Girls, why do some of you give us guys mixed signals?

[Alkimo206]

Just a guy wanting to understand the female mind

[tigerlilli]

because our brains are naturally multi-process thinking, we can send mixed signals. If we are shy, we are trying to not show our attraction to you, and are worried that if it is not reciprocated, we will be turned down. EMBARESSING!!! Subconsciously we really like you and wish that you would just show you like us too. So our mixed signals could be coming out that we are not interested, but we really are, and so we show we are attracted to you. It is difficult however when you factor in "personlity types" and "cultural differences". For example, if she is extra spunky, extra smiley, and flirty with EVERYONE, then you know that is how she normally is. But if she treats you differently than everyone else, you know she most likely likes you. For my culture, (brazilian) we are "naturally flirtatious" according to American customs. So we are very happy, smiley, giggly, and social creatures. We kiss men and woman on the cheeks and are slightly suggestive. So it is hard when brazilians are flirting because there really is no difference bewtween how we normally are and flirting in American style. Hope that helps!

[EmoKate97]

Because i want you to make your interest in my obvious. This is where the most attractive feature in a guy, confidence comes in. You're expected to overcome my "mixed singles" like a knight and charm me without coming off as too needy or desperate. If i send a guy mixed singles its because i'm not sure of him, and i'm not sure because he's not showing me interest and charming me so i don't know what he's about so i get "mixed" feelings.

That said if a guy has baggage like he's been to prison or he's in massive dept but i like his personality my "mixed" feelings are more me thinking about if i really think he's good for me..

[Alkimo206]

I confess, I asked this question to figure out why a girl in my life is giving me mixed signals. Good friends, just can't read her.
I think basically what you stated is the case... I have baggage that probably stops her from being forward. My possessive ex - my ex recently found out I slept with her and this caused her to rampage my house and threaten her.

[EmoKate97]

>my ex recently found out I slept with her and this caused her to rampage my house and threaten her
Sorry but i don't believe your story. You slept with her but you're getting mixed singles? Gtfo with that shit and just go show your friend a good time and establish subtle touch to your relationship.

[Alkimo206]

We are good friends. She's hot and cold with my socially and sexually

[arealgirl100]

As a shyer girl, I give mixed signals bc I am following HIS lead, and if he doesn't look at me, etc one day, I start to feel too vulnerable, therefore my signals will flatline until he encourages me again. Also, I may give mixed signals to 'play with' a guy, as many girls think guys value playfulness most in a woman. Often, I realize that the mixed signals discourage guys, but in the moment I let the first reasons cloud my judgement and act that way anyway. Also, I highly respect myself and believe that I am an interesting, pretty, valuable woman. Therefore, sometimes I may give mixed signals to see which guy really wants to pursue me. This form of 'self-respect' almost always backfires, as very few guys will chase a girl without the 100% green light on her part--but I justify it to myself as having a high level of self-worth and respect. Sorry guys--I'm working on it, but am so scared to appear easy or desperate, that it's slow going.. :P

[BuchitaBuchys]

Because most of the time they're not mixed x you're just twisting them. Like I could be nice to a dude and then he'll think I'm interested in him. He asks me out, I reject him, and he's confused about my "indecisiveness" or "mixed signals", when in reality there wasn't anything ever there to begin with but mere kindness or manners, yet he chose to see it that way.

[Alkimo206]

Yea I talked to the girl giving mixed signals. She does like me she just wasn't sure if she wanted something more.

[lalaland15]

My honest suggestion don't waste your time in reading between the lines. If you like her TELL HER.

Best case: She likes you as well and you guys go out on a date

Worst case: She dosnt feel the same way you feel bad in the beginning and eventually move on. Better than being confused.

And there is a third case as well she gives a vague response with no clarity BACK OUT immediately trust me she is just stringing you along and that makes her NOT WORTH IT. once you start backing off she might come to you and try confuse you again beat her in her own game.

[Anonymous]

For me, it's either because I'm not sure about my feelings towards the guy, or I'm not sure about how the guy feels towards me. I wouldn't want to make it obvious I like a guy only to find out he doesn't feel the same, so I'd test the waters and see how he reacts to different behaviours

[nevertoosure]

I totally agree with this

[Alkimo206]

That is the most maturest answer I've ever had from anyone on GAG who is under 18.
You're going to go far young one.

As most questions asked, yea this is relating to me with a girl giving me mixed signals. She'll have on and off flashes with me, although she never ignores my texts or when I talk to her, her answers/replies are more blunt and distant.

We've slept together for a few months now and shared my bed often and again she'll be having hot and cold for me. One minute she's touching me, smiling at me and the next she'll shuffle off and have her back towards me.

Was on phone to her morning and thought to trick her into answering the question.
Me: "so my ex is getting on my nerves again I'm sick of her mixed signals why do you women do this?"
Her: "if it were me it would be because I have complex and conflicted feelings for the guy"
Me: "so would you girls be aware you're giving us mixed signals?"
Her: "for me no, I don't do it intentionally knowing but I can't speak for others

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you I'm 13 haha. And congrats on sneaking the answers out of her

[Opinion Owner]

I put myself as anon because I thought no one would listen to me if they saw I was 13😂😂

[vishna]

I think a lot of times, guys can't read my signals or choose to believe the best situation for them ex) Meets girl, talk. She told me she has a boyfriend. She keeps calling me her friend. But she asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with her and all her friends. She must be into me...-_- like, ok, it makes it impossible sometimes to find a guy who is down with just being friends or who can read signs correctly.

[Girlsaskguys_user]

Some give mixed signals as they aren't ready for a relationship, or aren't sure if they're attracted to you, aren't sure what they want or have heard some things about you that caused them to lose interest.

[depeche2015]

Girls like to feel wanted and sometimes when a guy doesn't show much attention it makes us feel unwanted

[brainybrunette46]

We are confusing as shit and I don't understand myself half the time😂

[Anonymous]

What kind of signal? Because sometimes i am so confused about the signal boy gives me too. and maybe you and the girl are in the same stage where you both confused, get what i mean?

[Audreyjane]

Sometimes we think we like you, or you might be are second choice in guys.

[merlee5963]

emotional immaturity most likely. also depends on what you consider "mixed signals," as a lot of people misuse the term because they can't differentiate when someone is just trying to be nice vs when someone is flirting.

[ayerithsky]

That goes for both genders. Men play that mind game too. Unfortunately, that's how the dating world is now.

[newiy]

I am a bit shy.. and personally does not like being chased by guys. So as a result I don't explicitly 'chase' the guys I like myself...(?) Sometimes I do regret that I acted as if I didn't care though.

[candyaurora]

Yeah I would like to ask the same thing from you guys

[sweetlivy]

Same!

[Anonymous]

because we are shy and we dont know if you like us.

[Anonymous]

cause we can. or we are not sure if you are good enough

[kitty71]

Men do that too , you know!! Is not just women.

[Anonymous]

Tbh guys are confusing to at times. But yee

[nimbus24]

Hey you guys do the same.

[Anonymous]

Same reasons men give us mixed signals.