want him to be kind, sweet, and decent.
• I want him to listen to the same music I listen to, or similar. 😊

[RedVulcan]

Nice. Seems like you know what you want and what you value more.

[PoppyAE]

i think if someone is honestly really kind and sweet its something you can't fake and when they are just so kind that looks dont even matter
But in the looks department, as long as you shower and brush your teeth someone will like you everyone has different taste in looks but no one likes someone who smells.
Confidence is important because if a girl feels that your nervous then they are going to feel nerveous too :) just try to remember their a person just like you and the worst thing they can do is say no.
Lastly, girls dont like pushy guys if they say they dont like you they are probably not going to change their mind
Hope i have helped

[RedVulcan]

Yep, you've helped a bit, although I find my teeth don't become very white no matter how hard I brush lol. I already know about the pushy guys one, I have learned a bit since then. Finally, even if I am nervous such as when speaking in front of a crowd people have told me it doesn't show very much, dunno how it works up close.

[CR3AMS0DA]

In my opinion, you cannot describe your dream guy. It just has to work. I'm sure half of what these girls describe aren't the exact traits of the person they end up with. It's difficult to know what kind of person you will fall in love with and know what kind of person will make you happy. You don't know what you need in your life until you have it.

But for me it comes down to how he makes me feel. That's it. If I feel it I feel it. You just know.

[RedVulcan]

Good. I guess ideally that's what would happen in real life. Would you mind looking at any past experiences and seeing a few similarities between the guys you did like so as to better contribute to the poll? Not saying you haven't, definitely needed a bit of a reality check, but still I think there are some traits an individual likes to go for more in other people.

[CR3AMS0DA]

Fair point.

-humor , make me laugh
-super sweet guys I always fall for (not sure why the douchebag thing attracts certain girls, huge turn off for me)
-honesty (very important to me. My ex hid a lot of things from me, small or big it ruined a lot of trust I had for him)
-manly men (I like to be the feminine one, get back to my primal roots, and makes me feel like we have our roles as a couple)
-loyalty/trust, if you are dedicated and prove yourself right off the bat I am already yours)

[CR3AMS0DA]

-not a baby in bed (yes. Pull my hair please)
-passionate and ambitious, but want to work as a team in that sense (again, my ex was a "complainer" and extremely negative) nothing sexier than setting goals as a couple and working to better yourselves

[RedVulcan]

There we go, something solid and subjective lol! I really like how you mentioned honesty, lying and mindgames for the fun of it are such a huge pain.

[YaBaba]

Olala🙈
Okay

He would be someone modest for outsiders but when he is with me he would be a flirt and whatnot ☺️

Practices his religion which would basically earn him the best character a man can have: decency, kindness, humble and steady heart, faithfulness not just in love and marriage but also in every other things like job, etc,

It would also mean he is not arrogant, always strives to defeat anger before it can control him, is always conscious and alware of things and himself

Ambitious but also family oriented

Adventurous , 😍

Amazing at communication. (Good listener, knows what the audience wants and knows how to speak persuasively but not manipulative Etc

And most important of all he and I would share same values , common interests and goals !

[RedVulcan]

I see, mostly personality and similarities. Would looks have any impact on the decision? Would simply having good values but not necessarily being religious be enough?

[YaBaba]

I would have to feel the attraction whether it comes from looks and personality or just personality.

And I don't know tbh. I prefer if he is religious

[Anonymous]

How he acts with me, but also his personality in general. I love that my boyfriend makes me feel special. We're incredibly close. We tell each other things we've never told anyone else and we're accepting and supportive of one another. Even if its scary or dark things we're thinking or feeling, we're there for each other. I also love that he's a kind person, and polite, and kind of shy and introverted like me

[RedVulcan]

Agh. Heartache. That's exactly what I want, except maybe she should be extroverted while I'm introverted.

[Opinion Owner]

Aw, I hope you find her soon man <3

[PrettyKitty31]

Funny! I LOVE funny guys. If you can make me crack up you're golden. I'm not going to lie and say looks don't matter, any one who says they don't matter at all isn't being truthful, but they do only go so far.

[Cowboy6666]

OK I am taking notes.. 📝

[RedVulcan]

I hope you laugh easily too!

[stereo_heart]

My dream guy:

as for looks or body : i prefer a guy with boyish charm. i don't really like Men , i prefer boy ( not talking about underage ones.. lol) you know someone like logan lerman. Beautiful eyes and cute smile are bonus.

for personality : i would a guy who has a crazy side but only with me. Someone i can talk to , i can prank other people with. Basically my partner in crime. Who is understanding and dependable. someone who is always there for you.

