Girls, My girlfriend's TOO playfully aggressive?

[Anonymous]

She's being aggressive in a playful way, but I don't know if it's normal. Usually, I'll make a joke and she'll punch my arm or push me. Sometimes, she'll do it for no reason to mess with me. A few times she has hit me in the crotch jokingly. But is this normal? Do you do this with your boyfriends like this? Should I say something?

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

You need to stop this right now. She actually does it because she wants to touch you but tell her she's being too aggressive and that you don't enjoy it. She will need to hear it a few times before it sinks in.

[Asker]

Okay. Some of my friends have been saying that it's normal tho. They said that girlfriends mess with their boyfriends all the time.

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

You said that she is being aggressive towards you which is the issue not the fact that she wants to playfully hit you. Being playful with each other is quite normal but you used the word "aggressive" which is not normal. If a girl asked the same question, that a guy was being aggressive in a playful way, he would be considered a bit of a jerk. It goes both ways. You're not telling her to stop being playful but just to stop being quite so aggressive with it. There is a differerence.

[Asker]

Ahh I get you. Sorry, it's just that I'm not use to the whole dating thing and all its complexities haha

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

You gotta start somewhere eh? Good luck to you and your girl.

[RedRobin]

Tell her she's too aggressive

[Asker]

But, I mean, it's playful. Does that make a difference?

[RedRobin]

Not really, if you don't like it then she or really needs to know

[Asker]

The only thing that I don't really like that much is the fact that she hits my groin. But I guess it's fine if it's a normal thing girlfriends do to their bfs.

[RedRobin]

If you don't like it then it's not OK, whether or not it's 'normal'. Hitting your bf's groin isn't normal.

[zombiebabe]

she sounds agressive