Girls, do you like men who share their vulnerable side with you?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They SAY they do, but I haven't met one who liked it.

I'm not really a "barf out my feelings" type of guy.

I ended up with some physical pain, and a lot of issues I won't get into... so some days are rougher than others, and this has been a rough time in my life.

I have said "I'm managing... and sometimes managing is good enough" (trying to be more positive with a bad situation) with some friends; and they don't act like they care or they want to hear it... they don't like it. Then if I just say "fine" with nothing else for a while... they're like "I thought you were feeling great and not having any issues!" (Yeah, because you acted like you didn't want to know! You got weird about it, like you thought I was giving WAAAAY too much info). I believe in being at least fairly honest. I'm not going to say "Hey, I feel absolutely great!" When I am feeling horrible. But I still think I try to put a sort of positive spin on a bad situation.

That's also assuming they don't try to use it against me; either by using it in an argument or a way to try to win (even if there's no fighting) or use it for gaslighting (like many in my family).

I try to learn quickly that if someone can't handle it, I don't give them more ammo. I have had girls do this stuff time and time again for all they said they want more vulnerability... maybe they just mean so that it gives them more power if they can use it against me.

Unit1 · Accepted Answer

No, they can't stand it. Show me a man, who is in touch with his emotions, that has a serious girlfriend.

whyshedoingthis · Accepted Answer

A definite yes. I want a guy who is able to tell me how he feels. If you and I are in a relationship, I want you to be able to open up to me and not feel as though I will discriminate against you just because you are human and have feelings just like everyone else. I believe that being vulnerable is part of a healthy relationship, as knowing your partner's problems will help you on your relationship journey and in future relationships. The thing is, I don't want a guy who can't hold himself up on his own. He needs to be able to be vulnerable, but not enough so that I have to carry him in my arms. Overall, yes, I do like guys who can be vulnerable.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I am not close enough to men (or to women) to allow them to express or to confess their feelings with me. This would mean that I am too close for my comfort to a person that I do not wish to be with.

But in general, being vulnerable has also its positive sides as it gives a good picture of what a person is really like and that this person is not hiding his feeling just because what society expects from that gender or that person.

Everyone has his/her weakness and as long as nobody takes advantages of those weaknesses, it is okay to share them with those that care, not with everyone.

LeatherDame · Answer

As long as it’s genuine and not being used to bait me into something (the pity me, now here’s my penis approach is pretty cringe), then it’s not just important it’s mandatory if we are going to have any kind of relationship beyond a casual friendship or coworker.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Lol I love how red pilled these comments always are.. instead of considering maybe men have shit taste in woman, mainly because they chase looks and not personality.. it's always "women hate vulnerable guys", when in reality it's like no you just chase trash woman who are stuck on themselves and don't even like you.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes!! I think men who can open up to show their vulnerable side are sexy. Being open with your love, affection and emotional needs doesn’t make you any less manly. Just as long as you know when to “act tough” and when to be vulnerable. Of course no one likes an emotional cry baby though.

Laciejordan · Answer

To a certain point, definitely. If something is bothering him, I want him to let me know but I also don't want him to be constantly whining about everything lol That's my job. But yes, make your feelings known to me.

Katebfun · Answer

100% Yes please. My previous partner was vulnerable, open and expressive. It's truly a strength not weakness when another has the courage to be vulnerable.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally, yes. My current partner cried the morning after a night out.

He had told me about having been assaulted by a friend he trusted. It broke my heart seeing him cry but it made me appreciate and care for him more. He trusted me enough to be that vulnerable with me. And I could tell it was something that was weighing him down.

MemeSupreme · Answer

i like stable guys you can vent and open up but still be able to cope with life you know? doesn't mean you gotta be like perfect but extremes on both ends is no good

Radiate143 · Answer

Yes, as long as it isn't right in the beginning to create false intimacy as a strategy to get me into bed quickly. And whatever other manner of manipulation.

Anonymous · Answer

actions speak louder than words Jordan Peterson showed out his emotions before and feminists couldn't wait to make fun of him and question his manhood despite his authenticity

SolitarySolace · Answer

Men who share their vulnerable side to their partner will only be giving her something to use against him in the future if she hasn’t already found a new man before then.

genericname85 · Answer

try and share a vulnerability with a girl. she'll use it to stab you in the back next time they're mad at you. bad idea.

Countrygirl777 · Answer

Yes but I wish it was a true man and not someone that just wants ur money

Emmytexrex · Answer

I am not too vulnerable to that extent though not that I can't

Chthou95 · Answer

Of course most women will say yes. You have to pay attention to actions

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Only a fool opens up to his woman.

serafin · Answer

yeah of course

12karen · Answer

if we are close enough, of course

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

I like honest men.

Anonymous · Answer

Only so they can know his weaknesses.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

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