[Anonymous]

When describing my dream guy, unfortunately I would probably describe his looks and specific body parts first. THEN I would describe his personality and it's compatibility with mine. However, when I meet a guy who doesn't look like how I described, I can still find him attractive so I don't know why I even come up with these things...

[RedVulcan]

That's ok. Maybe imagine talking to ypur dreamguy and see what comes up for personality. Also why do you think you describe his looks first?

[Opinion Owner]

I think I describe looks first because as much as I hate to admit it, they are important to me. But I think it's also like if you are presented with two people and one is more attractive, you will be drawn to the more attractive one because you don't know either persons personality yet. So, I guess what I'm saying is that my ideal guy would initially attract me with looks and keep me interested with a personality I like. Sorry it took me so long to respond :P

[RedVulcan]

This isn't a text messgae or something, take as long as you like.
Agree with you also on how your dream partner would attract you with looks first... but I'm just not that picky about my dream girl's looks. They have to be acceptable for me but her personality should be of dreamlike quality (if we're talking absolutely ideal as we are)

[Opinion Owner]

So basically, as long as she is attractive to you that's fine in terms of looks. But for personality, she has to be exactly your ideal type?

[RedVulcan]

Hey, in real life I'll absolutely be cool with a few bad traits or quirks here and there, but this post was about dream partners. Dream partners are perfect and ideal and nonexistent.

[Anonymous]

Tall at least 190 cm, board shoulder and big arms, blonde or light brown, blue or green eyes.
I want him to be manly, able to take care of me and protect me and be good in the things I'm bad at.
Make more money too because I really don't earn a lot only 1000 per month.

[RedVulcan]

Well you're the unicorn on this poll then. You seem to put more importance on his looks from what I see.

[Opinion Owner]

It's just that I can't touch, kiss, etc... someone i'm not attracted to. I also love confident men

[RedVulcan]

Really... you haven't ever been attracted to someone's personality first before his looks? Interesting opinion.

[Opinion Owner]

In a way it's logic because look is what we saw first. personnality you have to wait a lot of know well a person.

[RedVulcan]

You're not wrong, but from my perspective almost every single girl is hot in her own way. Therefore the only way they really distinguish themselves is by their personalities. True you have to wait a lot, but you can get little insights if you know how.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think you really think every girls are hot... Even with good personnality some look like guys...
Personnaly when I see someone at first see I know if I want to be friends or more.

[RedVulcan]

Lol I said "almost", and I care more for personality when going in for a relationship anyway. Yeah, some people are really a sight for sore eyes, but 85% ish of women tome have either a good face or a good body, and then the decision's down to who they are as a person.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm lucky then I have both :)
it's true that in america they have a lot of overweight people so he can be difficult to be attracted by physic.
Personnality is more important than physic but when you decide to go on a date with a guys you need a lot of date to know him well so at first you only judge him by his look.
When I decide to go on a date with someone I want him to be physically attractive because if we're going to go on a lot of date it's better (in my country we can date only one person; first date mean exclusivity)

[RedVulcan]

Wow, really? Like, if you're not satisfied and you break up with him you're considered a slut or something? That's so weird, what country are you from?
And yeah, it does take a while to get to know a person well, but that just means I'd try to be around them a littke before asking them out.

[Opinion Owner]

If I break up with him he ll considered me like a slut like his friends and his family. Guys can't accept that we doesn't want to be with them.
A guy in my class during 6 month ask everyday a girl out after 6 month she said yes because she know he ll not stop. They go on 3 date together then she said she wanted to breakup, he call her a slut, etc... and after (even 2 years after) he and his friends hate her, call her a slut, a whore, etc...
So in my class they were two "clan". and this last all my high school years.
It's in France, French guys are "machos" so when they want a girl they will purse her until she agreed to be their girlfriend and hate her if she break up (even if they doesn't date another guys).

[RedVulcan]

Right. Mental note to stay away from France in the future. Thanks for the input!

[Opinion Owner]

If you go in vacancy all is good but dating it's better to let this to the French between them and the Latin country in general

[Elisa13]

He must put an effort into the relationship, somewhat make me feel special (I dont expect compliments every second but once in a while is nice), sharing a few interests in quite great as well! Oh yeah and he must be #wog hahah

[RedVulcan]

Clicked on the link, nothing showed up :( . What's wog?

[Elisa13]

oh hahah it wasn't supposed to be a link, but wog is slang for European basically!

