Girls, do you like when guys can be "vulnerable" sometimes?

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Like I don't mean always whining and all that but like sometimes he needs a shoulder to lean on so he can express himself.

I don't mind

It bothers me

Other

[Dragonflare]

I actually prefer it if guys showed me there more vulnerable times. Just don't come off awkward about it. It kind of makes it creepy for me I don't know why. But with my previous boyfriend he only showed me his vulnerable times whenever I cried but never opened up to me at all so... guys show your feelings to girls and if they don't accept, they don't deserve you.

When I'm with my bestfriend it's different. I love it whenever he opens up. I feel like if a guy should need/want to express himself, he'd probably do it unknowingly (hiding it with a joke) or with his close friend.

[samhradh_leannan]

I like it. Being there for someone emotionally is a very important way to facilitate bonding and trust. I don't WANT my SO to be upset, of course. But if he is, I want to have the chance to talk to him about it and comfort him. I want him to feel comfortable sharing his feelings with me and showing me his vulnerable side.

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Yes I totally agree.

[ebbyeb]

I honestly find it to be super attractive! It's kinda an intimate moment when a guy sorta peels away his protective layers for just a second and shows me another side of him. This goes for all people actually. But I always get extremely intrigued and it sorta pulls me into what they have to show me. I also feel extremely honored when someone goes a bit vulnerable for me. It shows the strength of our bond and how important I am to them. And it's just an overall intimate and touching moment for me. Kinda like a really high compliment!

[ebbyeb]

Thanks for MHO! <3

[Melee]

I don't 'don't mind'
I LOVE IT
You know how guys want to be seen as a tough, unbreakable superhumans?
When guys show their vulnerable side, that means they really trust the girl, and trust me, as a girl, it's the best feeling LOL
No matter how many times a guy is being vulnerable, it doesn't matter, as long as it's the guy whom I like or I care about (like close friends) LOL

[mooky06]

That wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I would hope that he would be comfortable enough around me to do such things.

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Yeah a lot of guys are afraid of coming off as weak as or something. All because of society lol.

[mooky06]

Hopefully guys would feel it's ok based on their situation with the girl

[Flow_like_the_wind]

I'm not entirely sure, but I think most guys had a situation in life where they came off "weak" or "hopeless" when they're vulnerable. Whether it's in front of their parents, siblings, friends or even girlfriend. Then they learned society expects them to be manly men so we keep our emotions to ourselves.

[1truekhaleesi]

I love it. In a relationship, when you show your vulnerability and your partner accepts it, thats where the real intimacy begins. Also, I feel good because I was his shoulder to cry on and I made him feel better.

[fauchelevent]

Of course. I'm not interested in dating someone emotionless, there's little point in dating if you can't be vulnerable with each other.

[Flow_like_the_wind]

I agree with that. I wish more women would openly admit it though.

[Rainie_]

Yes, definitely. It's attractive to me if he's able to express himself. I don't want to date a robot with no feelings.

[Flow_like_the_wind]

A robot lol. Unfortunately that's what a lot of us guys have been told. Apparently we come off as more manly that way.

[Anonymous]

I like that a guy can be open and honest. And even show sensitivity. It means there is trust in the relationship and that he is human!

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Yeah, this whole guys acting like robots thing isn't cool lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly 😂👍🏻

[Flow_like_the_wind]

I mean I don't do it lol but a lot of guys do.

[Pipi769]

Personally, I love it when guys get all vulnerable and emotional :3 it's so cute

[alice55]

No I don't. Why would I be happy if he's sad or have problem?

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Well, I don't mean being happy because he's sad. I mean liking his vulnerability because he's not being overly macho and insensitive.

[alice55]

I don't like it when men show vulnerability, I don't like it when people show it.

[Flow_like_the_wind]

So what do you like?

[alice55]

I prefer when people keep it to themselves and solves their problem alone.

[Flow_like_the_wind]

I can accept that. Is that what you do?

[alice55]

It's what I do too. I don't like showing weakness to people. they can use this against me.

[Flow_like_the_wind]

I can definitely understand how you feel because I hate showing weakness too but I feel it's important to communicate with those you trust and let then know how you feel.

[alice55]

I don't feel the same, I don't want them to see me as weak and I don't either want to see them weak (it make me feel unsafe around them)

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Unsafe how? I mean I can accept that but it shouldn't be looked at as weak. Everyone needs a support system.

[alice55]

I would feel like I can't rely on him if he's vulnerable for things (unless it's the death of his father or something like that)

[Flow_like_the_wind]

You mean like a mugger or burglar or something?

[alice55]

No, not for that. Really only if someone of his family die or if his pet die any other things I wouldn't like it to show weakness.

[writing_essays]

I think it is good for a man to be vulnerable. It would make me feel special that I could go and make them feel valued and loved.

[behappybabe]

To me, it's much better to be vulnerable than to never open up.

[shyramarie1]

not a problem if few times, but if everyday, i would disassociate with him

[gmmcd28]

I love when guys can be vulnerable with me because it means they trust me and trust is important to me.

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Yep, it brings you two closer as well.

[bunanababa]

yes. it's always nice to see men open up and be vulnerable once in a while

[yvette_22]

I don't mind.. that means he trust u.. and its slightly cute. lol

[Kookieminmin]

I don't mind it one bit. To ne it shows that they are human like any other person

[tinkertailor]

Everyone should have the ability to be vulnerable with people they trust and respect

[Anonymous]

I like it when guys show emotion I'm not really a fan of the whole testosterone pumped jock types.

[Flow_like_the_wind]

I don't like acting like that either.

[Analinda1999]

I like it, so you did not put an option for me :)

[Anonymous]

To be honest, it's kinda sweet cause it shows you're special to them.

[deraz24]

I don't mind it's cool when someone opens up to me

[beebella]

I love it. It shows that he can be honest with me.

[Anonymous]

I usually like such guys.

[Theresao]

I think it's cute

[yoshi_wanna_ask]

LOVE IT!

[elly91]

yes...😊

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Haha nice. What do you like about it?

[elly91]

well its got something to do with the fact that your building a friendship. ... so you know he trusts you and co sequently you feel you can trust him in return and it proves that he is human with feelings and concerns just like me...😊

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Great answer. Being able to trust someone is huge. And trust brings you closer. For everyone I felt a distant connection with its because I couldn't trust them like that.

[elly91]

glad we agree...😊

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Yep haha.

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Do you usually use the smiley emoji after every comment? Just a little pattern I picked up lol.

[elly91]

most of the time Yes... I am a very positive person and i smile all the time... so when i give answers on here i always finish with a smiley face because its as if i were talking in person and consequently if i were with whoever posts the question id be smiling... im quite an expressive kind of person...😊

[Flow_like_the_wind]

That's really cool! So that means if we were talking in person you'd be smiling haha. I try to speak to people on here the same I would reply if if we're talking face to face. It feels more realistic.

[elly91]

Yes i would... and thanks! i agree.. 😊

[Flow_like_the_wind]

Ah cool haha. I would too. And you're welcome.

[confusedgirlxox]

Of course

[Jessicocoa]

Yeah, I like that.