[lovelywiz]

Dream guy 1.
1. Tall
2. Bald and shiny
3. Strong
4. Smart
5. Wise
https://goo.gl/images/fgvaW7
Dream guy two.
1. Asian
2. Great smile
4. Nice lips
5. Tall
6. Smart
7. Articulate
8. Caring
9. Athletic
https://goo.gl/images/oE1ju7

[lovelywiz]

Dream guy 1.
https://goo.gl/images/ZicSa2
Or like Richard Dawkins
https://goo.gl/images/VOJsv7

[RedVulcan]

Bald. For real? I haven't seen that yet at all lol.
So both of them should be tall and smart. Got it.

[lovelywiz]

Yeah I like it. It seems so... Mature 😉😉

[BackAgain]

The way he acts because I've known some guys who were nice but not towards me so personality depends since some people change around certain people

[RedVulcan]

Very true. How much would looks matter to you?

[BackAgain]

A good amount but I can be forgiving if the guy has an awesome personality

[Afro-dite9]

Dr. Alexander Sweet 😳😍😄 oh SWEET BABY JESUS ! He is so adorable I can't take it in all at once!!! ehhhh minus the whole evil thing he had going on trying to end the world and what not. Other than that yes he is perfect! He is sweet, he has that gent accent, he is a major f**king dork, he play's dirty to get his girl who he is in love with, good looking, pretty smart and weird af! #BAE2016

[AllySmoo]

Not only did you almost perfectly describe me, but you also got my first name as well!

[Afro-dite9]

@AllySmoo haha what a cawinky! The odds are in your favor darling

[AllySmoo]

Hahaha the Gods must have made me, hoping for me to be the very definition of "ladies man" haha

[pooper89]

Kind, has a good job that pays well, isn't controlling or manipulative or abusive, doesn't have tons of friends of the opposite sex, adventurous and not boring, takes care of himself and doesn't have bad eating habits, works out is always a plus, good sense of humor, has self confidence

[RedVulcan]

Aha, finally something about his job. Would it be a deal breaker if he was a student or not ideally employed?

[pooper89]

If you really are 16, I don't think this is something you should really be worrying about. Finish high school and see how you feel. You should figure out what you want to do first, and make sure it's something that'll make you happy. I'm 25 already and let me tell you that it sucks when you work most of your day doing a job that you're not happy with. If you're happy then you'll be successful much easier. If you're successful then you'll be confident and it won't be hard to find someone to date.

If you're 25 and not employed, yes it's a deal breaker unless you're in some special situation.

[RedVulcan]

Everyone on this site seems to at least suspect I'm not 16 lol. And I wasn't really referring to how at 16 it shouldn't matter, but rather to how at 25 I might still be finishing med school or whatever and not have a good financial situation. Is that special?

[pooper89]

yeah

[AviatorTom]

Let me guess what the typical woman would say for her dream guy.

A dream guy...

Attractive, healthy, looks good

Self-confident, well off financially and emotionally

Always puts the woman first

Fantastic lover, woman's orgasm comes first

Wants the same kind of things the woman does, including family and kids

[Anonymous]

Well my boyfriend is my dream guy...
He's really sweet <3
Treats me with respect
Very athletic
Has manners
Listens to me
Ambitious
Smart
Dominant and strong <3
He's about taller than 6'7"
Has a good looking face!

[RedVulcan]

Those were much more focused on the looks than personality. I mean how many people with a girlfriend have sucky manners anyways? Also 6'7 is kinda large for most guys, are you also a taller woman? Just curious :)

[Checkers82]

If he's not a dick. Basically that's all that matters at this point XD

[RedVulcan]

Looked at your profile and was sad that you weren't Canadian lol. Interesting how you're not picky about him at all, why not? It's your dream guy after all, not just someone you'd settle for.

[Checkers82]

I've been screwed around a lot relationship wise. I mean that's not exactly all of what my "dream guy" is like but that's certainly the most important thing these days.

[Hollywood-Glam]

Tall
Jacked
Alpha male
Blue or green eyes
Career oriented/ has a good job
Treats me right
Loyal
Caring
Generous

[RedVulcan]

I see. Would you be willing to compromise more on his physical or personality traits?

[Fearless_banana]

Hnnng.

[Hollywood-Glam]

@Fearless_banana Lol

[Hollywood-Glam]

His personality more

[RedVulcan]

Each to his own. @Fearless_banana lol

[MimiK98]

Well, he must be sweet, adventurous, smart, know how to keep me on my toes, have a calming effect on me and have ambition. Mostly he must treat me wth respect and see me as his equal. I already found my dream guy... he is my boyfriend.

[RedVulcan]

Right then. How about his looks, how much do they matter?

[MimiK98]

Not much. I like men for who they are not the way they look as much. As long as he is decent looking then I am great.